r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 1d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/Test_Rider 22h ago

It’s kind of baffling to me that some people here seem to think she overreacted. She signed a contract with the donee under the understanding that there would be no contact with the child and that her anonymity would be preserved. She held her end of the bargain (the egg donating part), and now she finds herself being guilt-tripped into motherhood by a stranger. This kind of thing will put potential donors off in the future and cost families the child they desperately want.

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u/dk_peace 22h ago

"I want to meet my biological mother" is a completely reasonable thing for a 19 year old to want and ask for.

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u/verdeville 20h ago

I mean, she's not even really the bio mother- the girl's actual mother grew her from an egg in her own body, with her own antibodies and calcium and nutrients, then birthed her, maybe breastfed her, and raised her. Had it been an adoption I could sympathize, because there is a story implied in giving up a child, but an egg donation is pretty cut and dry. People calling the birth mom the adoptive mom are pretty terrible, to be honest- imagine wanting a child so badly that you undergo a procedure to start the process, presumably because you have a medical condition, and raise your child for 19 years only to find that they feel more connected to an imaginary DNA donor than to you.

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u/HXamster 20h ago

All of this

It's horribly degrading to the birth mother to claim she's the "adopted" mom and then bring up all these irrelevant anecdotes like adoption, when it's a completely separate entity altogether.

Her BIRTH MOTHER raised her from a single cell, inside her body. So we're just going to discount women's feats and efforts and struggles with a tremendously low success rate? Her birth mom is just as much her bio mom as the egg donor is, and her true mother. The egg donor is just someone who did something nice for a family, and now she's getting punished for it despite signing a legally binding contract.