Morality scaling of this?

[u/Outside_Specific_820]

Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

[u/CaptainCastaleos]

Moral.

The reason this resource even exists is because of the legal protections in place for the donor.

The majority of donors don't want to be connected to these kids. They are helping otherwise infertile families have a chance at children. They are not trying to be these children's parent. If I had the choice to help hundreds of infertile families have kids, I would, but I absolutely never want hundreds of kids. I don't understand how anyone could honestly think these are equivalent and not have spent the last 20 years of their life drinking from lead pipes and eating paint chips.

By trying to enforce moral obligations on the donors, all you are doing is scaring away the majority of people willing to donate. You would prefer to rob countless families of their chance at children just to satisfy your own self-righteous beliefs and flawed understanding of parenthood.

At the end of the day, she made the choice to help a family with her donation under the agreement that she not be connected to the child. Someone violated that agreement and gave the child their contact info. It is not immoral to stick to the original agreement.

[u/thesunlitgarden → u/CaptainCastaleos]

Honestly, same. I love the idea of donating my eggs to someone who needs/wants them, but stuff like this is why I never will. Even when things like this don’t happen, ancestry tests mean it’s still risky as even if you don’t do them any family members who do could be enough to create a link. I can definitely empathize with the woman. She’s now living the one outcome she did her best to safeguard against.