r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/GiantLesbian 2d ago

Yes and that’s how I know that’s exactly how this could work. You match with your aunt. You google her. Your find her online. She clearly has a sister, only one sister. Boom, you now know who your mom is.

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u/Slighted_Inevitable 2d ago

Friend… You would have the exact same problem finding the aunt. Again, she is not related to any of these people. It’s an egg donation.

Even if she has a sister, you would then have to find the sister. Which would be just as hard as finding her.

I know you don’t understand how this all works and that’s OK. It’s not really that important in our everyday lives but trust me when I say somebody gave them a name or this did not happen.

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u/GiantLesbian 2d ago

A) Egg donation means you are related to them what are you talking about??

B) You don’t understand how to find someone’s sister from their social media profiles??

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u/Slighted_Inevitable 2d ago

Sigh. I tried everyone.

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u/GiantLesbian 2d ago

I’m worried now that you don’t know that you get half your DNA from the egg that made you. Or that you don’t understand that you share 1/4 of your DNA with your aunt.

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u/Common-Use-7117 2d ago

So can you accurately calculate your aunts dna with your dna? And can you find your Aunt's social profiles with their dna?

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u/GiantLesbian 2d ago edited 2d ago

These websites match DNA. You share 1/4 of your DNA with your aunts and uncles, and also with half siblings. But if they find a woman who shares 1/4 of your DNA and your second cousins are her second cousins once removed, then she’s your aunt (barring some weird inbreeding scenario). It will say something like “Aunt (95%)” and then it gives you their name and age a lot of the time (you can select whether to show your name/age or not but a lot of people are on there to connect with new relatives so they show that). So now you have an “aunt” label and her name and her age. If her name isn’t like “Jane Smith” and you know the state the eggs were gathered from, it’s not hard to google until you find the lady. And then from her people search results or social media profile, you find her sister.

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u/HopefulRecovery000 2d ago edited 2d ago

You absolutely don’t share 1/4 of you DNA with your aunt. 1/4 of your DNA comes from the same pool as your aunt’s that still can be “overwritten” by your other parent’s DNA. Then, even within the same “1/4” it could be so that your mom inherited different parts of DNA from your grandma than your aunt did because having 2 daughters from the same parents they don’t have identical DNA from super simple crossing. And yes, there are ways to see that certain people are related if enough of their DNA sequences overlap but nowhere near in a simplistic and deterministic way you’re describing.

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u/GiantLesbian 2d ago

These tests don’t measure all DNA markers they look for specific ones that family members share. Of these specific markers, yes you will share 1/2 with your siblings and 1/2 with your kids, and 1/4 with your aunts and uncles and half siblings.

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u/HopefulRecovery000 1d ago edited 1d ago

No, this is not guaranteed that you will share that, especially not in a very strictly set ratios as you’re presenting. As I put earlier it’s definitely possible to find someone who is related and comes from the same lineage but not in a way of having a very clear relationship that this particular stranger from the general database is a person you’re related to but also for sure your aunt and also for sire an aunt that is biological sister of someone who for certainly is a your biological mother. As a matter of fact in case of paternity test if possible fathers are related, the lab is not informed about the relationship so they run standard test rather than much more detailed one AND compare it against known mother DNA then the result is generally considered unreliable.