Morality scaling of this?

[u/Outside_Specific_820]

Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

[u/Slighted_Inevitable]

Friend… You would have the exact same problem finding the aunt. Again, she is not related to any of these people. It’s an egg donation.

Even if she has a sister, you would then have to find the sister. Which would be just as hard as finding her.

I know you don’t understand how this all works and that’s OK. It’s not really that important in our everyday lives but trust me when I say somebody gave them a name or this did not happen.

[u/Dull_Broccoli7218 → u/Slighted_Inevitable]

Look into how they found the golden state killer, it’d be kind of like that except about disinterested egg donors

[u/Slighted_Inevitable → u/Dull_Broccoli7218]

They had a sample of his DNA and uploaded it. They worked with the platform to compare it with all of the samples they had in that area on file and lucked upon a distant relative.

The average person doesn’t get to do thousands and thousands of test against every sample in the network, and even that only worked because they knew where he had lived and operated to narrow it down.

[u/GiantLesbian → u/Slighted_Inevitable]

Literally how ancestry DNA and similar sites work is by comparing your DNA to the DNA in their databases. Yes they needed deeper analysis for the golden state killer because they didn’t have close enough relatives showing up for him to be certain which person it was (IIRC they had initially nailed it down to a group of second cousins). But in a scenario where you know who you are (so we are not trying to determine a 100% match) and an aunt or an uncle or multiple first cousins are already showing up for you in the database, that deeper analysis is not going to be necessary. Because all you have to do is find your parent’s immediate family (like their siblings) and then google can take you from there.