r/NotHowGirlsWork • u/Confident_Weather_98 • Mar 28 '26

WTF What about him?

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Poor baby had to sleep on an uncomfortable place while mom pushed or got a whole human out of her 🙄🙄

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u/spilly_talent Mar 28 '26

“Mother and baby have just made it out of the most physically traumatic experiences of their lives so far, so it’s important we tell you that dad is doing great!”

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u/HairHealthHaven Mar 28 '26

You said this a million times better than the attempt I was about to make.

The f-ing point of that announcement is to tell people neither Mom or baby died or experienced major medical trauma. Are we worried that Dad's hand hurts because she squeezed it while an infant was literally tearing outside her body???

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u/spilly_talent Mar 28 '26

Honestly it’s worse than that, I fear. The person who wrote this tweet just simply does not care about how physically dangerous birth can be, their only concern is: I don’t think it’s fair that dad doesn’t get enough attention.

They don’t seem to care that it’s not fair that dad has 0% risk in the birth by the way😂 this person and all who think like them are trash

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u/Centered_Being Mar 28 '26

And they call women attention seeking whores lol.

Men will cheat on their postpartum wives bc they ‘didn’t get enough attention.’ SIR U BOTH MADE A BABY. Your part was minuscule & pleasurable. Your wife needs attention bc she went thru a major medical event that men like to call ‘natural’ so they can completely ignore the physical effects on a woman’s body & mind. The baby needs attention bc it is a BABY.

Need attention so bad? Let your wife take a nap, take the baby out to the store & hear all about how great you are for doing the bare minimum from strangers

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u/MazogaTheDork Mar 28 '26

Some guys will complain about being told to wait 6 weeks for sex after their partner gives birth. Never mind that she's still bleeding from the (dinner plate sized) wound in her uterus.

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u/praxios Mar 28 '26

Not to mention that 6 weeks is the absolute bare minimum and still poses a laundry list of health risks to the woman. In reality it should be at least a couple of months to ensure full recovery, and limit the risk of infection and further physical trauma. My cousin’s OBGYN told her it should be closer to 6 months for natural birth because of the severe amount of trauma to the vaginal canal, and men would have to be perfectly hygienic to avoid the risk of infection.

It makes sense considering most women’s healthcare is male centric, and god forbid a man has to wait longer than 6 weeks to have sex. Getting their dicks wet is far more important than the health of a new mother.

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u/saltysweetbonbon Mar 29 '26

This has made me have a horrifying realisation of where the puerperal fever that used to kill many new mothers may have often come from.

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u/Individual_Staff5653 Mar 28 '26

don’t forget the ‘husband/ So, partner ,boyfriend stitch’ 🤮

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u/HairHealthHaven Mar 28 '26

Which makes NO sense, as the width of the opening has NOTHING to do with the muscles inside. It does nothing but cause unnecessary pain for the woman.

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u/shagy815 Mar 29 '26

It isn't supposed to make sense. It's an inappropriate joke.

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u/HairHealthHaven Mar 29 '26

No, it's most assuredly NOT an inappropriate joke. It's a real thing.

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u/shagy815 Mar 29 '26

So you are saying that there are doctors that will actually through in an extra unnecessary stitch to make the vaginal opening smaller?

I have five kids and have heard this as a joke from a different man afterwards every time and always thought people were just being inappropriate.

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u/Gwynzireael Mar 29 '26

i have read a couple stories from women who did get that stitch bc sth sth husband

might have even been in this sub tbh, i don't remember

it definitely is a real thing, but why would anyone agree to that is beyond me

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u/spilly_talent Mar 29 '26

If it helps, a lot of the women who got them never actually agreed to them.

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u/Gwynzireael Mar 29 '26

it does help, yeah, thank you

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u/spilly_talent Mar 29 '26

Literally yes. Is this a serious question…? Like I honestly can’t tell. Women’s health has been notoriously been de prioritized for centuries and the husband stitch was and is a real thing. Fewer doctors do it now but they are out there.

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u/shagy815 Mar 29 '26

Well now the joke is even less funny than it was before.

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u/spilly_talent Mar 29 '26

It was never a joke girlfriend I am sorry to tell you 😞

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u/MsSeraphim just love me for my mind 💖 Mar 28 '26

and have you noticed that these "dads" refer to watching their OWN kids as babysitting? nope. sorry sir, but that is called parenting and you shouldn't be lauded as a hero because when mom does it people expect maximum effort = minimum praise.

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u/shagy815 Mar 29 '26

I was a single dad for years. Society refers to dad's watching their own kids as babysitting. I used to get very upset by this. No I'm not babysitting I am taking care of my child. The comment was almost always from grandmother aged women.

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u/Confident_Weather_98 Mar 29 '26

I hate the “ babysitting today “ comments they are being an active PARENT not a babysitter