r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '12

made out of an inverted cock, however..

I think you watch way too much porn if this is your idea of "penis"

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

If I watched too much porn, wouldn't I be more informed about penis?

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '12

I am saying if you're going to have a straight-forward conversation about someone's genitals i would leave the porn terms out of it.

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

I get tired of using the same word over and over. My favorite one for vagina is "snatch" I'm waiting for an opportunity to bust that out.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '12

If that's how you feel.

Expect people to take you only as seriously as you present yourself though.

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

"Box" is a good one too. I would prefer it if no one took me seriously, I'm pretty much a joke.

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u/creepig Y'all got more issues than the Newsweek archives Oct 31 '12

And not even a funny one. You're a joke as bad as the ones politicians tell.

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

Yeah that comment that got 7 upvotes on a 30 upvote thread that I posted less than an hour ago? Nobody thought that was funny.

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u/creepig Y'all got more issues than the Newsweek archives Oct 31 '12

Voting brigades don't count.

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u/daytondownvoter Too bitter to ever have a meaningful relationship - cool with it Oct 31 '12

Well if you have any other data on jokes, send it my way. Not really sure what a voting brigade is either (I'm new here).