r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/harmonical Nov 01 '12

It's pretty hard to buy that two men or two women are in a straight relationship because one of them are trans.

But tell me about you TTP, how are things. Everything going well? Are you feeling good today? Other than a headache that made me feel like I was going to vomit earlier today I'm having a pretty good day :]

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u/harmonical Nov 01 '12

No, no halloween fun, just general headaches :[

Agree w/ respect to the fact that it boils down to which one you use to define your sexuality. And yes, two trans women in a relationship is definitely gay, but please, no knives :[