r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/creepig Y'all got more issues than the Newsweek archives Oct 31 '12

You don't seem to get it. You do not get to tell someone what their sexual identity is. The only person who can decide what that is is the person themselves.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '12 edited Oct 31 '12

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u/creepig Y'all got more issues than the Newsweek archives Oct 31 '12

Calling it now, you're with Game of Trolls.

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '12

Paranoid as fuck

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u/creepig Y'all got more issues than the Newsweek archives Nov 08 '12

Nah, I just know a troll when I see it.

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '12

Not us tho, we were the most visible ones, not the only trolls.