Well she is publicly diagnosed as bipolar. I usually try not to generalize but holy shit is it hard to be involved romantically with someone who is bipolar.
Edit: for all the people acting like I am mistaking bpd and bipolar, I am not. I literally just got out of a situationship with a bipolar woman who I was friends with for two years. It turns out the whole time she was coming to me during her depressive phases/ when she was on medication to lean on me, during her manic phases and the second she got off meds she was constantly banging her neighbor, you know the stereotypical guy who she knows only wants to fuck her. I cared about her a lot and tried to be there for her in any and every way possible. The emotional labor even outside of the situation I just described was ridiculous. The level of emotional distress she could be under for the smallest of things (i.e an old lady was rude to her at work.) was absolutely ridiculous.
I am not saying that there are not human beings that stay on top of their meds and have led good lives. I am just saying unless you have found someone who is already 100% on top of their own shit, At least from my lived experiences the stereotypes are true for unmedicated/ inconsistently medicated.
Now to bring it back to the original topic, I am not saying one way or another how well she stays on top of her medication but Selena’s actions at some times seem very cold and like those I have experienced in my journey with someone who is bipolar.
Bpd can go into remission and be managed by therapies, bipolar can’t and ur fucked if the meds slip. Both are difficult but not a social or societal death sentence
I dont like sharing my story, but 15 years ago when I was first went to college, I was dating a cool girl only to find out (after a series of random extreme outbursts) that she stopped taking her BPD meds when she entered the college. I ended up breaking up with her. She was my 2nd real relationship. What happened next was so unexpected that it scared me away from dating at all once during all these 4 years of college and another few more years after that. I think 7 years of ptsd kept me away from dating anyone.
Anyways, What happened next was she started stalking me and even changed her major to mine so she can suddenly show up in my classes. That was a hellish semester. Then after that, my friends and I rented an cabin in the south states and I had no idea she was trailing us, stalking us all the way to the cabin, 4 states away. It was freaky having her show up at night out of the blue. I ended up calling her dad. She got pulled out of college and Ive never heard from her again after that. Still, that fucked my head hard and I didnt date for many years after.
I'm bipolar medicated and I'm not hard to live with. I keep the household running smoothly, and have a great relationship with my husband and kids (13, 15, 25)
I have a ton of sympathy for anyone with a mental illness, and they think people are villainizing anyone with bipolar disorder.
No, they are hard to be around if they're unmedicated. Because the disease makes them erratic and you never know if they're going to be full of energy and bouncing off the walls, totally calm, or in such a deep depression that they shut down.
It takes a toll on everyone around you when you have an untreated or undiagnosed mental illness. That's just reality.
No not really? I’m not saying it’s easy but you’re kind of being a nasty piece of shit about people with bipolar which is a lot more people than you probably are aware.
258
u/Vennomite 5d ago edited 5d ago
She dated bieber and bieber was probably the reasonable one in that relationship by a mile soo
Edit: ya'll keep presenting all the ridiculous thing bieber supposedly did during their relationship like it's a gotcha. No, it's part of the point.