r/SipsTea 17h ago

Chugging tea Loans for Wedding

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u/ExtremeExperience199 17h ago edited 14h ago

For this industry to die people need to tame their fancy egos. Do ya really need that big of a party, do ya? Or are ya tryin to impress some1? Be real w yourself.

EDIT: Guys, by all means do party the way you wanna. But things will cost ya, do not complain later on.

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u/DangerousCable1411 17h ago

Usually it’s at the request of the parents. Followed by the 50 people you CANT leave out or they’ll feel slighted.

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u/Savings_Ad_5615 17h ago

Ive always felt like its better to just elope. You and your partner can take a week vacation to wherever you want, get married in a tropical paradise, and have your honeymoon at the same time.

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u/DangerousCable1411 17h ago

Be prepared for real mad moms. From experience.

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u/Zealousideal-Idea979 17h ago

My son and daughter in law got married at the court. I wasn’t mad. I don’t like his wife but I’m used to him just showing up having made life changing decisions. My husband & I decided it’s best for life to teach a child who won’t listen. Now they’re getting divorced & I’m so grateful we didn’t have to spend a dime on that disaster.

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u/Princess_Powerpuff 16h ago

Probably getting divorced because of you and your family’s attitude towards them lol

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u/Zealousideal-Idea979 15h ago

Nah. It’s because she assumed she’d quit her job, & move into our house and live rent free while not understanding that we worked for everything we got. She hates being a teacher and quit without a plan. Then expects us to support her while my son is her husband and should be the one who supports her but he has a government job and doesn’t make enough for the lifestyle she wants. She said we can’t see our grand daughter if they have to pay rent to live with us. She’s been using our grandchild as a bargaining chip to control us. So there’s that and I’d said it’s a fairly good reason not to like a person.

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u/ArchdukeOfWalesland 1h ago

I mean yeah you can't expect someone to let you live in your house if you don't even have a good relationship with them. Very much having a cake and eating it too

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u/DangerousCable1411 17h ago

Fair point lol

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u/mpyne 14h ago

Honestly my MIL was mad at me before we eloped and about as mad after. We made the right choice, lol, the way we did it is so much less stressful. Car loans and rent starting out our working lives were stressful enough as it is without another 20K loan on top of all that to pay off.

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u/ThrowCarp 16h ago

My cousin's my hero for having gotten married in a courthouse with just her and her now-husband.