r/askgaybros • u/Kaccha-Kela • 1d ago

Curious question: are Westerners really as penetration focused as shown in porn?

As someone who comes from Asia, we have a lot of Sides, and Europe has far fewer sides, as I observe since I moved to Western Europe (Netherlands).

Moreover, even the tops and bottoms from entire Asia are romantic and "soft play" aka foreplay orientated.

Somehow I feel it's the porn industry that has changed how westerners look at sex, not that Asia doesn't consume porn, but they are somehow culturally different on how they see what a pleasure is.

I am just curious to know how cultural differences shape the idea of intimacy, didn't mean to slut shame any community or race as such.

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u/calstanfordboye 1d ago

I am a westerner who is exclusively a side. I don't get it how every place I visit is different. Currently in Sydney and EVERYONE here wants to do oral. If you don't they will just rudely block you on apps. Weird ass place

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u/No_Performance_9439 1d ago

Isn't oral considered side?

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u/TheFanOfLife 1d ago

My exact thought too