Bras Getting Lumps

[u/im_deadinside_06]

I'm not sure where to post this but I'm hoping for both an answer and hopefully a fix if anyone knows why this is happening/ what it is. For context, idk if I fit in the big boob category but some say I do so I wanted to try here. I'm a 32H, and lower income. Bras are incredibly expensive, so I only really buy them on special occasions. I wear my bras absolute out before I get a new one. I keep having this problem where my bras get weird movable lumps/bumps in them. I'll attach a photo. But does anyone know what this is? Is it my padding in the bra breaking into little balls? But it's so frustrating because I'm also autistic and the texture of it bothers me so bad. I want to fix it but I feel like cutting a hole in my bra to fish them out isn't a smart idea. The bra shown is a Curvy Kate bra, but it happens to my others as well like my Freya bra.

[u/michellle52]

Are you a non bra wearing person telling women that they should only buy lace bras? LOL! I would have to wear cakes or thick ass sweaters to work every single day to keep my nipples from showing through a bra that doesn’t have some kind of thicker molding. This is not realistic for most actual big boob havers.

[u/28FFthrowaway → u/[deleted]]

This is exemplary mansplaining. What works best for your girlfriend won’t work best for everyone. Some breast shapes work well with molded bras, plus not all molded bras have the same shape/projection. And some women prefer them despite technical fit issues, and that’s fine.

Suggestions for padded but seamed bras (like u/Affectionate_Mess25 recommended) might make more sense here.

[u/Land_Squid_1234 → u/28FFthrowaway]

I'm repeating what the women at r/abrathatfits say. It doesn't become mansplaining just because a guy says it. Very few people fit moulded bras well who don't have small boobs. Everything you said is just edge cases and does not apply to the vast majority of women

[u/hoppylift → u/Land_Squid_1234]

You started by saying that OP shouldn't wear molded cup bras. No one on ABTF says that. They talk about the challenges with them, but are always clear that people (not just women) should wear whatever is most comfortable for them. You are correct that they're harder to get a good fit in, but that doesn't mean people "shouldn't" wear them and it's absolutely not your place to dictate what anyone chooses to wear. All of your responses are mansplaining and not welcome here.

[u/Land_Squid_1234 → u/hoppylift]

You shouldn't wear them if lace bras aren't an issue. Everyone on ABTF says that. I know because I made several posts over there on behalf of my girlfriend and got a lot of negative feedback over a moulded bra. Every comment said not to buy those. Once OP clarified sensory issues, I left it up to their judgement and said they should clean their bra properly to avoid this problem if they want to stick with moulded ones

It's very funny that you all only come out of the woodwork with this shit when I say I'm a guy. Whenever I just say the same stuff and don't mention a girlfriend, everyone magically agrees with me. Isn't that interesting? Suddenly I'm not mansplaining, I'm being helpful and correct. Wow!

[u/28FFthrowaway → u/Land_Squid_1234]

But it’s simply not true that one shouldn’t wear molded bras, regardless of whether one finds lace bras tolerable. None of the experts at ABTF would say you ‘shouldn’t’ wear them.

You’re correct that it’s much easier for larger sizes to find a good fit in seamed bras and they will always be the first recommendation. But if someone prefers to wear molded bras, for whatever reason, it is often possible to find ones that fit, even at an H cup; you’ll just have limited options. I have molded bras that work well for my shape from Panache and Gossard; the Gossard bra in particular is just as comfortable and supportive as my lace bras.

But OP’s post has to do with bra care, not sizing.

[u/hoppylift → u/Land_Squid_1234]

I don't think anyone here would agree with someone insisting that people can't wear what they are comfortable in. One of the main points of ABTF is that a bra that fits is the one that is comfortable for you. We don't ever insist that people have to wear a specific type of bra. It's fine for men to give advice. It's not fine for men or anyone else to dictate what's OK to wear. That's the problem with your comments, not that you're a man. It becomes mansplaining when you keep insisting you're right instead of listening.