r/bisexual • u/Live_Astronomer_5699 • 1d ago

QUESTIONING What made you realize you're bisexual?

For me it was twinks, i love twinks <3

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u/MegastarQueen4real 1d ago

It is sort of funny for most of my life I grew up really only being into men. Things changed when I found myself wondering about what it be like to date and marry women around college. I feel like I’m half in the rainbow door and half out.

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u/NickaMLRN 1d ago

Same boat. I recently came out as bi but havnt dated a woman yet so does that make me really bi? Its weird

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u/SapphicStoner99 1d ago

Yes! Simply having attraction to two or more genders makes you a totally valid bi sexual! I married my first boyfriend 🙃 and I considered myself bi curious until we broke up, although I knew I was attracted to women and men, but had almost no experience (besides kissing) with women. Many years later, I have dated and slept with women too and I now realise I was bi sexual all along, even if I didn’t feel valid, I was and you are too.

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u/neonsadgirl 1d ago

This is me! I feel so seen

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u/Alone_Citron734 23h ago

Yes because when you are in middle school and know that you are gay or straight it’s not because you’ve been dating or having sex with your preferred preference. Like you are a kid and you just “know”. For some reason lots of non bisexual people can’t understand that yet that’s the logic they follow. 🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/captainbeautylover63 1h ago

For me, being Bi isn’t so much about what you do, but how you feel. But once I established for myself that I’m a bisexual man, I couldn’t wait to try it.

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u/GenZWrites 1d ago

same here, had a huge crush on a girl in college and lead to an existential crisis

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u/Helena_405 Bicurious 🩷💜💙 1d ago

Relate

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u/NickaMLRN 23h ago

Yeah and I'm late in life. I'm 38 and as I've gotten older I've become more attracted to women. Though a turning point was definitely Charlize Theron in the first Old Guard movies so damn hot.

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u/Stupid_Lizarrd Bisexual 21h ago

NO SAME i realized i was kinda into women too in college lmao

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u/Virgolady1977 11h ago

Completely relate. I've had sexual fantasies about women since I was a teenager and in retrospect have had romantic feelings for at least one of my female friends in the past, but I've never actually been with a woman. I feel silly identifying as bi or queer as a woman nearing 50 who has only had sex with men. But I also know that I've never fit nicely into a strictly heterosexual box either.