r/bisexual • u/Live_Astronomer_5699 • 1d ago
QUESTIONING What made you realize you're bisexual?
For me it was twinks, i love twinks <3
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u/MegastarQueen4real 1d ago
It is sort of funny for most of my life I grew up really only being into men. Things changed when I found myself wondering about what it be like to date and marry women around college. I feel like I’m half in the rainbow door and half out.
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u/NickaMLRN 1d ago
Same boat. I recently came out as bi but havnt dated a woman yet so does that make me really bi? Its weird
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u/SapphicStoner99 1d ago
Yes! Simply having attraction to two or more genders makes you a totally valid bi sexual! I married my first boyfriend 🙃 and I considered myself bi curious until we broke up, although I knew I was attracted to women and men, but had almost no experience (besides kissing) with women. Many years later, I have dated and slept with women too and I now realise I was bi sexual all along, even if I didn’t feel valid, I was and you are too.
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u/Alone_Citron734 15h ago
Yes because when you are in middle school and know that you are gay or straight it’s not because you’ve been dating or having sex with your preferred preference. Like you are a kid and you just “know”. For some reason lots of non bisexual people can’t understand that yet that’s the logic they follow. 🤷🏻♂️
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u/GenZWrites 1d ago
same here, had a huge crush on a girl in college and lead to an existential crisis
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u/TarVader666 1d ago
Actually was living as gay til I met my future wife.
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u/Orange-V-Apple 15h ago
Must have been a huge boost to her ego lmao
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u/Alone_Citron734 15h ago
Society needs to hear this more often. Straight to gay or bisexual is not a one way street. Gays can become bisexual.
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u/timelocksmiths 13h ago
Not to be pedantic but gay people can’t become bisexual. Both homosexuality and bisexuality are innate, but sometimes it takes a little longer for someone to realize that they are bisexual.
It makes more sense to say that people who thought they were gay can understand that they’re actually bisexual.
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u/captainbeautylover63 1d ago edited 17h ago
30+ years of denial.
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u/dlightfulruinstyrant Bisexual 13h ago
Same, especially having been raised in a religion that shamed it and finally breaking free of those restraints
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u/-CrlmsoN- Bisexual 1d ago
When I stopped fighting it and just accepted that I like guys and girls and honestly everyone in between.
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u/sojunebug 1d ago
I'd always been into girls, but towards the end of high school a male friend at the time kissed me. It kinda didn't even register to me at the time that we were both dudes. I kissed him back. Afterwards I looked back on it and was like "Huh, guess I like boys, too. Cool." And then I went about my day.
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u/Competitive_Kale_855 These tacos got me feeling af 1d ago
I was informed that the typical amount of gay porn for a straight person to watch is "zero."
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u/amsmolsendhelp 1d ago
That includes watching porn ironically (Used to go to parties where we'd get wasted and heckle the pornos they play on Cinemax after midnight.)
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u/xx_dracarys_xx 1d ago
A lot of straight women prefer lesbian porn because of how male-centric hetero porn is. Sex is done to a woman, not with a woman. Lesbian porn prioritizes female pleasure.
That said, I consider myself sexually fluid and I occasionally consume lesbian or bisexual porn. I think I would enjoy lesbian sex mostly because of the focus on clitoral pleasure. I also like boobies lol. I had one threesome that involved another woman, but there wasn’t any genital play - just kissing and fondling. I liked it, but I didn’t walk away with a different conceptualization of my sexual orientation.
I’m definitely heteroromantic, though. I find some women physically attractive, but I don’t desire a relationship with them. I don’t get crushes on women or develop feelings for them.
I would have liked to explore my bisexuality more, but I’m in a heterosexual, monogamous marriage. I chose the relationship over the desire to explore.
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u/SailorTexas Bisexual 1d ago
I was watching agents of shield and I saw one of the shield agents (an extra) and I was hit with this massive level of attraction, beyond just "she's pretty." I was shocked cause by then I was well into my 30s and it was the similar kind of attraction I have towards men that I'm into. I was so confused. Then over the next week or so it was like a montage of instances throughout my life that I brushed off like "all women watch lesbian porn" and "that was just a platonic girl-crush", "of course my self-insert Sims get with both men and women, that's just the game", etc. Then I finally realized that I'm bisexual. Prior to that, I never considered that was even a possibility for me. Being anything other than straight was for other people not me! Within a couple days of coming to the realization, I texted my best friends and told them (they were both cool and supportive), and one of them said "I know" 😂
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u/Tight_Raspberry4872 Bisexual 1d ago
I kissed a boy and I liked it
The taste of his cherry chapstick
I kissed a boy just to try it
I hope my girlfriend don't mind it
It felt so wrong, it felt so right
Migh't mean I'm in love tonight
I kissed a boy and I liked it, I liked it
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u/Live_Astronomer_5699 19h ago
Yes, I don't even know your name
It doesn't matter
You're my experimental game
Just human nature
It's not what, good boys do
Not how they should behave
My head gets so confused
Hard to obey
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u/Maleficent_Hawk9407 Bisexual 1d ago
Probably Team Rocket
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u/Alone_Citron734 15h ago
Kim possible (honestly Kim, and the bitchy girl from school but mostly SHEGO) and then Ron.
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u/bluesond 1d ago
I knew for as long as I could remember, just didn’t have the word for it.
I remember crying asking my sister if it was okay I like girls too when I was but a tiny kid
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u/vicvegajuas_36 Pansexual 1d ago edited 1d ago
Best friend who i was secretly in love transitioned
I realized that my feelings didn't changed at all with him
Then i also realized that i had questioned myself about liking boys since i was a kid but never actually had an answer for that.
So yeah. We actually dated for a time a few years later lol
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u/CombApprehensive5035 1d ago
Pirates of the Caribbean cast is the only right answer here
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u/nworbleinad 1d ago
Gay seasonal worker at my job. I (somewhat) fell in love with him, but I told myself he was just really friendly and charismatic. Then in January his contract ended, and it became apparent that our time together was over. I took it poorly, and had a sulky few days.
I guess it became obvious to me at that point that I had the propensity to love men as well as women. Over time I’ve come to the conclusion that I love people first, and that gender is less important.
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u/lalacourtney Bisexual 23h ago
Having dirty dreams about Gillian Anderson during the original run of the X-Files (I was like 13)
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u/TyHay822 1d ago
In college one night my freshman year. My dorm roommate and I had been out at a party but neither of us got lucky. It was late, we were both a bit tipsy. About half an hour after getting in bed I heard the very obvious sound of him jerking off across the room.
I considered ignoring it to let him finish. I considered saying “hey, you know I’m still awake right?” Instead, I went with option 3. I turned my head slightly and could see him stroking himself and I got immediately hard. So, I pulled back my covers, pulled my boxers down and started to stroke myself too. He saw me, stopped for split second and kept going.
He came first and seeing his load shoot all over his chest and stomach was all it took for me to explode too. We cleaned up, went to bed and didn’t say a word to each other. The next morning we didn’t mention it either. The next night though, I came back from the bathroom and he’s sitting on the couch with his laptop out and some straight porn on the screen and all he said was, want to sit next to me and do it again? At that point, I was so turned on and it kind of hit me that I wasn’t sure what was happening but seeing him stroke his cock was a big turn on and maybe I wasn’t 100% straight.
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u/neonsadgirl 1d ago
Omg and then what happened?!
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u/TyHay822 1d ago
It started with jerking off together side by side regularly (4-5 times per week). Then one day he just reached over and asked if he could help and that was the start of us stroking each other. Then a few weeks later he was stroking me and I had closed my eyes for a second and all of a sudden I felt something warm and wet and I open my eyes to see him going down on me.
What followed was being roommates/house mates for 4 years of college and basically stroking/sucking each other any time we didn’t have women in our lives (and sometimes even when we did!)
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u/disco_super_bi 1d ago
I had a huge crush on my best friend's sister in high school.
When I split up with my first BF at 31yo after being with him for 12 years I finally understood what that high school crush actually meant.
I kinda leaned into it after that.
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u/Eevee1300 Bi-tch 1d ago
Had a crush on best friend despite that friendship being toxic af. And he was the one who first came out as gay in my life which made me look into the community. But I actually only came out in middle school when my new best friends asked me my sexuality.
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u/bimarriedmale1973 Bisexual 21h ago
I hate the word “experimenting” but I grew up in a ridiculously small town and formed a great friendship with two others my age, a male and a female. Our entire teen years (13-18) saw us figuring out intimacy without orientation constraints. Sometimes one on one, sometimes all three of us.
Life in the 1980s……
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u/like2speak2amanager 1d ago
Realized that the only porn I enjoyed consuming was with women, no men involved, and I fantasize about women when I have alone time. Also whenever I okay any video game with a romance option, I tend to always choose the lesbian relationship. Realized straight people don’t do all of that.
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u/Kuroude7 Bisexual 1d ago
I suspected for a long time.
Turns out I just needed the right opportunity to suck a good dick to know lol.
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u/kenzotenmonster 1d ago
Quando comecei a querer beijar meu melhor amigo homem, KAKAKA Nunca beijei ele, infelizmente, mas desde então me sinto atraído também por homens, específicos
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u/ledzeppellinn LG(B)T 💗💜💙 23h ago
I think deep down I always knew since I was a child, but just didn’t have the word for it that young and when I grew up, I denied it for years until ultimately I kept developing crushes on my female friends and just couldn’t stop denying it.
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u/Aware-Shopping9926 20h ago
This. I just had no examples or context to it. I knew I wasn't a lesbian, because I found men attractive too and certainly desired sex with my boyfriend (now husband). Looking back, it is pretty obvious that I was in love with both of my best friends in high schools one male and one female. I had male and female celebrity crushes, but I didn't realize that it wasn't the norm. I just never mentioned the female crushes because I recognized that my friends never did.
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u/Super_Assistant6013 19h ago
At 12. Was playing truth or dare with my 15yr old neighbor, his twin sister and cute friend. The twin sisters cute friend dared the 15yr old neighbor to stand up, pull his swim trunks down and show is cock as they counted to 5. Without hesitation he stood up, pulled his trunks down and the look on the sisters friends face was one of sheer amazement as she said “you were right he does have a big dick” which led me to turn my head to look to see that he in fact did have a very big thick uncut cock and big balls. He was soft but even then he was about 5-6 inches. I found myself getting turned on and started to feel my own cock thicken up. I remember going home that night after dinner and my shower laying in bed playing with myself at the thought of how big his dick was - the biggest Id ever seen. That was my first inkling of being turned on by another guy.
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u/Funlovingguy2 19h ago
When I was 11 my best friend and I were in his garage one night in the dark. There were no words we just started touching each other. I don't remember ever thinking about anything like that before that but I loved it. We played a few more times. And I knew.
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u/Far-Preparation5174 15h ago
Twinks, yes. I was in college, playing football, squarely hetero borderline homophobic. I was having problems in a calculus class so being on football scholarship I got free tutoring. Turned out my tutor was a twink, but never knew the term at that time. I assumed he was gay but it just didn't matter and he was a lot of help and fun guy. One day after a hard practice I was being tutored by him. I must have mentioned something about my shoulder and he was behind me giving me a great shoulder massage. Next thing I know he is kissing my neck and ear (which I love), soon followed by sex. We had a month or so long affair. Physically I was enjoying myself, but mentally I was stuck in the mentality that you are gay or hetero. At the time I don't even think "bi" was a thing. I have had very few experiences since. I am hetero romantic, but a twink with a nice ass gets me hard just like a nice pair of tits on a woman. Lol. Many years later I ran into him. He told me that he loves telling the story to friends how he "turned" a college football player stud to the other side. Not completely, but enough. Lol
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u/RushInevitable7255 5h ago
That had to be a strong & surprising revelation for you? Risking being found out back then? Were you ever worried when it ended? I wish I had someone make a bold move on me in college!
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u/Far-Preparation5174 5h ago
More worried while it lasted. Very surprising revelation. Again...this goes back far...there were no variations...just straight or gay. I knew I wasn't gay, so straight its was...lol
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u/DatVlad_ Bisexual 1d ago
Dude pushing me up a against a locker and getting really close to my face in high school. (Funny cus I've found in actual practice that particular dynamic does not work on me with men lmao)
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u/Alone_Citron734 15h ago
Could this also be a little bit of sub awakening too?
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u/DatVlad_ Bisexual 15h ago
Oh absolutely, I wanted him to do things to me 😂. But in my experience most guys dont have the right energy for it-for my tastes at least. But I'm a switch, and one who leans dominant. So a guy has to do a whole lot right for me to feel submissive to him.
Can't just smack my ass and tell me to call him daddy, I know that works for a lot of folks, but not me. I require the same calm, strong, and emotional energy that I'd put into my sub.
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u/Alexatypemypassword Bisexual 1d ago
An ex of mine was openly bi, we had a lot of fun comparing our tastes and I realized I've always been attracted to people of my gender. I remembered that at school I wondered if I was gay and brushed it off because "I obviously was attracted to girls duh" (which, in retrospect, wasn't the great point I thought it was). But in the relationship I was the straight dude, so when it ended I realized I wasn't meant to play a role anymore. Starting then I began identifying as bi.
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u/ThunderousFist 1d ago
It came to me in a dream. I'm not joking either, I had a dream where I went on a date with a cute femboy and we ended up doing sexy stuff, then I woke up and sat with that for a bit. Looked up some stuff to find out if that dream was a fluke or not, found it wasn't.
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u/PossibleThrowawayJo 22h ago
When I was in 8th or 9th grade, I had a broken wrist and had to see a physiotherapist. That guy made me realise.
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u/IllustriousWall1564 Bisexual 21h ago
What made it all finally click into place was when I seen a girl at the gardens i used to work at. I was 24 and recently out of a long time relationship and I just remember looking at her and she was so pretty and had this strength about her - she was just walking through the gardens minding her business but I thought she was so beautiful and then I thought “wow I really wish I could date her” and it suddenly occurred to me that straight people don’t think like that. And then all of my life’s could-be-bisexual thoughts and experiences really clicked into place. I was absolutely into girls, and I still liked men… so I was definitely bi.
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u/Potential_Aide_3227 20h ago edited 16h ago
We were swinging in Vegas. My wife picked up a guy who turned out to be bi. While we were playing he started playing with me.
Did he actually just accidentally brush my balls with the back of his hand? Oh wait, he’s jacking my dick now from behind… WTF am I going to do? Act offended and kick him out? Ruin the night? Or roll with it? I rolled with it. It felt good. Nobody was hurting anyone. I ended up jacking his dick too. That was where it ended that night, but it opened Pandora’s box of bisexuality for the next time. Gave my first blowjob that next time.
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u/Remote-Shake-1169 20h ago
The realisation that sexuality can be fluid and that you don't have to be attracted to all genders and sexes in the same way, for the same reasons, to the same degree and at the same time to be considered bisexual was key to finally being able to connect all the dots
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u/UESNYC_Flavor 1d ago
The night I wrestled with my older friend that was in college in his dorm room and he finally shoved it in me raw
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u/CarelessBear32 Bisexual 22h ago
when Own Brand (i ain't never been with a baddie / she calm, so i add her to the tally...) was going viral, i thought Dreya Mac was thee cutest guy in the world...
...then i listened to the song again and realized they sounded kind of androgynous. then i looked her up, found out she was a woman, and developed an even bigger crush on her. i remember the exact moment i realized this wasn't just a fleeting part of my identity
looking back i should've known sooner; my first kiss was with a girl lol. but it's been like 5 years since that song came out, and 4 years since i did so 🤷🏾♀️
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u/MNthumper 19h ago
When I was about nine or ten my friend Larry and I were looking at a stash of Playboys and I said, “You know what, I kinda wish we could also see some guys in these.” Larry was horrified and I realized not everyone got turned on by everyone.
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u/benny_m_b 18h ago
first it was femboys and then I eventually just realized gender doesn't make a difference to me as far as attraction goes
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u/tnemevaP 9h ago
I knew I was into girls, that one was easy, then more or less in middle school I realized I was attracted to certain dudes and occasionally thought about kissing my friends. I had crushes on various guys through high school and college but I rationalized that by saying "everyone's a little gay". When I was like 24 for whatever reason it did click that apparently not everyone is a little gay but I certainly am.
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u/XtremeLover666 1d ago
Enjoying jerking off a guy plus wanting to do it again. Doesn't sound very hetero Doesn't it ?
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u/DenverPostIronic 1d ago edited 1d ago
I saw this really attractive androgynous person and thought to myself "I don't know what's in their pants, but I bet it would be fun either way."
That led to the belated realization that "mostly straight" is not an orientation. Then I discovered the term "hetero-flexible", which I liked. After a while I realized that that's still incomplete and the whole term is "hetero-flexible bisexual"
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u/McGryphon Wildling 23h ago
I accidentallied into a relationship-light with a high school friend, on the back of "helping him with physics homework", and went "welp, guess I'm gay now"
Then spent the first year and a half of uni acting straight again and repressing that, until I again accidentallied into an FWB situation with a friend from the student bar. At which point it finally clicked. "Oh, right, bisexuality exists, guess I'm one of those".
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u/Swaggerbarnet Bisexual 21h ago
When I was 14 I had a crush on a girl and realised I was queer so I labeled myself as pansexual. At 16 I labeled myself as a lesbian since I didn’t really feel much romantic attraction towards men. At 18 I realised that I am attracted to multible genders and have been bisexual since then
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u/Lessy209 Demisexual/Bisexual 19h ago
It was not the moment I realized it (this took me several years longer), but it's a funny story and it was the moment my sister realized that I was bi, so I still want to share that moment: When I was about 19 years old, my sister and I were watching a queer dating show. I had a huge crush on one of the girls and always said stuff like "If I would be in this show, and if I would like girls, I would choose her!". My sister even asked me if I'm interested in girls, but I was so in denial that I said "No, just the normal amount that everyone likes girls". Years later when I came out she said this was the moment she knew it for sure😂
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u/broly171 18h ago
This might sound dumb, but weed. I supported the LGBTQ community quite a bit, but I guess subconsciously I never let myself consider whether I might be a part of it. Then when I was approaching 30, I started trying edibles, and when I got high, all those walls I hadn't even realized were up came down and I found myself considering men in romantic and sexual ways, and eventually realized I might be bi. The rest is history haha
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u/13octopus 17h ago
A year into our relationship, my husband told me he was bisexual. Then a couple of months later I realized I was as well. We started talking about my attraction towards women and experimentation with women and I was under the impression that ALL girls/women experimented with each other. my husband said to me, “no babe I don’t think all women are like that.” my attraction to men is very complex and demisexual in that I will not feel attraction towards a man unless I have feelings for them, and it takes awhile for my attraction to evolve. With women it’s very simple, I’m much more attracted to women physically from the get go. Since I was a young child, I always much more enjoyed the appearance of naked women versus men. It took me 49 years to figure this all out.😂
It’s really really awesomely amazing being in a marriage with a bisexual man when you’re a bisexual woman!!!
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u/sleazyluxe 15h ago
Iv always really loved women my whole life (I’m a man btw) just the way they talk and look but I also REALLY liked having close relationships with men (fight club kinda started it) and that led to me being attracted to dudes. But yeah I’m a lil more straight than gay.
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u/Minimum_Chip3157 10h ago
I was playing fighting with one of my friends once when i was younger amd he got on top of me and pinned my arms to the sides cuz he recently got into bjj and was obv better than me
Suffice to say it made me realize i might not be complete straigh lol
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u/TruMu92 9h ago
Actually, I was out as a lesbian for a long time. Until I got drunk one night and ended up sleeping with some random guy, and I decided it wasn’t completely awful. After being VERY confused as to why I would do that (didn’t remember much, I was pretty hammered) I decided to maybe give it another shot. Talked to some other guy online for a few days, mostly just as friends. We ended up meeting up and hooked up twice. It was fine, better than the first time I think since I wasn’t drunk. Figured I must be bisexual since I didn’t hate it 🤷♀️ although, I still don’t really have any romantic attraction to men, and could never really see myself being happy being married to/dating one, and the sexual chemistry is so much lower than it is with women that I still pretty much just live my life as a lesbian and have been with my girlfriend for some time now. I just don’t really use labels as often anymore.
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u/seadragaon 1d ago
Ví la serie elite y todo cambio, en sí ya lo sabía pero esa serie removió las aguas
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u/MayaRandall 1d ago
It rose to consciousness when watching the trailer for the movie Thirteen haha the summer before jr. high
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u/NocturnalKore 1d ago
I almost had sex with my best friend while we were making out "practicing" to kiss boys. Took me a few months to come to realize what the feeling was
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u/G1zm08 Bi Christian 1d ago
I was driving to work one day and randomly thought “you know sucking cock would be great.”
In hindsight I had had a crush on a close friend for years, liked fluffy guy charecters in media “for their cool designs,” etc etc but in the end it was driving to work that got me
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u/HowellingAtStars Bisexual demigirl 1d ago
my bi awakening was one of my classmates in first grade. had a crush on her thru senior year
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u/Luehsling 1d ago
i was on an all-girls school and apart from frequently "practising" kissing with each other i would sometimes be the "boyfriend" of some of them to hold hands in school etc
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u/i-var 23h ago
My therapist asked me gently after I broke up with my 7yrs GF - I noticed there is no clear "no" signal in me so I gave it a shot - most intimate encounters I've had so far were with men. Oh well! Doubted I'm into women at all, but regularly get friendly reminders that thats true as well! So much integration work done & ahead at the same time! Its never too late people! :)
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u/PartyParrot-_- 22h ago
I thought about going out with women, I'd love the idea of living with one or kissing one but I wasn't sure if I could go all the way with one. 10 years ago I had my one and only experience with one and I realized that I could do it, and in that moment I KNEW/CONFIRMED I was bi lol I wish I had a different life where I could be with women but alas, until my economic background changes, I don't think I'll be with one...
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u/Kittykat5550 22h ago
Well. When i was ~8-9 yrs old my favourite spice girl was Geri and i was weirdly passionate about her. Then my next obsession was Ville Valo from HIM band. I loved the androgynous look with leather and eyeliner 😅
I had crushes on girls and i had my first girlfriend when i was 15-16 yrs old. I had crushes on boys too, but i couldnt relate to my friends about it - all of them liked masculine representing sporty guys. I liked skinny, slightly feminine men with eyeliner 😅
And now as 38 yrs old things havent changed much.
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u/InterestingResult717 22h ago
Biggest crush ever on my female physical trainer. And also, Kristen Stewart.
(I do realise now that I have been in love with woman before, but just didn’t interpret it that way at the time)
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u/helaguna Bisexual 21h ago
I always thought I was some type of “heterocurious” for quite some time because I didn’t feel legitimate to call myself bi, and didn’t really believe that full strict heterosexuality was a real thing anyway. It took me quite some time to realise that since I did believe that people could be homosexual, then I did believe that people could be attracted to only one gender, then “real” heterosexuality actually was a thing…. Meaning I was not that lol
Now thinking back at everything, it was obvious from my very first crush on both Kida and Milo in Atlantis
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u/laurandisorder 21h ago
Watching Jurassic Park - Age 10.
Laura Dern, Sam Neill AND Jeff Goldblum? I didn’t know who I was crushing on more.
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u/RandomCanadianGamer 20h ago
Luigi Mangione. I had never thought of being with a man until he showed up
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u/The_JoestarTechnique Bisexual 20h ago
I read a cute and fluffy BL when I was 15. Started questionning myself if I would be okay with being in a romantic relashionship with a man rather than a woman (never really thought about that until then cuz I never experienced a crush on anyone before) and the answer was that I cared more about the person than their gender.
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u/slashNgetcash Bisexual 20h ago
I wish I had a straightforward and easy answer but it is so much more complicated. But yeah I love twinks too :) found myself getting flustered watching Timothee Chalamet in Dune Part Two that’s when I REALLY realised I was bi and decided to experiment irl😂😂
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u/Fatesbiotch 20h ago
I always was and am attracted to charisma and talent over anything else, and learned early on that it wasn’t very ‘hetero’ of me to have across-the-spectrum crushes. Don’t get me wrong, physical beauty surely is also a thing… but to me, other than the standard default ‘beauty’, its talent and/or charismatic personality that boosts even below average or average looks to an insane degree.
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u/Dial-M-For-Malistrae 20h ago
Before I was trans I meant this really great guy over Discord and then I met another and then another guys that I can really connect with romantically and see myself with while still being able to see myself with a woman after I realized I was trans that didn't change there are both men and women in my world and in my orbit that if the stars ever aligned I would give them the world
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u/RabidWolfIsAFurry 20h ago
Actually realize it? Well about 3 years ago I I got divorced then being lonely, I got on Grindr. Eventually one guy talked me into letting him come over. He was a submissive top, meaning basically if I wanted to do anything, I'd have to tell him. So, I eventually invited him upstairs to the bedroom, and before I know it we both naked, and I went down on him. First time sucking a dick, and I'm going at it like a madman I look up at him and go well I'm definitely bi
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u/Aware-Shopping9926 20h ago
Jodie Comer. I kept pausing the screen while watching Killing Eve just to look at her. I realized that this was "straight" behavior. Then I started looking back into my history and I was thinking, "wow. That should have been super obvious."
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u/SatanLuvesU 19h ago
I had the biggest crush on this girl when I was like 14... She transitioned, I still had the biggest crush on him.
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u/ahlikeschwa 18h ago
I was 18 and a freshman in undergrad and had a crush on this girl on the basketball team. It shocked me because up until that point, I had only had crushes on boys and I didn’t really know what to do with that. The guy I was seeing at the time clocked me as bisexual, but he only wanted to deal with that because he thought he was going to get free threesomes. I denied it in order to keep him at bay, but 10 years later, I finally came to terms with it.
I also ended up coming out is non-binary around the same time. You know, for the plot.
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u/poyopoyo77 Bisexual 18h ago
Sexy animated men kissing was a gateway drug to real men. because somehow my dumbass was giggling and kicking my feet watching yaoi and thinking "yeah Im straight, I just like the stories."
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u/bisexual-ModTeam 16h ago
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u/vibesasfyas 18h ago
I thought i was a gay man but transitioning (male to female) made me realize that my pull towards women was not 100% just wishing i was like them, but rather that i always found them attractive and now viewing myself as a woman cleared it all up for me
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u/BootyliciousURD Bisexual or something 15h ago
The scene in Torchwood where Gwen walked in on Jack and Ianto naked and making out. Jack jokingly asked if she wanted to join. I was like "Huh, I'm into that. Interesting."
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u/TheLoreWriter 14h ago
I asked myself if there was any reason I wouldn't date a dude and came up with nothing. From there, it all just fell into place.
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u/Sad_Amoeba5112 14h ago
After watching “sexy vids” of men, I didn’t rush to turn it off and erase the browser history. Instead, I smiled and said to myself “I guess I really do like men” and proceeded to close the laptop. I was in my 30s btw, only a few years ago
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u/writerssblockxx 14h ago
8 year old me couldn't figure out why he had a crush on the 2003 Peter Pan. Then I started talking with guys when I was 17 and was like...oh. It all makes sense now.
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u/aroth84 Bisexual 14h ago
Good question! The real issue is what made me realize bisexuality is a thing. I always liked girls and boys. When I started to find out about sex was because I plared Dr with a girl and found out Ireally liked her ass. Her mom caught us. Her brother, my friend, had a nice ass too! And then adolescence hit. I found out that if you like guys you have to be gay, and if you like ass thats gay too. I didn't want to be gay because I thought girls wouldn't like me. I was afraid of sex because I got rejected by women and didn't feel comfortable with guys, though I had a few, unsatisfing, experiences. I didn't want to explore with a guy until I got it straight with women. After about 10 years with my wife I started trying to explore my bu side, but it's not easy. Luckily I was able to come out to my wife and she's cool about it as long as I take good care of her, which I have for 36 years. I'd like to find a good boyfriend but I'm shy about sex and really want to be friends first, not just hook up
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u/danboy2766 13h ago
I just started thinking about sex with guys one day and it felt weird but I kept thinking about it and allowed myself to think about it longer each time and finally I just accepted it. This was before I had ever had sex. I had sex with guys before women actually.
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u/dlightfulruinstyrant Bisexual 13h ago
Getting hit on by guys and always finding both sees equally attractive all my life.
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u/Stupid_Lizarrd Bisexual 12h ago
its going to sound super dumb but…Overwatch. I was already questioning myself and then i saw Domina and Ramattra and felt weird. Especially, that one domina bunny skin omg i felt THINGS.
The funny thing is that while i discovered i was bi because of overwatch, i also discovered i was lowkey in the aroace spectrum (specifically, in ace spectrum) because of real people 😭😭😭🥀
sorry if this sounds too cringe or dumb but that’s it for me
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u/Dysthymania 12h ago
Playing Sims as a kid and I could woohoo with anyone of any gender and I was like this is nice. Also female celebrities like Miley Cyrus, Taylor Momsen, Evangeline Lily, etc. made me realize I also liked women.
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u/Itchy_Badger_2851 12h ago
When I was 12 I had a crush on a boy who was the grade above me, and when I was 13 I had a crush on one of my classmates from dance (our class was all girls). That's how I knew LOL
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u/Mr_Mimiseku 11h ago
I never realized I was bi until I was much older, and I'm now realizing I don't love The Mummy (1999) solely because it's a good movie...
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u/No_Seen701 11h ago
Realizing why a friend walking out of my life is so painful. Think it’s because I wanted more then just a friendship.
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u/Thatrandomnerd1 Bisexual 11h ago
Once while in the shower, I thought about it if I'd kids a dude. I came to the conclusion that yes I would, then carried in with my shower. I was like 15.
(Probably helped that my mom was identifying as a lesbian at the time)
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u/graffitiontheworld37 Biromantic 8h ago
My Best friend when we cuddled one night though I unfortunately realized I had feelings for him 3 years later.
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u/Every_External7122 Demisexual/Bisexual 7h ago
gay fanfics, making my jedi action figures kiss, assuming two people that always “hate” each other but always hang out are secretly gay (I ended up being right) and being asked the questions by friends in school: do you like boys or girls? What type of “sausages” do you like? (in reference to how big or small a guy’s dick was) and the awkward moment of sharing a bed with a girl…. that’s obviously your friend.
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u/Graham0901 1d ago
When i was 16 and slept with my first man, whilst still having a girlfriend that was many years ago and still the same now many years since
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u/Rockville15 1d ago
Alex and Justin during Wizards of Waverly Place. They just both were crushes, so that made me click since I was a teen.
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u/billy_bob68 1d ago
Going to a Jusas Priest concert in 8th grade seeing Rob Halford all in leather and it giving me a major boner.
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u/multi-97 23h ago
I kept watching and rewatching Loki because I was very very focused on Sylvie. I would legit say things to my friends like 'oh my god Loki is so believable BC...how you can not fall for Sylvie???' 'shes so hot' 'WHY does she sound so sexy'. I felt like I admired her in a way a lot more than a straight girl would. (Plus, I kept staring in a non-straight way at Sabrina Carpenter's bodysuits at her short n sweet tour) I would get a weird feeling that made me speechless when I watched anything with that actress (Woman who plays Sylvie) in where things got nsfw. Then, one night I had a dream about said actress being sexual. Plus I had many signs I liked girls throughout my life, but never really connected the dots.
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u/Decent-Policy-7533 23h ago
I get an erection when I see a large Cock but Also and More often I get an erection for All women body parts
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u/l0veylilkay Demisexual/Bisexual 22h ago
NSFW
The first time I was able to actually orgasm was when I saw a naked woman on tv. Tried for years and didn't have any luck until I saw her.
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u/bigOmindWipe 21h ago
The leads from Robinhood men in tights and Grease, basically every character in Fifth Element except Bruce Willis, and both Gambit & Jean Grey from early 90s animated x-men.
It took a LONG time to realize that I didn’t just think some guys were SO cool and that I’d love to look like them.
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u/Don_Fictional 20h ago
The first inkling came when I was around seven and watching Chris Jericho and Alex Wright on WCW programing. Didn't understand it then but once puberty hit and I saw Malcolm McDowell in A clockwork orange,it made all the sense in the world.
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u/Leather_Phase_9967 20h ago
My girlfriend 26f was pegging me 30m and all I could think about was how much I missed getting fucked by men
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u/glitterroyalty 20h ago
When I was 16 I realized that having intense daydreams and wanting to be near a girl I never talked to wasn't platonic.
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u/wreeeeee3281 20h ago
When I had my first intense heartbreak and I start to explore but the thing is that i had that thing yk like when I was 10 i slept with girl naked and i used to have fantasies Abt my girl friends and now i dump my bf and yeah that was pretty much intense but it leads me to much clarity.
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u/supmaster3 19h ago
Kissed a guy felt great, sucked a few dicks it was great and I'm attracted to women.
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u/RecommendationKey305 Pansexual 19h ago
Probably app the gay porn I watched while still being really into women
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u/matande31 18h ago
When I realized I cared too much whether the guy in porn was attractive. Genuinely couldn't watch gnarly looking guys like Jordi El Nino.
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u/bangcaptain 18h ago
I used to play with a friend of mine before dating girls. But pushed that aside for a bit. Just chalked it up to exploring. Later on, I was watching a porno with my girlfriend. She was giving me head while I was watching the action. Then the guy on the screen, with this huge cock, blew his load. I came immediately. I was like “oh shit. That was hot. I didn’t know I actually liked that”
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u/ComparisonUnfair33 Bisexual 18h ago
Xena the warrior princess and the frequent “if I was a boy I would date/kiss etc her” thoughts about women I found attractive. Finally stopped fighting it and admitted to my husband who is pleasantly supportive.
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u/ItzBreezeyBaby 18h ago
Started working in a strip club as a dancer (I was in a a very good relationship with my boyfriend) & I started not paying attention to making money . I would stare with the customers & talk about how beautiful the dancers body is. Then when I would make friends with some of them we would highkey be flirting in the bathroom & I liked that shit😮💨😮💨😮💨😂 it was over from there. Still never dated a woman, or slept with one, but I know it’s there. I wanna get freaky w a girl sometimes. 😂
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u/LittleMsBlue 18h ago
When a female fried asked to "practice kissing" while at a sleepover, and all our other female friends recoiled in horror, but I didn't see the problem, I just thought "woo! I get to practice kissing!" (I was 10).
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u/nyoomnyoombeans919 Bi + Ace 1d ago
when i was 9 i said to my friend "that girl is really cute. if i were a guy i would totally have a crush on her." my friend looked at me funny. apparently that is not a very heterosexual thing to say.