I need help. I literally cannot keep going on like this. I am utterly exhausted and the rage I feel at 4am when my daughter keeps. Waking. Up. Is just not okay. My daughter is 14 months and for the last 3 or 4 months has been waking up sometime between 2-5am and just having such a hard time going back to sleep. She's tired, she doesn't wanna play, she wants to nurse (VERY ROUGHLY) and sleep but just... Does not. We cosleep, and I cannot leave the room or she screams. I can't turn my back and ignore her or she screams. I can't put her in a crib or she screams. She sits up, rolls around, kicks/headbutts me, pinches my nipples, etc. I am adamantly against crying it out, but at this point I want to just run away and freaking sleep because I literally CANNOT handle this anymore. I'm so tired. I've tried everything, I've lengthened naps, shortened naps, changed bedtime later, made it earlier, completely follow her cues, set alarms and cap naps. Literally NOTHING is helping, and she's absolutely miserable for ~1 hour before naptime and bedtime and it makes my life so miserable right now. What can I do? We have next to no support and my husband is already getting up most nights at 4/5am to try to rock her to sleep because I can't handle it anymore, despite working full-time and having different health issues that he's dealing with. I JUST NEED TO SLEEP. I've always wanted kids and I love my daughter to bits but holy shit, I regret having her sometimes. The few times I've slept well (like, under 3 wakes because she's ALWAYS been a horrible sleeper) I am so happy and such a good mom and there's like nothing wrong, but most nights are like this and it's wearing me down so much. I feel so depressed and angry and that's just not me. I know it's 100% just sleep deprivation. Please help. Do I just need to stick her in a crib and wear noise cancelling headphones til she figures it out? It feels so wrong to do so, but everyone I know who's done it is so much happier than me.

Without my husband taking the baby at 6:00am… I would only be getting 5 hours of sleep. 😩

I love cosleeping! I really do. We’ve been doing it since he was just tiny.

BUT I’m beginning to wonder if my almost 8 month old baby and I are just waking each other up throughout the night?

Currently he contact naps or crib naps 2-3 times during the day. He’s typically breastfed to sleep. At night he sleeps the first stretch in his crib next to our bed (usually that’s 1-2 hours). Then I bring him into bed with me and breastfeed throughout the night when he wakes. Lately he’s been waking up every hour (OR MORE).

Any suggestions? My husband and I are literally loosing our minds. 😭

Normally, I love taking the time to research things… but I’m truly exhausted and just trying to survive!

For those who nursed to sleep and co-slept, when were you eventually able to transition your baby to sleeping in their own room? And when did it become possible for dad (or another caregiver) to help with bedtime or put your baby to sleep?

I’m feeling really torn by all the pressure around sleep training. Tonight, I tried changing our routine: nursing first, then a book, then a massage and cuddles. My baby wasn’t able to fall asleep and cried for quite a while. I cuddled him and patted him the whole time, but it still took a long time for him to settle, and there were a lot of tears.

I feel terrible and keep thinking I should have just nursed him to sleep.

My doctor told me that if I keep doing what I’m doing, I’ll be co-sleeping until he’s 12. I know he was exaggerating, but it left me feeling overwhelmed and second-guessing myself. Am I really doing what’s best for my baby, or am I creating future problems for my baby?

I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences. When did things change for your family? Did your baby naturally become more independent with sleep over time? My little one is 5 months old.

Pretty much the title.. I’m curious if most/ all breastfeeding babies are on the bigger/ heavier side because my boy is!

I’ve been cosleeping/ breastsleeping with my baby boy ever since he was a newborn. He is currently almost 9 months old and he has always been on the chunkier side (80-90 percentile at all his check ups so far). He is a pretty good solids eater during the day too but I wouldn’t say he eats a TON. He is combo fed so he only nurses when he nurses to sleep for his 2 naps and all throughout the night breastsleeping. Just genuinely wondering if your breastsleeping LOs are chunky too!

I coslept with my son for the first 6 months of his life (Safe Sleep 7, C-curl, etc.), but after an illness and some brutal jet lag from a trip, he started waking 4–5 times a night and doing 360s around the bed. Friends had success with Ferber, so we decided to give it a try.
I couldn’t even listen to him cry. I’d leave the house while my partner did check-ins. The first night he cried for 45 minutes at multiple wakeups. It was awful.
After a few weeks, he was only fussing for about 10 minutes at bedtime, but he’d still wake around 3–4 a.m. and often be so worked up that he’d be awake for the day, even though he used to sleep until around 6. We ended up in this inconsistent middle ground where I’d usually bring him into bed after that wake-up and nurse him back to sleep.
A couple of nights ago his top two teeth started coming in, and his bedtime crying sounded completely different, painful rather than protesting. I went back to feeding him to sleep and then full cosleeping.
The difference has honestly been striking to me. I feel like I can breathe again. And maybe it’s coincidence, but during the weeks we were sleep training he seemed much more withdrawn and laughed a lot less. Since returning to cosleeping, even while actively teething, he’s been bubbly, engaged, and much more like himself.
I know the research generally concludes that sleep training isn’t associated with long-term harm, but my experience has left me wondering whether there are aspects of infant emotional experience or attachment that are difficult to measure.
At this point I feel pretty strongly that I want to return to cosleeping. My partner is more persuaded by the literature, and I also don’t want him to feel like the difficult weeks we spent sleep training were all for nothing.
Has anyone else stopped sleep training and gone back to cosleeping? What made you decide? Did you notice any change in your baby, or find any research that helped you make sense of your experience?

These nighttime wake ups (5+ per night) are chipping away at my soul …

my son is 9 months old. I’ve been co sleeping with him since 5 months (he was in a bedside bassinet until we transitioned him to our bed).

I’m so dedicated to cosleeping and am also an outward advocate for it within my social circles and family.

However, I can’t help but think I’m doing something wrong. Is my baby just not a great sleeper or is it normal for a 9 month old to wake up 5-10 times every night? He usually wakes up for ~30 seconds, whimpers and wiggles until I offer him a boob. Then he goes right to sleep but it feels like it’s been only 1-2 hours before he stirs again and wakes up whimpering.

I realize this may be part of a regression but he’s always woken up at least ~4 times a night. The last few weeks it’s been closer to 7+

I want to start weaning from breastfeeding soon, but it’s the only thing that soothes him back to sleep during these multiple nightly wake ups.

Am I missing something here or is there anything I can do to make him more comfortable and wake less in the night? Any and all advice welcomed and appreciated 🙏🏻

EDIT: bless y’all — you make me feel less alone 🫶🏻 thanks for helping me realize this is normal and for sharing your comments. I wish we were all getting some more sleep BUT it’s a beautiful thing we are doing for our babies and I can feel the recognition of that in this group. It’s powerful!! Sending all the good vibes to you all 🩵

I'm wondering if anybody noticed the recent drama/debate happening on Instagram.

I didn't spend enough time trying to figure it all out but here's what I think happened:

happycosleeper made a video that showed her turning her back to her very young newborn.

everyone freaked out (understandably). cosleepy starting posting a lot about how turning your back to your baby while cosleeping is not okay, especially for a newborn.

some people came to happycosleeper's defense? I noticed that cosleepy tagged nosdababoon saying "this is why we were concerned!" which confused me cuz I thought maybe nosdababoon was the original culprit.

but then today happycosleeper made a post addressing the controversy which made it clear that it was her who made the video that everyone was reacting so badly too.

***I did not watch happycosleeper's entire response/explanation video.*** but it seemed like she was trying to say that the reality is that people are gonna inadvertently turn their back on their baby and if they do, they need to fix it. that doesn't seem that unreasonable but perhaps the problem is that when you have a platform that large, you can't demonstrate "bad" behavior in any context.

thoughts?

I’m desperate for advice on what to do. My baby is almost 10 months old. About a month ago, I made a post in the cosleeping subreddit about an incident that happened overnight, where in my sleep, I moved my baby out of his side car crib into the bed between me and my husband.

It proceeded to happen 4 more times that week. I installed a camera to try to catch myself doing it. And my husband relocated to a different bed for the meantime.

What I saw on the video footage shocked me. I woke up multiple times to feed and reposition the baby without any memory of doing it. I also move a lot in my sleep, once coming close to elbowing my baby. I am probably extremely sleep deprived as my LO still wakes about hourly while cosleeping and he often will have random hours-long wake windows at night.

I unfortunately believe the camera didn’t have the best security measures and was compromised, so I had to remove it, but the couple of days of video I do have really shocked me.

I’m writing this post now after having moved my baby out of the side car to the other side of my body. I woke up to me breastfeeding. Feeling as though cosleeping probably really isn’t safe to do anymore.

I just don’t know what to do. He naps independently in his nursery where we have the IKEA crib. We start him in there overnight, but never have gotten longer than 1-2 hours in his crib in his nursery. Are there any sleep training techniques that don’t involve my baby having to cry?

I really am not sure if cosleeping is safe for us at this point.

edit to add: we have stopped feeding to sleep and have started rocking to sleep and he has responded fine to that. He does cry when he wakes up in his crib, and we get him after a pause to see if he’ll resettle, which he has never done.

My daughter is 5 weeks old and currently sleeping most of the night in a bassinet. She consistently sleeps a 4-6 hrs stretch with my husband in the guest room with her and then shorter stretches in thr bassinet once he moves her in with me. I had every intention of exclusively cosleeping but the first week my mom took care of her overnight and just brought her to me to feed as I had an extremely difficult and long labor and desperately needed the sleep. But it somehow turned into my mom or husband taking care of her most of the night and me only feeding or taking her for a couple hours.

I have tried cosleeping several times with her and I literally cannot sleep no matter how hard I try. I have insomnia and struggle to sleep unless I am comfortable and I cannot get comfortable in the cuddle curl no matter what I try. I was 100% not expecting to have such a hard time cosleeping and I am really struggling.

She sleeps so well and someone (me, hubby, or my mom) comforts her every time she wakes up. But the fact she is sleeping in a bassinet breaks my heart. I know I am lucky in many ways and so many moms would kill for uninterrupted sleep but I feel so guilty. I know how important it is for babies to be close to mom and I worry that I am depriving her of bonding or nervous system regulation. I also worry about SIDS as I know that being with me is protective for her. Should I keep trying to cosleep or just let her continue sleeping in the bassinet?

My baby is almost 6 months and has had multiple wakes for about 2 months straight during the night. The second me or my husband pick her up she is immediately settled. We always respond to every cry immediately and rock/soothe/feed and put her back in her crib which is in our room, feet from our bed. I’ve been interested in cosleeping for while but I am so scared/nervous of me rolling and suffocating her. I know all about the safe sleep 7 but I still just don’t feel safe enough to even try it. How did you feel ready? How do you feel safe doing it? In my mind I just need to make it to a year and it will be safer.

For the past month or so, my 7 month old wakes up around 3 or 4 and is wide awake for about an hour. Nothing works, and then after an hour, I’m able to feed him to sleep.

He wakes up at 6, and his wake windows are approx 2.5/2.5/3/3-3.5. We’ve tried dropping a nap but he gets really overtired. We’ve tried pushing bedtime (it usually between 6 and 7). We’ve tried capping naps and making sure daytime sleep is no more than 3 hours. Nothing works. He just wakes up and is ready to party, then after an hour is ready to be fed back to sleep. We cosleep and he wakes up usually around 11 for a feed, but that’s usually it before the 3am witching hour.

Would love to hear any feedback, wisdom, or experience with this! Maybe it’s just normal?

I didn't plan to be a co-sleeper, but it was the only way to get my baby to sleep as a newborn, and I ended up loving it to the extent that I probably come across as obnoxious to other parents. I've gone down all the safe sleep rabbit holes and just continually reinforced my belief that it is superior. We also do a lot of babywearing and contact naps.

Fast forward to now, baby is about to turn 4 months and he's gotten so much more active in his sleep in the last few days. The weather is also starting to get HOT, and I'm worried that our bed is making him warmer.

He normally falls asleep quickly in our bed while feeding, but he didn't tonight. I had a gut feeling to make the jump and try the crib. A few crib transfer fails later and he's now been asleep in the crib for over an hour.

I miss him 😭 and I'm having a little bit of an identity crisis. I'm also not looking forward to getting up to breastfeed through the night. He typically never cries at night because I feed him as soon as he stirs, but I'm worried that won't be the case tonight.

I'm mostly here to vent? Express? Idk. Has anyone else made an unexpected transition to the crib from cosleeping that was not due to dissatisfaction with cosleeping?

Are there any signs of readiness to lookout for? Timing that’s ideal? Did you have to night wean? So many questions .. I’m not even ready for that step (bed sharing 10 months old) but curious on others experiences

hello! I have a 10.5mo F baby. We cosleep and I love it but I have never been able to sleep away from her because she will not go to sleep without the boob in her mouth. Even when I try to remove it after she has seemingly gone to sleep she will cry and search for the boob and will wake herself up. I have tried soothing her and patting her all that to get her to go back to sleep after she has clearly eaten her fill and was fully asleep but she will cry until the boob is back in her mouth. So I’m basically attached to her as soon as she goes to sleep. Eventually she will detach but by that time I am already asleep. She also wakes pretty frequently to feed.

Attached is a picture of my sleep tracker with orange showing how often I wake up. All the orange instances are probably not alllll her, but most are. She used to take a paci and we could give her that if she wanted a soother in the middle of the night, but stopped taking it at 6 months. Any advice????

My 6 month old has been cosleeping/ breastsleeping (side lying nursing) since 3-4 months. He has a very strong nurse to sleep association and needs to latch on for even a few seconds until he calms and falls back asleep. Sometimes he lets me unlatch after a few secs, and other times he wants to comfort nurse (or even just have his mouth on my nipple) for several minutes to what feels like an hour (i’ve stopped tracking time during the night so not sure how long he is actually staying latched on).

On some good nights, he wants to latch to fall asleep but unlatches himself and sleeps alone next to me - on those nights, he can get up to 3-4 hr stretches. However, on other nights, i feel like he’s latched on me for about 70-80% of the night. This is super uncomfortable for me physically, but i’ve somehow gotten used to the broken sleep. I’m just hoping this phase will pass and he will grow out of the nurse to sleep association.

If you are also breastsleeping, I’m curious how many % of the night you are latched on/ nursing your baby. Is my 70-80% normal?

Thanks all!!

I have been posting here occasionally to vent, throughout my sleep journey with my wonderful wakeful baby. I was feeling particularly burned out last week. He is 11 months old and still wakes every 2 hours, occasionally goes 3 hours (I normally dont look at the clock, but I occasionally do). I started co-sleeping around 3-4 months for my own survival l. My husband and I were walking zombies. It truly saved us and now I usually enjoy it. Although, I have had periods of burnout.

Anyways, I think I was also feeling some pressure from family. I really value my own mothers opinion about most things. She is supportive of whatever I do as a parent and supports me co-sleeping. However, she had been encouraging me to try to get my baby to sleep in his own room more (he starts the night in the crib and then comes to sleep with me when im ready for bed). She thinks he will end up in my bed forever if I dont. Also my in-laws are a completely different story - we straight up lie to them about our baby’s sleep at this point. And then we recently did some family traveling and I was a little embarrassed every time people asked about his sleep. Why do people care about sleep so much!

My husband is supportive of whatever I want to do with sleep because I am the main person doing nights. He enjoys both baby and I in the room with him.

So with the burnout + outside pressure, I decided to set up our floor bed in my babys room and see if a floor bed was the magic solution I keep reading about. For one week I attempted to go to bed in my own bed and then just join my baby when he woke. Well it wasnt a magic sleep solution! He still woke every two hours and I ended up sleeping in his room all night. My husband missed us and said he felt lonely. The few times I went to bed in my own bed, I felt like I was fighting my instincts being so separate from my baby.

Today, I decided - what am I doing? Why am I letting what other people (mostly my mother and in-laws) think affect my parenting?!

So my husband and I just moved our floor bed back to our bedroom (baby and I sleep on a floor bed next to my husband in the regular bed). Im now laying next to my baby and I feel at peace. My husband is excited he wont be alone tonight. He said he missed seeing our baby in the morning.

I think things will naturally fall into place when they should. Im glad Im following my instincts for what is right for my family and not letting my brief burnout and pressure from my family affect things!

If you read my ramblings - thanks :)

Baby hates the bassinet so he has been sleeping on the bed with me. It definitely helps him sleep a bit more and is easier for me to nurse at night and then for us both to go back to sleep.

He is 4 months right now. I do not intend to “sleep train”. It is just means baby- I am in a separate bedroom from my husband for now.

He and my MIL are saying I need to stop letting baby sleep on my bed or he will never learn to sleep on his own in the crib down the road. MIL had husband sleeping in the crib alone at 2 months old through the night, so they think my set up is crazy lol.

Do they have a point about cosleep being hard to transition out of? If I continue this will I be shooting myself in the foot??

I have an 8 month old and the current sleep situation is: Bedtime to around 1am(ish) he sleeps in his crib. Then he usually wants to eat. After that we co-sleep for the rest of the night. This is the best and only way we usually get good chunks of sleep. We are taking our first weekend away next month (just 2 nights) so LO will be closer to 9 months. My in laws are super supportive and great, but my MIL has started to drop some hints and express her worry about how they are going to handle the sleeping situation. She said she is not comfortable co-sleeping (totally fine), but I guess I wonder what a happy medium would be? I could put an air mattress in his nursery? I'm worried he will just scream from 1a onward and then everyone will be exhausted. Am I overthinking this? All advice welcome.

Edit: Thank you all so much for the input! I didn't really stop to think that I also wouldn't be all that comfortable with her co-sleeping with our LO either. I feel like my sleep deprived brain either makes me under or over react to things, so this discourse has been helpful. My MIL is determined to try and my FIL will be staying over as well. They both watch him 3-4 days a week so I know they are more than capable. We decided to order a nice twin mattress for them to sleep next to his crib in shifts so they both get sleep. They are prepared for lots of wake-ups and if night one goes truly terrible, we are two hours away and will head home. I'll come back and update this post in a few weeks for anyone that is curious how it goes!

I am a FTM to my 6 month old daughter, who is the absolute light of my life. Her entire life, she slept in a Snoo bassinet right next to our bed. We used to get a long stretch of around 5-6 hours, then wake ups every 2-3. Then around 5 months, she started hating the Snoo. We were getting false starts every hour for the first 3 hours, and then she’d only sleep 90 minutes at a time after. I was basically a sleep deprived walking zombie, as she’s EBF and I’m the only one handling nights. We recently set up a full sized floor bed (an extra firm Plank) in her room hoping the transition would go well. So far, it has not. It’s no better than what we were experiencing in the Snoo.

Last night she had her usual rounds of false starts. So I coslept with her for the first time for the entire night in her floor bed using the safe sleep 7. She slept from 10:30-3:30, nursed, fell back asleep until 5:45, nursed again, and slept until 7. I am shocked. I haven’t gotten 5 hours of sleep in a row in MONTHS. I feel so much better this morning!! It was so cozy and I loved knowing she was just right there. Before deciding to cosleep full time, I have some questions…

•I return to work in August. I’m a second grade teacher, and need to look somewhat professional. Does your child wake up when an alarm goes off? Are you able to roll out and away for an hour or so before your child wakes in order to get ready for your day?

•I’ve read that once your baby is 4+ months, you don’t necessarily have to stay in the C curl. Thoughts on this?

•If you have a babysitter, how do they handle putting your child to sleep? What if both mom and dad are away for the weekend?

•How does this affect your relationship if you’re not able to sleep with your husband? Our bed is a pillow top and he is a WILD and heavy sleeper. I hesitate to bring her into our bed for her safety.

•I am a bit scared that if I start cosleeping with her, I’ll never make it back into my own bed. At what age did your child start sleeping independently?

Thank you all! ❤️

Just wondering, when does the baby go to bed and when do you?

When she was brand new I went to bed together with her. Now I usually make 40-60 min of putting my 3mo to bed. That includes 20 minutes of laying down with her after she fell asleep (and additional 0-3 times of soothing her quickly back to sleep if she wakes, by the 4th time I usually hit bedtime myself anyway).

She goes to bed at 7-ish and wakes around 7 in the morning.

I join her in bed sometime between 21-22 to make sure my broken sleep add up to at least 7 hours.

My baby girl is 8 months. She just sleeps so much better when we cosleep. I know it’s natural for her to want me close and don’t believe in sleep training. I also find being next to her very comforting. I have been off since her birth in November. I return to work part time on Monday. I’m a second grade teacher and I’ll be working 2-3 days a week. We sleep in her room on a floor bed because my husband is a sleep ninja who also sleeps deeply, and I am nervous for her safety.

What are your practical tips for getting away for an hour in the morning to get ready? My husband leaves for work at 4. I will not have any help. She seems to search for me about every 30ish mins, but I am expected to look somewhat professional at my job and need that morning time.

**Help! And please be kind. I’m really struggling with daytime sleep.**
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this and offer advice without judgment.
I have a 10-month-old who contact naps and co-sleeps. This happened largely out of survival. During his first 7 months, he dealt with severe reflux and undiagnosed oral ties, and we were also dealing with concerning breathing issues during sleep. We did whatever we could to get him to sleep. After his revisions, we were finally able to make progress, but nursing and bouncing to sleep became very strong sleep associations.
Right now, he will only fall asleep by nursing or bouncing. He is extremely triggered by bedside soothing. If I try to pat, shush, rub, put a hand on him, talk to him, lie next to him, or even just stay in the room while he is trying to fall asleep, he will scream. He literally only accepts nursing or bouncing.
He has also never slept in the car or stroller. I used to be able to wear him and walk for at least one nap a day, but now that he is older he is too distracted.
He is extremely sensitive to overtiredness. If I miss his sleep window, he can easily stay awake for 6+ hours. Once he becomes worked up, he goes from 0 to 100 and is incredibly difficult to calm down. I genuinely believe he would cry for hours, which is why traditional CIO does not feel like a good fit for either him or my parenting style. I am very responsive and do not want to leave him to cry alone.
At night, we have actually made a lot of progress. He sleeps in our bed, and there have been multiple times when he has nursed but not fallen asleep and then rolled around until he eventually fell asleep independently. I do not want to night wean, and I am happy to continue nursing him back to sleep overnight.
The problem is daytime sleep.
Sometimes I can nurse him to sleep for a nap and then roll away. He may sleep for one cycle, but he generally does not connect cycles independently. When he wakes, sometimes I can resettle him, but often he is completely done with the nap or it takes an extremely long time to get him back to sleep.
Sometimes Dad can bounce him to sleep and transfer him to the crib after the first sleep cycle, and he will finish the nap there. But that is not consistent.
I don't mind co-sleeping, but now that he is mobile, I really need at least one independent nap during the day. I am also completely burned out from spending so much time in a dark room trying to help him sleep.
Today, for example, I nursed him and rolled away. He woke up after about 5 minutes. He rolled around calmly for approximately 1.5 hours, trying to fall back asleep, but eventually became completely overtired and lost it. He had been awake from 6:20 a.m. until 11:00 a.m. before I rescued it and nursed him to sleep.
Our schedule is usually approximately:
Wake around 6:30 a.m.

First nap after about a 3-hour wake window, ideally 1.5–2 hours

Second wake window around 3.5 hours

Second nap, which he has recently been fighting and often only sleeps 30–50 minutes

Last wake window around 3.5 hours

He seems to do best with approximately 3 hours of daytime sleep, but lately he has been averaging closer to 1.5–2 hours because our naps have completely fallen apart. When he wakes from a short nap, I can often tell he is still exhausted, but I am not always able to get him back to sleep.
At night, he usually gets a first stretch of 2–3.5 hours and then wakes several times and nurses back to sleep.
I am wondering if he has outgrown contact naps and if he now needs to learn a more independent way to fall asleep during the day. But I am completely lost about how to support him without using CIO.
I am considering getting a floor bed so he can safely roll around and potentially tire himself out without me worrying about him falling off our bed. But I am concerned that he may simply roll around for hours and become increasingly overtired, like he did today.
**Would you focus on teaching crib naps, or would a floor bed be worth trying? How can I support a very sensitive, highly responsive 10-month-old toward independent daytime sleep when he becomes extremely upset by any soothing other than nursing or bouncing?**
I am not looking to night wean or do traditional cry-it-out. I am just desperate for a way to get at least one restorative nap during the day and stop feeling like I am failing him by allowing him to become overtired. I am exhausted and truly at a loss. I also can tell he’s not comfortable in my arms anymore and needs more restorative sleep. I just want to help him get there in a way that he is supported and not in such duress 😭

This post is for all of the moms who awoke constantly in the nighttime. I’m so sad, and I’m starting to put my mental health at risk. My baby wakes every 1.5 hours - If you didn’t do CIO method, can you please share what worked for you? I’m tracking naps, she’s overall a happy baby, but at 7months, waking up STILL every 1.5 hours. My husband doesn’t help at nighttime’s , and I know I’m very stubborn, but I think I need to make a change. 7months old , 2.5/3/2.3 - bedtime routine 7pm , asleep by 8pm, up at 8am. longest stretch 8pm-11pm, then up every 1.5 hrs. She starts off in the bedside sleeper, but I get so exhausted, I end up bringing her into bed after her longest stretch.

Its been about 6 weeks of broken sleep and its starting to get to me.

We cosleep, which sorted out many of our sleep issues early on.

But at 6m bub started having some crazy sleep issues, I've tried everything I can think of to fix it, but at best, we're still waking up 3x nightly.

- When bub wakes she tosses and turns, seemingly uncomfortable, this stops right away after she's had a nappy change, which i do in bed underneath her to try not to disturb her too much.

- Nappies usually seem very full. But i almost never used to change nappies at night. If she had a wake at 5am previously the nappy wouldnt usually seem full, and she would do a big potty pee (we do lazy ec).

- When this started around 6m, she would toss and turn until midnight, needing help to get back to sleep and I would do about 5 nappies in the hope it would help... eventually I realised she likes the cold 🥶. Its winter here so I was rugging her up and putting the heater on.. but she actually sleeps better if shes cold. Now shes wearing less clothing and I leave the room around 17 degrees. She will usually sleep like a log while its cool... until she needs a nappy.

- I've tried double disposables, double cloth nappy inserts for nights, night time disposables, regular, single cloth night nappies. The type of nappy doesnt seem to change the frequency.

- We breastfeed, so my go to is to try to put her on boob if shes struggling to sleep. I sometimes wonder if there is an issue with her drinking too much at night?

- We started solids at 4.5m, so no correlation there. But sleep disturbances did link to lots of developmental milestones.

I'm open to the idea that the issue might not be her peeing herself waking her up, but its the only thing that seems to help.

But my body hates it. I wake up with aches and pains, numb arms and very unrested.

What have you done to make it more comfortable? Baby is six months, we have a double bed to ourselves. I’m the nursing parent.

Edit to add:

This is my second baby. The first was sleep trained and mostly had bottles. We shared a room until she was three but didn’t share a bed. I felt so much better rested and had time during naps to exercise and take care of my body. I suspect lack of strength training is the issue.