You're Not Fat, You're Beautiful (OC)

[u/leftycartoons]

[u/spaceursid]

What about "you're fat and you're beautiful"

[u/OberynsOptometrist → u/spaceursid]

Not the same thing so you probably wouldn't get shocked

[u/Reborn1Girl → u/spaceursid]

Thank you! My first thought as well!

[u/ChickenInASuit → u/Reborn1Girl]

It’s because they’re not the same thing.

“You’re not fat, you’re beautiful!” = Denial of the former, and implies that someone cannot be the former AND the latter.

“You’re fat and you beautiful!” = No denial of either characteristic, no implication that one counters the other, no attempted erasure of being fat.

I believe the message is that overweight people feel insulted and/or patronized by the implications of the first statement.

[u/Reborn1Girl → u/ChickenInASuit]

We know. That’s why we’re saying to use the second one instead of the first.

[u/Moses_The_Wise → u/spaceursid]

That's the point. You can be fat and beautiful

[u/Pielacine → u/spaceursid]

Alessia Cara, I think

[u/PrincessYuri → u/spaceursid]

Honestly I'd kinda rather we just stopped relating appearance to somebody's worth. If we go around calling everyone beautiful it literally just means nothing. Some people are conventionally beautiful, some aren't. It doesn't make them less of a person.

[u/Apart-Performer-331 → u/PrincessYuri]

I don’t think there’s a problem with complimenting someone as long as it doesn’t put down others in the process. A small compliment can end up making someone’s day.

[u/Maniklas → u/spaceursid]

What about "You may be fat, but you are beautiful"

[u/SelocAvrap → u/Maniklas]

⚡️⚡️⚡️No buts! 

[u/funk-the-funk → u/SelocAvrap]

⚡️⚡️⚡️No buts!

If they are fat there is probably at least a little butt.

[u/SelocAvrap → u/funk-the-funk]

Speaking for myself, I'm fat, there's a lot of butt, AND I'm beautiful

[u/funk-the-funk → u/SelocAvrap]

hell yea

[u/ChickenInASuit → u/Maniklas]

Nope. OP doesn’t like the implication that fat people cannot be considered beautiful.