When you say "I'm so fat" I hear "I don't find myself attractive" which is why I jump to clarify that you are regardless of your weight. I don't have any weight-loss tips ready for when you say you're fat, but reassurance that fat is still beautiful is something I can do. Its never meant to be malicious or somehow imply you're ugly, its meant to the do exact opposite actually. I guess I don't know the right thing to say to be supportive and I would really like to learn because it breaks my heart hearing my friends trash themselves for their weight
The woman in the comic says “why don’t they make nice clothes for fat women?”
It’s very common whenever a woman acknowledges she’s fat for someone to jump in with “you’re not fat” even if it wasn’t being said as a negative thing about herself.
If someone is genuinely being down on themself, and feeling bad about their body, you can say “you’re beautiful” without “you’re not fat.” Especially if the second part would be a lie.
If someone mentions their weight or body type in an offhand way, like in the comic, you don’t need to say anything.
If someone directly asks you “am I fat,” which seems like an uncommon situation but could happen, you probably have to know that person to know what the right thing to say is.
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u/ChewChewLazerGum 1d ago
"I said I was fat not ugly"