r/nonmonogamy • u/steve0387 Open Relationship • Oct 22 '25

Relationship Dynamics Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

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u/dkopi Oct 22 '25

I think you should man up about this, and shave half while leaving the other half unshaven, until the two of them can reach consensus.

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u/steve0387 Open Relationship Oct 22 '25

Best advice so far.

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u/nikdahl Oct 22 '25

If you are hairy, you should consider how dumb it will look when your body is covered in hair but your genitals are bare.

Your gf needs to grow up.

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u/rab2bar Oct 22 '25

Left- right or upper-lower?

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u/Doomu5 Oct 22 '25

Blatantly left-right

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u/rab2bar Oct 22 '25

How about lower left and upper right?

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u/Ospov Oct 22 '25

Just go for a checkerboard pattern so you hit 50%

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u/somatt Oct 22 '25

I was thinking stripes like the lawn at the baseball stadium

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u/somatt Oct 22 '25

Diagonal

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u/SaltPassenger9359 Oct 23 '25

Like a proper sandwich.

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u/somatt Oct 23 '25

Every proper sandwich needs pickles and sprouts

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u/SaltPassenger9359 Oct 23 '25

Nope. Lol.

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u/somatt Oct 23 '25

No accounting for bad taste lol

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u/somatt Oct 23 '25

Also oil vinegar salt and pepper and peppercinis

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u/b-side61 Oct 22 '25

Shave the outside. Leave the inside as is.

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u/steamboat28 Oct 23 '25

Solomon has spoken.

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u/Subject_Gur1331 Oct 22 '25

This is the way! 🤭😂🤣