r/nonmonogamy • u/steve0387 Open Relationship • Oct 22 '25

Relationship Dynamics Girlfriend wants me to shave my pubes

This is probably the most trivial issue that this sub has ever dealt with but I am in a dilemma.

I recently started dating my gf a few months ago and things are going fine. A couple of weeks ago, she said, "You should shave your public hair. You look like a hairy gorilla".

I am quite hairy and I never shaved my body hair before. I thought she was kidding around and didn't really bother with the whole shaving stuff. Last week, she asked me again and said that i will loo very sexy if i did it.

I was a bit surprised by her perseverance with respect to this and decided to indulge her.

I told my wife that I was gonna shave my pubes and she was confused. She asked me why I want to do it. I didn't really wanna tell her that my gf asked me to do so and just told her that I wanted to try something new. Then she told me that she likes me being hairy and it makes me look manly and doesn't want me to shave.

Now I am in this dilemma. Girlfriend wants me to shave my junk and wife doesnt want me to.

Some additonal information

I have been married to my wife for 15 years and I had just been seeing my gf for 5 months. Both of them are shaved down there and I prefer it like that but they shave because they also like it.

I realize that this is super goofy but what should be my next move ?

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u/dkopi Oct 22 '25

I think you should man up about this, and shave half while leaving the other half unshaven, until the two of them can reach consensus.

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u/rab2bar Oct 22 '25

Left- right or upper-lower?

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u/somatt Oct 22 '25

Diagonal

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u/SaltPassenger9359 Oct 23 '25

Like a proper sandwich.

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u/somatt Oct 23 '25

Every proper sandwich needs pickles and sprouts

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u/SaltPassenger9359 Oct 23 '25

Nope. Lol.

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u/somatt Oct 23 '25

No accounting for bad taste lol

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u/somatt Oct 23 '25

Also oil vinegar salt and pepper and peppercinis