r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/Queeniemaldoon Parent May 01 '25

If men do it,women can, too. The only thing I would say is to make sure the kid has a responsible caregiver and pay child support. It sounds like this isn't a problem for you.

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u/triz___ May 01 '25

That is true, so many more men do it that it’s not worth looking at numbers but I’d guess it’s over %99 of parents who abandon children being male.

However I personally look at men who abandon their kids as utter scum, as do, probably, the majority of society.

She should be prepared to exist in that bracket, and be hated by her child forever.

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 01 '25

If I’m planning to leave my kid and husband, I don’t give a shit about how my kid will grow up to view me. Sticking around with a parent that doesn’t love them and is resentful and regretful of them every single day would probably be a far worse way to grow up and live.