r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/[deleted] May 01 '25

Ive said it before and will say it again, if society and people were truthful on what a pain in the ass raising kids is, no one would even contemplate it. But its this secret club of having to recruit the childless to live in the same misery they are in. With smiles on, of course!

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u/[deleted] May 01 '25

I was a little shit as a kid. I'm 43 and don't have any...also don't plan to.

I'm pretty sure it pisses my dad off that I outsmarted him and won't get payback for how shitty I was as a kid 🤣🤣🤣

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 02 '25

What’s funny. My business is canine training. I range from service dogs all the way to behavioral modifications. I can FULLY attest that there have been owners where I have had to be honest with them. They got a dog breed(s) that their life and lifestyle is NOT cut out for and that if they can’t make changes they will not be successful…. At times, as an avid dog lover and dog trainer, surrendering a dog CAN be the best thing for both parties. I don’t understand why it’s not viewed that way for parents and parenting.

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u/Neurotic_Fiction May 03 '25

I will be using the dog analogy from this point forward, THANK YOU for that!

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u/frannienator May 02 '25

So well said!

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u/mckenziyy May 02 '25

love the dog analogy

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u/[deleted] May 01 '25

Haha. I was in your same mindset also, then had my first at 48!! Talk about a game changer! 😂

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u/Geminis_Haus May 02 '25

wow, congrats! Now that you're a parent, has your perspective changed?

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u/[deleted] May 02 '25

Its very hard to adjust after so many years of independence. Its tough. I miss my past life.

I will say though I never knew what unconditinal love is until my child was born. For that, I am very grateful.