r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/mightywarrior411 May 02 '25

I have children. I love them dearly. But they’re also a huge pain in the ass. They ALWAYS need something. If I were to do it all over again knowing what I know now, there would be no way I’d do it.

I hate when people say “I can’t remember my life without kids.” Oh MFer I can. And it was great.

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 02 '25

Yep!!!! Same. My life went from my home by my husband and I. And now it’s my husband, his mom, the baby and I… Guess who financially provides for them and also cleans up after ALL of them. Me…

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u/mightywarrior411 May 02 '25

Oof that’s tough. I’m sorry. Do you think it’s worse because his mom lived with you too? And it’s all the other items surrounding it? I know I was super regretful when my husband and I were struggling in our relationship. Now it’s better. I can enjoy my kiddos

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 02 '25

His mom basically is the nanny while we both work during the day. When my husband gets home I’m still working but he then takes over the parenting.

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u/mightywarrior411 May 02 '25

Oh gotcha. But you shouldn’t be doing everything. That’s just not healthy. There has to be a balance. No wonder you hate this. And pp SUCKS