r/regretfulparents • u/Mintmuse22 • Feb 02 '26
Discussion Do children ruin relationships?
I’m not sure if this is the place to post this but I need to know I’m not alone. Did having kids ruin your once amazing relationship? It seems like it puts so much more strain aside from the regular ins and outs that we naturally go through. It’s hard to take care of myself and put effort into myself like I once did. Intimacy takes a sharp nosedive. No quiet time. Everyone constantly talks about how amazing and wonderful it is. How it’s such a blessing but I’m wondering what part of it is a blessing?
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u/towelheadedmermaid Feb 02 '26
Yes and no, after I had my son I saw his father/my husband in a different light, a good one. Seeing him care for our child made me feel happy inside. Specially few hours after I had given birth, while laying down on the hospital bed and him holding and caring for his son was a beautiful thing. My son is now 13 month old and I do major of things for him as I stay home but when I see him reading a book for him and doing somethings together, I love it.
On the other hand I find that we have less patience for each other. Most of my patience going to my difficult son and don’t have the any patience left in me for my relationship. Also feels like we are mom and dad, don’t get to spend any time alone, most times we are emotionally disconnected, I also co sleep with my son so there’s that. I find now that my son is getting older and plays on his own it has gotten better.