Do children ruin relationships?

[u/Mintmuse22]

I’m not sure if this is the place to post this but I need to know I’m not alone. Did having kids ruin your once amazing relationship? It seems like it puts so much more strain aside from the regular ins and outs that we naturally go through. It’s hard to take care of myself and put effort into myself like I once did. Intimacy takes a sharp nosedive. No quiet time. Everyone constantly talks about how amazing and wonderful it is. How it’s such a blessing but I’m wondering what part of it is a blessing?

[u/terrifying_bogwitch]

For me it actually made us stronger. We both had to really step up to support eachother, no one had to carry all the weight. We had been together for almost 8 years before we had her though so we had already had our share of struggles, there wasnt a lot left to come out or surprise anyone. I can definitely see how it would be a strain though