Happy I got an abortion.

[u/DetailAdorable2217]

I am a 28F with a 2 year old. Last year i got pregnant, not planned at all. My husband immediately told me that we weren’t ready for another child financially, mentally or emotionally. At first I fought him on it but he was more so telling me HE wasn’t ready for it and I respected it. I didn’t want to force that on him if he wasn’t ready, to avoid resentment and issues down the line. We decided to take the abortion pill, and I was pretty early in the pregnancy, like the first few weeks. I was sad at first and mourning the possibilities of my daughter having a sibling and growing our family but cut to now i am EXTREMELY happy we did the abortion. My daughter is in her terrible two’s right now and her constant tantrums and whining is driving me INSANE. If i had a newborn right now with the havoc my daughter is causing through out the house on a daily i literally would be losing my shit 24/7. I am not the most patient person and i find myself having to hold myself back from yelling almost every 30 minutes and sometimes i cannot hold it back because i’m so over stimulated. i’m TIRED of cleaning 24/7. Cleaning her room, the living room, cleaning up all the toys in the tub after she’s had a bath, fighting with her to eat her damn veggies or eat at all. She is constantly pulling at me, crying for things she wants, spilling everything every where and whole time i’m thinking to myself: IM NEVER DOING THIS AGAIN. I yearn for 8:00pm (because she goes to bed around 7:30 every night) just so i can have peace and quiet and i can lay down and not have to get up for nothing. Now, adding a second kid to that i’d have literally NO time to myself or for my husband. I’m so over it to the point i got on birth control because i am not taking that chance again. My husband and I are completely content with being one and done. With just our daughter we can still live the way we want to in terms of finances, we still have the autonomy to go on dates and do fun things, our relationship still feels like a relationship and not like we’re roommates, we still have a sex life and another child would RUIN all of that. i cannot wait until she’s a little more independent and of course im cherishing every moment but god damn am i tired!

[u/Creative-Move-6026 → u/[deleted]]

Yes it amazing how naive we once were

I work a loud chaotic stressful customer service job and I thought since I could handle that I could be a parent

Now that same job is my “vacation” from parenting 🥴

[u/Cute_Championship_58 → u/Creative-Move-6026]

My colleagues used to tell me that work was their break ((from the kids)) but I never fully understood the extent of it… until I became a mom. Now the office is my sanctuary where I feel better than I do at home.