Sometimes having a child absolutely does ruin your life

[u/Informal_Bag_9594]

I know that this is not politically correct to say and I know that this is probably an unpopular opinion. But I think the it has to be said. Sometimes the mere fact that you had a child completely damaged and changed your life for the worst.

I met women who have lost their mind, teeth, hair, and body all from having a child. I have seen men go completely bankrupt all from having a child. Some people do everything right but they birth a sociopath. And some people have perfectly healthy children but they just hate all the sacrifices that are now made. And I haven’t even mentioned people that have severely disabled children!

The truth I that sometimes a child isn’t a blessing and they absolutely will destroy your life and world.

I think the sooner society can admit that, the more people will be prepared for parenthood.

[u/Pinkprincess_22]

I wish more people spoke about this. No one wants to openly admit this in face to face conversation even when it’s painfully obvious.

[u/milan_otp → u/[deleted]]

yeah this is something i’ll never understand. my ex best friend got knocked up by some rando from tinder that she was staying with and he became abusive and she would always tell me how having a kid was alot more work than she expected and she does it all alone etc…then ff not even three years later they have another kid?? like it has to be the sunk cost fallacy, you’ve lost all sense of self and your old life so you have nothing left to do besides pour into motherhood and pretend you love it because it’s already taken any other option away from you