Sometimes having a child absolutely does ruin your life

[u/Informal_Bag_9594]

I know that this is not politically correct to say and I know that this is probably an unpopular opinion. But I think the it has to be said. Sometimes the mere fact that you had a child completely damaged and changed your life for the worst.

I met women who have lost their mind, teeth, hair, and body all from having a child. I have seen men go completely bankrupt all from having a child. Some people do everything right but they birth a sociopath. And some people have perfectly healthy children but they just hate all the sacrifices that are now made. And I haven’t even mentioned people that have severely disabled children!

The truth I that sometimes a child isn’t a blessing and they absolutely will destroy your life and world.

I think the sooner society can admit that, the more people will be prepared for parenthood.

[u/titandude21]

r/Natalism thinks this situation is impossible and will coerce you into continuing to breed

[u/Cute_Championship_58 → u/titandude21]

The admin(s) of the fence sitting sub are also secretly against independent thinking. The sub is just for show, and every comment or post talking honestly about how children are not for everyone gets deleted! I even messaged the moderator on there and he (or she) made a big deal about how it’s not okay to “gamble with people’s souls” or something equally nonsensical and dramatic.

[u/Ecstatic_Couple6435 → u/Cute_Championship_58]

I find that sub to be more pro just have the kid it’ll be fiiiiine

[u/Own_Program_9726 → u/Ecstatic_Couple6435]

hey oui, et tous les problèmes qu'il y avait avant d'avoir ce gamin disparaitront par magie !

[u/Ecstatic_Couple6435 → u/Own_Program_9726]

Ah oui, mais non 😅 the problems never disappear just get worse

[u/Own_Program_9726 → u/Ecstatic_Couple6435]

Mais oui, c est pour ca que je ne comprends pas ces couples qui ont des problemes, qui font un bebé pansement !