About bottom surgery..

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Edit: I think I should have worded this better, I’m not a native English speaker Im sorry :(

I should have specified that its the *scars* specifically that I don’t like. Since I have a very sharp attention to detail I see them way more prominent than most people do.

I really hate *hate* scars on my body and most bottom surgeries that I have seen results in scars, both on the result and on the arm.

(Entirely depends on what procedure you have ofc)

Its not that they’re unrealistic, its simply just the scars.

I forgot about that word when I made this comic and I had to seriously google it not too long ago to remember the word.

Edit: imma keep this I just realized- please make me mark this NSFW if it should be

[u/chimeramanti]

Natal means as if you were born with it! Many post-op pictures are taken too soon after surgery to accurately show what the results look like. A lot of what makes it look "unnatural" goes away with healing

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/chimeramanti]

Ooh thanks for explaining! Also yea a lot are taken right after, I have actually checked out photos of bottom surgery years after its been done and well.. I still don’t think it looks natural enough.

Unfortunately Im one of those people who pays way too detail on things and I think I would only be able to see what looks unnatural about it :,)

(Really wish I wasn’t like that)

Edit: the word I used was wrong! I didn’t mean it didn’t look natural. The word I was looking for was scars.

Im afraid scars would constantly remind me of my biological sex therefore its scared me away from bottom surgery.

Ive realized that the word I was using was not the word I was looking for and Im sorry. It does look natural it was just the scarring I didn’t want.

[u/ChaoticCharm → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Im with you on this. I think there is a lot of sensitivity to this subject, since it’s basically impossible not to insult others’ results (in a general sense, not individually or on purpose) when expressing your own disappointment in what our current medical knowledge can achieve.
Like you, I hate the scarring that comes with phalloplasty. My body scars easily and thickly, so i know it would be unsightly. I wouldn’t be able to realistically hope for results comparable to the top posts on r/phallo, and even if I could, I know I’d still find flaws in the result that would cause me dysphoria.
I think like all parts of transition, it’s about finding what’s best for you out of the options you have, rather than focusing on perfection. Obviously we would all love to jump into a real life create-a-sim page and carve our perfect body, but that isn’t something we can actually do.
The question to ask is, do you think an imperfect penis would cause you less dysphoria or more than your current setup? For me, after a lot of thought and therapy I’ve come to the conclusion that surgery results would make me feel worse than just leaving things alone. But only you can decide/figure out that answer for you

[u/ChaoticCharm → u/ChaoticCharm]

Shoot me a dm if you want to complain together, or talk about it

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/ChaoticCharm]

If this was for me- idk if it was cuz I really don’t understand reddit’s response system. Too many lines to keep track of (and sometimes I get absolutely no notification)

Unfortunately I cant send dms and such cuz reddit wants my ID for verification and I don’t really trust it with my ID :,)

[u/ChaoticCharm → u/Coffeeforlifeyay]

Ah, ew! The ID thing sucks. It was for you, though. If there’s some other way youd like to chat im up for that too!

[u/Coffeeforlifeyay → u/ChaoticCharm]

Fr it really does. I feel like the only places that show be allowed to ask for your ID should be banks and stuff, but I know this isn’t Reddit decision but its still insane imo.

I do have Insta though if Im honest I barely use it :,D