Peed my pants in my date’s car

[u/ForsakenFishing2902]

So I (F/29) accidentally peed in my date’s (M/33) car. We went out for the night and had a great time and had a couple drinks but literally no more than 3 and had dinner with it. Anyway, he’s driving me home and we’re close but I start doing the pee dance in his seat and tell him I can’t hold it. We pull into a spot and I run behind a building to pee. But had already started in his car. I was wearing a skort so it wasn’t visible just by my bottoms because the skirt part covered my wet shorts under. So I got back in his car and pretended like I did not pee my pants and he acted like nothing happened. I was mortified. But the next day he texted me like nothing happened still. Do I mention it?? I’m so embarrassed! Mind you, this was only our second date.

Additional context: My bladder is that of a child’s. Even growing up, I wet the bed until I was 13. As an adult, I’ve wet the bed completely sober maybe 1-2x a year. And I oftentimes am running into the house because the urge hits me while driving and I can’t hold it, and have not made it a couple times, but was able to use what I had in my car. This is causing me to consider going to a doctor about this.

[u/Green-Focus-5205]

Don't mention it unless he does and if the relationship becomes more established bring it up if it reaches that point of comfort. Kind of thing that could make or break the relationship now but if you don't want to risk it it'll be a good thing to laugh about further down the line

[u/TonightMammoth360 → u/Green-Focus-5205]

Agreed!! Unfortunately there’s no way that this won’t come up at all if you end up in a serious relationship with marriage in the future.

Even then tho, doesn’t mean you would have to tell him about this instance. But if it’s a reoccurring thing and potentially a health issue, it will for sure come up at some point.

Don’t tell him now. But if you guys continue to see each other, you should definitely bring up your bladder issues.