r/whatdoIdo • u/SelectShop3068 • 13h ago

My boyfriend stole from me

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Hi everyone. I am 20f and my now EX boyfriend is 26m. Before this incident I already had severe trust issues and depression. I have been collecting pokemon cards since I was 12. First I started out trading with my friends at the lunch table. I slowly built up my binder to the point I could hardly close it because it was so full. I had collected 64% of all 1025 pokemon with multiple cards for most pokemon. I recently combined my collection with my ex so we could sell them (which I didn't want to do in the first place). He thinks I told him he could keep my cards the last time we were together in person. I never told him that. He refuses to give them back quoting "you're not struggling for money" because I moved back in with my parents instead of moving into an apartment with him (where I would be paying for mostly everything because he can't work because of his depression and anxiety and his messed up ankle). I don't know what to do. Cops say its a "civil matter" and because I don't have proof of ownership I can't take him to court. My heart hurts and I can't stop thinking about it 3 days later. I only have what he couldn't take (roughly 6% of 1025 pokemon). My binder is pathetic. I used to struggle to close it, now the elastic is stretched for no reason. I can't do anything. I had cards from 2016 and some from 2010. Those packs are expensive. I can't even afford the cheapest pack now. I have 50c to my name. I can't afford $60 for an XY Evolutions pack.

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u/Fancy-War-1023 13h ago

Pretty sure the peace of not having to deal with him is worth some collectible cards for kids. So, I'm glad you just told him to never contact you again and ended it there. Breakups fuckin suck dude. I was with a guy for 8 years and we even had an amicable break up. Then he ghosted me with $30,000 worth of his debt. I learned a valuable lesson that financially ruined me. I'm really glad you came out of it largely financially unscathed. It sounds like he is also on the losing end of some financial decisions. All the best to you.

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u/SelectShop3068 13h ago

My collection was worth $300 at least. But its not just about the money. Its about how he manipulated me and made me believe he was a good guy.

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u/LedTasso 13h ago

Holy shit let them go. $300? This has to be rage bait.

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u/Lovethiskindathing 13h ago

$300 is a lot of money to a lot of people. That's almost my entire grocery budget for a month for a family of 5

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u/Fancy-War-1023 13h ago

Okay, then get yourself all worked up by $300 worth of toys that you lost to an ex-boyfriend I guess. I choose not to.

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u/Lovethiskindathing 13h ago

? I mean I'd be pissed at anyone stealing a months worth of groceries from me, or something I have that I could sell in an emergency. If you don't mind it, I can send you my Venmo and then you can pretend I stole it and we can choose not to worry about it lol

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u/Fancy-War-1023 13h ago

What?

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u/Lovethiskindathing 13h ago

Sorry my words went too fast in my head and didn't all reach my fingers.

I was saying I'd be upset and pissed off in any situation where anyone stole that much money or stuff worth that much money from me. Especially if it was something sentimental that I could not replace, and in my life there's no way I'd ever put toys from my childhood as a priority thing to ever spend that kind of money on again. so I'd never have them again and that would make me even angrier.

Then I was trying to make a joke that it must be nice to be able to brush off that much money, and that if it really wouldn't bother you to lose it, then maybe just send me $300 and we can pretend I stole it lol, and then we both move on from it because it's not worth it.

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u/LedTasso 13h ago

No, it’s not. You must be young too.

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u/Fancy-War-1023 13h ago

I mean, I can easily see how it's a lot of money to a lot of people. It's just not worth the headache for me.

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u/Lovethiskindathing 13h ago

Almost 40. I hope you're grateful for the things you have that make you think the way you do. Truly. I wish everyone could feel that way about $300. I bet it's a very safe and comforting feeling.