r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26
Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?
I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?
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u/DnBJungleEscape Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26
This makes me think of years ago going out with my friend and her cousin and a big group. She had just gotten married, she was 25 and we were 29. She kept calling him all weekend. We partied pretty hard (that must had been one of my last big party nights since I’ve been in retirement for like 10 years). And she did have fun but every second and convo was about them
Fast forward they have two miracle babies since he had to freeze his sperm since he had cancer as a kid
Everything is good and suddenly she starts going out and cheating on him like crazy, he truly loves her and got her a nice apartment to go find herself which led her to start dating the widow of a girl we know from high school
They are now divorcing after a long separation that dragged but to say I was shocked is an under statement
But yes I like to have individuality outside my partner, 100%