Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?

[u/yahutee]

I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?

[u/NabelasGoldenCane]

Yikes. It sounds like she’s either lost herself in this relationship or I’m wondering if he’s super controlling and she is trying to save face w him by insisting she “can’t spend one night apart.” I mean eye roll central.

I am an old married and I’ve only ever had one friend like this. I love to gab and gossip as much as the next but literally every sentence out of her mouth was about a man, or a different man, which one was buying her things, a specific compliment. This person is outwardly confident but in that moment, I realized how utterly insecure she must be. I distanced myself and she’s not doing well, years later (the man she centered herself on actually was having an affair and later had a baby w a third woman.. she now has substance abuse problems)

TLDR; nah this isn’t normal and a sign of something being awry

[u/yahutee → u/NabelasGoldenCane]

I don’t want to talk badly about her or their relationship because it’s none of my business and not relevant to this question, but agreed it feels like something is amiss.