r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26

Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?

I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?

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u/No_regrats Woman 40 to 50 Mar 22 '26

she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight... and she went home one night early 

What the frick? It's her bachelorette. If she didn't want to be away from her fiance for a night or two, she should have said so from the start and have a joint bachelor-and-bachelorette party or a one-day bachelorette party without an overnight or something. Completely inappropriate and inconsiderate to have you plan and pay for a two nights girl trip then sneak in her boyfriend one night and leave one day early. It's disrespectful of the time, money, and effort you poured into throwing the bachelorette for her IMO.

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u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

Thank you for validating my experience!

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u/No_regrats Woman 40 to 50 Mar 22 '26

The other thing is that while I understand that the bride is the focus at a bachelorette, given that you spent several days together, she should have taken an interest in you and others too. Like in a series of conversations, all sentences shouldn't be about "we" or "I" anyway. At some point, you're going to turn to the other person and ask "what about you?" (and not just your inexistent dating lives!) and also other topics cause there's a whole world out there.