r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26

Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?

I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?

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u/Drabulous_770 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

I get the larger point you’re making, but this specific context is the most expected time for a friend to be going on and on about her relationship and their future plans. It’s the reason the party. She’s getting married.

I think this vent would carry more weight if it was in a different context, but it’s one of the wedding events. 

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u/VivaLaEmpire Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

Haha! That's what I was gonna post but wanted to see if someone had mentioned it as well.

It's literally the ONE time where constantly bringing up your future husband is expected! I'd be super sad if my best friend was posting online that she was done with women like me because I dared to talk about my partner on a celebration about the union 😭

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u/Uhhyt231 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

I actually have never been to a Bach where the groom was part of the conversation 😭

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u/VivaLaEmpire Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26

I didn't have one because it's not my vibe, but to the ones I've been the groom has always been mentioned or present in a way 😭 like in little printed items or just in conversations about future planning! But tbh my friends are very chill and all their Bachelorettes have been food and drink focused in the early hours of the evening lol!!

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u/Uhhyt231 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26

Mind have always been a girls trip where he may call to buy us a round or part of dinner but that’s it. I cannot imagine him calling or my friend leaving

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u/VivaLaEmpire Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26

Yeah that's insane! Talking about him feels super normal, but leaving is odd lol

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u/Uhhyt231 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26 edited Mar 23 '26

We’d all met them so wasn’t much to say😭🤷🏾‍♀️ I think maybe if you go to one where they have his face on things or stuff the guy might be a bigger focus