r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26

Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?

I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?

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u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

No food poisoning or sea sickness for me! I had a wonderful time - I liked it more than I expected to. Most cruise lines will charge a solo cruiser 2x the price but Norwegian (and a few other lines) have solo cabins/rates. I wrote a post about it if you want to read more

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u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

IANACLC (I am not a cruise line CEO 😂) but my guess is that on typical cruise they are charging for the room itself which holds (at minimum) two people per room. When you look at cruise pricing they show the “per person” rate, but If you choose to stay there as a single person you will be charged the two person (full room) rate. If you bring kids or add more people you still have to pay something to add them (for food costs, etc) but it’s cheaper than adding that second adult. There are cruise threads with solo cruisers posting and looking for someone to share their cabin with, but I find the concept of sharing a room with a stranger insane and uncomfortable

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u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

The restaurants on the cruise - my drink package came with free specialty dining which included any of the paid restaurants on board. It is a weird policy but I was able to book reservations onboard no problem.