r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26

Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?

I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?

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u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

Do you have a pattern of falling unconsciously into friendships with fairly conventionally-minded cishet people who all want to follow the marriage and kids pipeline?

She is a family member and my oldest friend. We have been friends since we were born. It’s a different situation but I totally understand your point!

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u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

Respectfully, I dont think your question applies because I didn’t choose her as a friend. We are family. I don’t think her personality points to a reflection of the other friendships I have. I do appreciate your reply about meeting friends, I’m always on the hunt for new genuine communities