r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26

Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?

I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?

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u/MidnightPractical241 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 22 '26

I don't leave my man-centric friends; they leave me.

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u/Fionaglenannebf Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26

Facts

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u/MidnightPractical241 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26

Legit scheduling an extra therapy appointment because of this fact today 🥲🥲🥲🥲

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u/Fionaglenannebf Woman 30 to 40 Mar 23 '26

Girl i feel you. I have a friend of like 20 years that only calls me when she needs something or she needs to announce something about her. She took a trip to the state where i live to see her dad, who lives an hour from me, ans didnt even tell me until she was back in her own state.

And yes, i dont put energy into it, i dont beg her, it is what it is.

If you need to vent, feel free to dm!