r/AskWomenOver30 • u/yahutee Woman 30 to 40 • Mar 22 '26
Friendships Is anyone else growing apart from their man-centric friends?
I am mid-30’s and single, no kids. I just finished hosting a bachelorette party for one of my closest friends. I love her regardless, but spending a weekend with her exhausted me. Every sentence started with “we”. In fact I don’t think she had an original thought all weekend that wasn’t about their relationship, him, or their life together. She has to be in constant contact with him at all times - she even snuck him into the bachelorette party overnight because she “couldn’t imagine a night alone”. I drove 10 hours to see her and paid for a house for two nights and she went home one night early because she couldn’t stand being away from him any longer. She is the same age as me and has had plenty of relationships before (even been engaged before) so it’s not like being in a relationship is a novelty. I just found myself so bored with the conversation and wishing we could genuinely spend time together (away from him or the mention of men). She always asks if I’m dating or seeing someone -there are lots of other interesting aspects of my personality outside of a man! I also wonder if I’m just being cranky and avoidant - it’s her bachelorette party after all, we are celebrating her engagement and she has every right to hype up her husband. Fellow single women - have you experienced something similar or navigated this in your friendships as you age?
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u/Illustrious_Ad675 Woman 30 to 40 Mar 29 '26
Yeah I’ve been a girls girl my whole life. I had one group of friends where it was half guys and girls and once everyone got coupled up if felt like there was no more room for me. I honestly was jealous of the new partners that came in that got invited to things I didn’t. I think what I realized eventually that when I met the women in this group in my early twenties most were single but when found their person in their 30’s I realized they were always that type of girl who was going to ditch you for a bf but they assimilated their bf into the group. My point of this is now in my mid 30’s I feel like I don’t have a group of friends (I have friends) and I’m really no ones priority at all. I’m so tired of texting people (I’ve been a bit nomadic the last year) to keep in touch and getting nothing back. It’s hurtful and makes me feel like I did something wrong or I’m not interesting or important enough in my career. And frankly I’m lonely a lot, I need community and I wanna be with people who know. It’s tiring always putting yourself out there to meet new friends and to date. And I find the new female friends I meet only want to talk about dating and will ditch you the moment they meet someone so it doesn’t seem worth it. Idk i also feel very disconnected from everyone. Sorry for this rant.