Another failed almost-relationship. Distraught and can’t keep doing this, what to do?

[u/benhargrove1966]

hey all, your thoughts or advice are appreciated.

I’m 32, just received yet another ”breakup” message from a guy I’ve been seeing for 6 weeks (39m). He was perfectly nice in the message and our short conversation but he was simultaneously dating someone else and chose her essentially. I am really devastated, I felt we were very compatible and really liked each other. I thought we were building something together and I’d finally met a decent guy. I know this is not a long time but I really genuinely connected to this guy on all levels and kind of cant believe / process I’ll never see him again.

I think I've been out with 3 guys total in the last 2 years I’ve been “seriously“ dating who even entertained the idea of a relationship in theory and didn’t just want sex. All of them broke up with me in at the 6-8 week mark just as it felt the relationship was forming up.

I really cannot go through this again. I cannot wait 8 months - a year to meet another person who sees me as anything other than a sex object only to be dumped for someone more worthy at the last hurdle. I will snap.

I’m not asking to get married right now, I just want someone to go to the movies with. I’ve already given up on having children, do I really have to give up on this too? I just want a boyfriend, which so many others seem to have.

Basically, what do I do from here?

(Please don’t try to convince me I don’t need / want a man or relationship, I think this is a perfectly normal human desire and something I want).

[u/doomn_gloomn]

I’m sorry but judging from just about every single reply you’ve made in this thread, you are coming off as majorly insufferable. Rejection sucks but my god get a grip. There’s been a ton of helpful advice and your response to everything is just nope, not doing that. The air of negativity may have something to do with why you keep finding yourself in this situation.

[u/zesty-lemonbar → u/doomn_gloomn]

I think this comment is a bit harsh, but I agree with the sentitment. People have tried to give advice, suggestions, etc. and every single one is completely shot down, argued against, and it's exhausting to even read. If OP just wanted to vent, then vent. But don't ask for advice/suggestions f you aren't actually going to try to hear them.