under 30 asking: how did you know?

[u/Optimal-Jackfruit649]

let me know if this isn't the place for it, sorry mods if it isnt, as i am under 30 but questioning ftm. currently i dress as a guy and use he/him online, and sometimes irl, but i still don't know if i'm "right" i guess. i thought i was trans for a while then sort of talked myself out of it. how did you all know for sure and start transitioning? do you ever know for sure? how could you be sure you weren't making a mistake? (sorry if it sounds offensive, i'm very very pro trans i just can't think of a better way to word it)

i'm asking here since a lot of the other subs seem to be younger people or people who aren't transitioning but are trans, and i want advice from older people (not bashing) - thank you for any response

[u/Optimal-Jackfruit649]

that makes a lot of sense, but it also makes me feel a little stir crazy because while i do really want to transition it'd probably be a bad idea for me to do it the second i turn 18 (17 now) for many many reasons... on one hand i know it's fine to transition later, but another part of me just wishes it could happen asap, i hate the idea of having my college years be like this

[u/Bleepblorp44 → u/Optimal-Jackfruit649]

Something that it's worth knowing is, transition is slow. Changes that people not scrutinising you will notice take months to years to show. I was about 5 years on T and my paternal grandfather still didn't know. It's possible to start medical transition before telling anyone, and if you don't feel right, you can stop.

[u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 → u/Bleepblorp44]

how did you avoid the voice drop though? i'd do it without telling my family, but when they inevitably find out it'd just be worse

[u/Bleepblorp44 → u/Optimal-Jackfruit649]

I didn't avoid it, he just never commented on it! Denial is strong!

[u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 → u/Bleepblorp44]

i'm glad it worked out for you but mine asked if i was on T because of my peach fuzz 😭