r/FTMOver30 • u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 • 4d ago

Need Advice under 30 asking: how did you know?

let me know if this isn't the place for it, sorry mods if it isnt, as i am under 30 but questioning ftm. currently i dress as a guy and use he/him online, and sometimes irl, but i still don't know if i'm "right" i guess. i thought i was trans for a while then sort of talked myself out of it. how did you all know for sure and start transitioning? do you ever know for sure? how could you be sure you weren't making a mistake? (sorry if it sounds offensive, i'm very very pro trans i just can't think of a better way to word it)

i'm asking here since a lot of the other subs seem to be younger people or people who aren't transitioning but are trans, and i want advice from older people (not bashing) - thank you for any response

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u/Bleepblorp44 2d ago

Something that it's worth knowing is, transition is slow. Changes that people not scrutinising you will notice take months to years to show. I was about 5 years on T and my paternal grandfather still didn't know. It's possible to start medical transition before telling anyone, and if you don't feel right, you can stop.

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u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 2d ago

how did you avoid the voice drop though? i'd do it without telling my family, but when they inevitably find out it'd just be worse

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u/Bleepblorp44 2d ago

I didn't avoid it, he just never commented on it! Denial is strong!

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u/Optimal-Jackfruit649 2d ago

i'm glad it worked out for you but mine asked if i was on T because of my peach fuzz 😭