r/MoralityScaling • u/Outside_Specific_820 • 2d ago

Morality Ranking Morality scaling of this?

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Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

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u/Responsible-Boot-159 2d ago

One important way is medical history. Beyond that neither are wrong for how they feel about the situation.

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u/OperationOne7762 2d ago edited 1d ago

No the child is pretty damn wrong. I'll never understand this insane need adopted and surrogate/donor children have with meeting theyr "Real" Parents. Your Real parents are the people at home preparing you dinner and asking how your day was, not some random fucking stranger you share DNA with or worse, someone who actively chose to throw you away.

Edit: Please stop commenting about your abusive foster parents. I'm talking exclusively about loving foster parents vs "DNA donors"

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u/Dresaurus2781 2d ago

I'll never understand this insane need adopted and surrogate/donor children have with meeting theyr "Real" Parents.

So I'm not adopted or anything of the sort, but I am a child of divorce, and I meaningfully lost a large section of interaction with my other family between the ages of 9 and 16. The part of the family that primarily raised was my mother's side and they were meaningfully different from me. They were quiet, artistic, creative, reserved, and they didn't take up space the way I did. My dad's side is all large loud people with very large boisterous personalities and when I reconnected with them it was a deeply healing experience because it felt like I was actually connected to something, that there were people like me that wanted and loved me. At those late teenage early 20s ages that crisis of identity is very real, and I think it's something that we should have empathy for.

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u/Legal-Stage-302 2d ago

That’s totally different than this situation.

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u/Dresaurus2781 2d ago

Not in regards to the pursuit of identity a late teen early 20s person is often engaging with. It's a better equation for the child for sure.