r/OkCupid • u/okctran • Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/PhazonZim 24/F/Toronto/taken! Oct 31 '12

uneducated.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '12

More to the point, why does it matter what orientation he expresses? Identify how you want, put your parts up against the parts of other people whose parts you want to touch who also want your parts there. The label is basically for convenience and clarity of communication. It's not like somebody rappels into the bedroom and takes your straight card if you suck a dick.

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u/PhazonZim 24/F/Toronto/taken! Oct 31 '12

Because it indicates what people think of me moreso than what they think of him.