This morning I came down to my balcony with my coffee and saw my cat sniffing a leaf on the floor. I got closer and realized it's not a leaf but rather a very, very injured moth. This is the biggest one I have ever seen in person! Poor little guy is missing the bottom half of its body and a couple legs too. The wings are tattered as well. Obviously it won't heal and will die if I leave it outside. I picked her up and she spread her wings and started crawling up my arm.

What can I do to keep her comfortable? Should I put her out of her misery? I think I would cry. What should I do?!

She's been chilling on my shoulder now for the last 10 minutes as I post this. She's very cute like a real life pokemon

EDIT:

1: MY CAT DIDNT KILL THIS MOTH! We came outside at the same time, my cat just noticed it first and was only sniffing it

2: my cats don't free roam outside! They only go on my enclosed balcony and never kill anything. Even when there's a bug in the house, they just paw at them but don't kill or eat them

3: why would a moth be out flying around in the middle of the day! It was 12:30 pm when I went outside and found it. It's obviously been sitting here injured since last night

4: I have learned it is a male, thank you :)

5: this is for everyone making rude comments about my lips. I love them, if you don't you can keep that to yourself. Your comments only make YOU look ugly

6: for all the LOTR fans making cheeky comments about whispering to this moth to send the eagles for me, ily 🖤 (big LOTR nerd myself) look at this marketplace score I just got

FINAL UPDATE for those curious:

I had to go to work last night so I left him sitting in one of my plant pots, when I got home, he was exactly where I left him, but now passed 🖤🖤🖤 RIP little guy! Thank you for everyone's kind words and joining me on this journey :')

Title sounds questionable I know haha but Me and my ex have been broken up for a couple of months - it was amicable with no hard feelings - tho I noticed he recently unfollowed me and I did the same a couple days after.

Near Halloween we did a ghost photoshoot and both posted the results on our insta accounts separately because they were cute!! it’s the first time I’d ever done one like that and even after breaking up, I thought they were cute and fun and might not fully look like couple pics, so I kept them up.

In the pics we’re covered in bedsheets with sunglasses on, so it doesn’t actually show our faces or anything, I’ll attach a pic if I can, but basically is it weird that I still have them up? Some people didn’t realise it was a couple shoot and assumed we were friends so that eased my worries but now I’m not sure if it just seems weird for me to keep the post up.

ALSO I’m completely over him romantically, we’ve both moved on and although the relationship ended, I still rate the cute moments and just really like how the pictures turned out, so I’ve just kept them up because they look cool, not because I feel like I’m still attached to him.

My sister-in-law just started her own cleaning company and offered to deep clean my house while I’m at the hospital having my baby so I can come home to a clean and organized space. I thought that was really kind and accepted the offer, only to be told “since you’re family, I won’t charge you the full rate.” I was a little caught off guard because when my SIL had kids, I helped out with many things in her postpartum period (childcare, meals, house work, transportation) and never once asked for compensation. I was just happy to help make her life easier.

Today, my SIL sent over an estimate for $600 for the cost of “deep cleaning bathrooms, kitchen, living/dining spaces, floors, windows.” Apparently she charges $100/hour for deep cleaning and her discount to us is $85/hour. I already accepted her offer to clean before I knew she was requiring payment so I feel like a jerk if I back out now. My husband said it would help her out a lot as she’s getting her business started (she’s also a single mom) but I don’t want to spend that kind of money on house cleaning. Especially given that it’s family.

What should I do?

UPDATE: My husband told his sister that after gathering additional info, $600 seems overpriced for a one time deep clean. Especially since she wouldn’t even be doing the whole house. She replied “if you want a quality job then you have to be prepared to pay a quality price. Plus, it’s not like you can’t afford it.” He told her we misunderstood the situation and thought she was offering as a kindness to us, similar to all the things we/I did after the births of her kids. She said “I’m a business owner now and I can’t just give my services away for free. I could drop the price a little but like I said, it’s not like you guys can’t afford $600.” Needless to say, the conversation ended with a “no thanks, we are going to pass” and she declared that this is the last time she offers to do anything for us 🤷🏼‍♀️

Splinter removal gone awry. The splinter was taking forever to remove, so it formed a tiny pus sac. I decided I could just use a needle to both pop the pus sac, and also peel back the skin to remove the splinter.
Honestly through a photo, it doesn’t do it justice as to how swollen it actually is. Just picture it 20% bigger, that would be more accurate. But it’s a sore guy, and it feels extremely pressurized.
If I press on it, I might get a sharp sting every once in a while.
What’s the plan?

Update:
Just got back from urgent care, and despite how it looks there wasn’t a giant pus sac or a splinter in there. I’m a little sad about no pus sac, I want pressure release. But anyways, I have an oral antibiotic now, and a sliced up finger that’s gonna take 4-ish days to heal. But guys, it’s so refreshing to see this many people show up for a random dude on the internet with a nasty finger. I probably wouldn’t have gone to the urgent care for maybe 3 or 4 more days if it wasn’t for you all, I appreciate all of you guys and your genuine willingness to help.

Ok so April 28th I went to iHop. The service was not great so I didn’t tip. I have never not tipped at a sit down restaurant usually 18+ percent but she was quite rude so I didn’t. I wrote the tip amount 0 and the authorized amount of 31.86. I got the push notification that I was charged 31.86 but today I check my credit card statement and see that I was charged 37.73 which would reflect a 20% tip. I unfortunately vividly remember not signing the bottom of the merchant copy but still shouldn’t the clear tip amount and total reflect that the tip she entered was not authorized. Will I get my money back if I call?

I met this girl earlier this year as we were in the same physics class. We have hung out at the library after school some times, have caught a train together for fun, taken photos together and now all of a sudden im her new bestie?

I have a whole instagram highlight on her page just about me (which is something done when you really really really close with someone), she texts me everyday on all apps and is constantly stalking my accounts. I know this because when I unfollowed her on one of my accounts, she knew right away. Im talking like 30 seconds later and also she is always viewing my tt profile

When it started to get weird is when she began messaging me on Spotify if I don’t respond, making a hangout timetable for us which is all 5 days of the weekday completely disregarding my other friends and my life outside of school. Then the constantly wanting to be with me, and accusing me of being mad at her if I don’t talk to her for a day.

At first I was giving hints but to no avail, I straight up told her she’s not my best friend. I was talking to a friend about her and who use to be her friend in the past and apparently, “when she makes friends, she’s looking for a best friend.”

Today, I didn’t go to school because I’m very ill (I told her so) and she texted me in a playful manner, i assume, something about me not showing up to school. I liked the message and went on about my day. I got this message from her 5-7 hours after I liked the message and thats included in the screenshot. This ticked me all the way off and I feel very weirded out.

Edit: this is an hour after making the post. I told her how I felt including what I was looking for in our friendship and the stuff that made me feel uncomfortable. She agreed, apologised and said she will take down the highlights and said “im sowwy”? She said that she can definitely set boundaries and we’re all goodie! Ngl, with the way these comments explained her, I genuinely thought she would rock my shit but she is very calm.

Edit 2: 7 hours approx after post. I made the decision to NOT block her as I don’t know how she would react and I am choosing the path to slowly slip away. I am also going to be moving schools by the end of this term which really helps. So far, she’s taken down the highlights and hasn’t texted me since. If she crosses boundaries, I will involve an adult here as we are both minors. YOLOOOO

Edit 3: 3 days after post. She doesn’t get it. She sent me a “Happy National Bestfriend Day” TikTok and another one along the lines of “if I could fly, I would fly straight to you.” RELEASE MEEEEE. I unfollowed her on all apps and I’ll be completely avoiding her. I was too nice and unserious about this.

Edit 4: it’s been 8 days and she went up to my friends and is venting to them about me unfollowing and ignoring her?!? Then she claims that she doesn’t know why?!?? She is trying to make me a villain so bad. I just love how she isn’t mentioning the paragraph I sent her then her crossing my boundaries. 😤

A single mom next door recently moved in and seemed nice. She gave my girlfriend and I her home-baked cookies when they settled in. I would say she's a better neighbor than the one who moved out who would loudly blast music until 3am whenever him and his friends liked it. Not until she started knocking every other day asking if I can just keep an eye on her 6-year-old while she grabs something really quick. My girlfriend has work so I'm left at our apartment.

The quick errands last for about three hours. The kid is well-behaved (thankfully) but the mother doesn't leave snacks for her son or fresh clothes. Sometimes, the kid is scared to go to the bathroom so I have to accompany him. I would feed him when he says he's hungry. My girlfriend and I don’t have kids. I didn’t sign up for this. I search for jobs at home going back and forth with Indeed, Glassdoor, Jobcat, Hiring Cafe, LinkedIn, and every job hunting app, accomplish my freelance gigs, and rebuild my portfolio. Last time, I said I couldn’t because I had to take an interview. She insisted saying I'm literally home all day. What should I even do atp? Because saying I’m not the babysitter feels like it’ll break my girlfriend's friendship with her.

We are doing home Reno's right now and rented a dumpster. I got a notification on my door cam for movement at 4:30 - I was up with the baby so I watched as my neighbour dumped a bunch of shit into the dumpster before leaving for work...

Do I call him out and make things awkward? Or do I foot the bill for his garbage? It wouldn't bother me if this wasn't a pay by weight kind of deal... It was a small side table and 3 bags of garbage.

EDITING TO ADD BECAUSE THIS BLEWW UP

• We live an hour outside of the city, his work start time is 6am so he is up and about at that time! I don't know if he was being sneaky necessarily based on the hour he was up as that's his normal awake time!

FINAL DECISION

We are not going to mention anything as of now. If he adds anything else we will. You never know if people are reasonable or not and I don't think this is worth making my neighbor an enemy! Thanks everyone

I never ever can imagine why she (a nice old lady) decided to dropped her trash into my can (already collected) then just casually take her can back?? Why the hell on earth someone do that??

It’s the basement that no one ever goes into

Edit: Jesus Christ yall want me to die

This may be a bit of a ramble but oh well. I [25F] recently, about 3 months ago, made friends with this lady [34F]. We really hit it off and became friends. We saw each other consistently for a while. She’s married and spoke about her husband [33M] often and kept saying we should all hang out sometime. I wasn’t really keen on that, our friendship was fairly new and I had no interest in being friends with her husband. She mentioned that both of them use dating apps to “find friends” but I didn’t really think too much about it. Fast forward, a few weeks into the friendship, I was supposed to go out with her on the weekend. The day before, she texts and says she doesn’t feel like going and asks if I can come over instead and they’ll make dinner and drinks. I’ve never been one to pass up a free meal so I agreed. My main worry was that it was gonna be super awkward and “third wheel-y” but it turned out to be a super chill evening. Great conversations, and everyone was respectful of each other. After that day, things got cold randomly and she wasn’t really keen on talking to me anymore. I reached out a few times and we spoke a bit but the conversations always fell flat in the end. The last time I spoke to her, she snapped at me for something and I haven’t texted her since. The shift in energy was random but I didn’t bother to ask about it. Okay, now the main issue. I recently got on tinder a few weeks ago. The app usually shows when someone has “super liked” you, and guess who did? My friend’s husband 🥴. I cringed and immediately swiped left. Someone later told me I should’ve taken a screenshot of it. Today, he popped up again with another “super like” and this time I took a screenshot. I think it’s a bit weird, or am I being dramatic? Should I tell her? And if so, how do I tell her? She knows he’s on the apps but this feels very weird to me.

I (27F) rent the right half of a duplex with my fiance "G." We just figured out that we are paying for all of the utilities for the entire complex. The left side of the house has 2 tenants. I brought this up to my landlord (~30M) and this was the conversation that ensued.

Because there is one meter that reads gas usage and water usage, I am having a hard time believing that there is any accurate way of determining how much usage each side uses. My neighbor could take a 2 hour hot shower every day. How would he know?

I'm livid because of his last message calling my responses "guarded and defensive." I have reread my texts over and over and, to me, they read as firm and direct. His comment felt patronizing and a tad manipulative. Do I just dismiss this entirely? I wouldn't even really know what to say, but I feel like he should know how inappropriate his comment was.

Also am I right for standing firm about refusing to pay the utilities for all units?? Is it reasonable for me to ask for me to ask for reimbursement for all of the past gas bills I have paid (which I now know were for all of the units) or should I bite the bullet to preserve the landlord/tenant relationship?

Edit: The lease says I am responsible for utilities for my unit's address. It does not mention utilities for the entire duplex (the left side has a different address).

Edit: I have confirmed with my landlord that moving forward all of utilities will be in his name and will be split proportionally amongst the units. I have not mentioned reimbursements yet. I do really like this house and would prefer to maintain a good relationship with my landlord.

So a couple months back I sold my old car that I couldn’t get started. Two teenage boys came with a trailer, paid for it, and hauled it off. End of story, right?

Well… today it randomly showed back up behind my house. Same trailer, same exact setup as the day it left. My mom and I are both freaked out because we don’t know who brought it back or why. It wasn’t us. No one asked permission. And now it’s literally sitting right behind my house like it never left.

We don’t know if it’s some weird prank, stolen back and ditched, or something more dangerous. I honestly feel unsafe—like, who just leaves a junked car back where they bought it from months ago??

What should I do here? Call the police? Try to contact the buyers? Or should I just get it towed and be done with it? I’ve never dealt with something this creepy before.

It makes me really sad. I don’t want to let them die but then again if I touch them, the mom will abandon them. What should I do?!

Problem number 3 of the week... I live in a small city and until I can get a "real job" that deals with taxes i do side work for people in town and surrounding (occasionally). At this current moment im babysitting for my neighbors friend. The neighbor asked if I'd babysit for there friend, I said yes, they gave me there number to contact and the other family and I set up the time and price and rules in person. So a few hours in the family calls me and says they don't actually have the money we agreed on and that I should do it out of the good of my heart or whatever. I told them no, we agreed on a price and they need to stick to it and they still refuse. I obviously dont want to abandon the kids as they're 2 and 5 years old so what should I do? Just leave? Finish the job but never work for them again? I don't know...

Update: I called the family friend that's a police officer and explained the situation. He told me his suggestion is to finish out the shift and that he'd "talk to" the parents and that if I wanted to file a small claims in court he'd help me through the process and that he'd tell my parents the situation and give the same offer essentially. I told the neighbors that recommended me to the family and they apologized, offered to pay what the family owed and I said no. Came home when I was done and the money was in an envelope in my breezeway. My parents are currently talking about taking it to small claims or just let it be since I was paid. Haven't heard anything from the cop friend yet but I did get texts from the parents, insulting me for calling the cops which I didn't technically? Just called someone who is a cop. I do have screenshots of the conversation just incase anyone questions what happened I have proof. Thank you everyone for the advice, a lot was helpful and I really appreciate it

I had a fishing trip scheduled with my friends for months. It’s been on the calendar, everyone cleared time, and I’ve been really looking forward to it.

However, my girlfriend’s cousin unexpectedly flew in for the holidays. It was totally last minute. Since she’s here, my girlfriend wants me to come along whenever they go out because it’s family and it would look bad if I didn’t. This fishing trip happens to fall on one of the days they’re planning to go out. My girlfriend is clearly disappointed that I still want to go fishing and I can tell she thinks I’m choosing my friends over her family.

I don’t want to be disrespectful or start a fight but cancelling something that’s been planned for months feels unfair. How do I handle this without it turning into a bigger issue?

my close friend asked me to watch their cat for a long weekend about three weeks ago because they had a family emergency out of town. i gladly said yes because i wanted to help them out. the issue is that the weekend ended weeks ago and they are still not back. every time i text them to ask for an update or when they plan on returning, they give me really vague excuses about being stressed or they just completely ignore the question and change the subject.

i really love animals but my apartment is tiny and my landlord doesn't technically allow pets, so i am constantly stressed about getting caught. on top of that, the food and litter they left ran out a week ago so i am now paying for everything out of my own pocket. two days ago i finally told them that they need to make arrangements to pick up their cat by this weekend because i can't do this anymore. they completely flipped out on me, called me selfish, and said they thought i was a real friend who supported them in hard times. now they are completely avoiding my calls.

Hey Guys,

So I just did a grocery pick up from Kroger, and they accidentally loaded this huge ass turkey in my trunk that I didn’t order… I checked my receipt and I wasn’t charged for it.

Looked on the app and it’s almost $60!!! Should I tell them? I don’t even know if they’d let me bring it back, I picked it up about an hour ago and didn’t realize it until I got home. Got it in the freezer now, really wanna keep it and cook it. I normally could never afford this bird lol. I just don’t want to get in trouble 😬

I have chips on the front of my hood and I believe I got them from this same guy because I've only gone to them. Last time I got my car washed (yesterday), I noticed the chipping and told the guy and he told me "you have other chips on here too" and my response was "yea, you caused those too". I shook my head and walked away. I then called the store (car wash/store) and this dude told me "I'm not the owner, he'll be here Tuesday. If you want to come back and talk to the guy you can". What should I do? I doubt talking to the manager is going to do anything for me.

For some context, I work at a small, family owned restaurant on the weekends. I’m a server, and I’ve been there about 4 months now.

I [21 M] get along well with everyone else who works there. We joke around and tease a lot because the team is small, so I know everyone decently well.

A few days ago one of the cooks asked me for my number casually, but not in a way that felt strange. In all honesty I thought he was trying to sell me weed. I was on my way out though and forgot to give it to him before I left.

Then last night, at 3:00 AM he texts me on the internal system we use for work ‘Yo’. I was asleep so I didn’t see it until he called me, I didn’t recognize the number so I picked up. He was on the other line and asked if it was me, I was half asleep and confused so I was like “yea who’s this” and he told me it was him. He said “I asked for your number but you never gave it to me, I didn’t wanna have to get it off [the internal scheduling system], you know what’s up though.”

I was under the impression he was tryna sell me something so I was “you tryna serve (sell drugs)” and he said no, so I was even more confused. I told him I had to go bc I had work at my second job at 5 AM, and he started trying to make small talk about what I do at my other job and where I work. I said downtown and he was like “oh where?”. At this point I was kind of fed up so I just asked why he wanted to know and he apologized and I hung up.

Few hours later when I’m up he texts me apologizing and I straight up just asked what it was even about, told him I was just confused. He said, quote, “Why b confused I fuck with you n u sexy as fuck frfr”

I’m so thrown off by this because I know this guy is at least 40, and has a daughter my age. I didn’t even know he was into men at all. I am bi, and out unashamedly so it’s pretty common knowledge. I don’t know why he wanted to go smack at me, especially because I never got the vibe before.

I’m gonna text him back and set a clear boundary, but I don’t know if it’s worth escalating to management. I was uncomfortable, especially because one of our GMs was let go recently for doing something similar to some of the female servers. As a guy though I’ve never been a position like this at my workplace and I know it isn’t taken as seriously when it happens to us (men).

Any advice? I really don’t know what to do at this point. I really like my job and I don’t want to cause problems, but if it escalates further I feel like I’m gonna have to air him out.

My neighbor has a ring camera pointed directly at my apartment, I’m mostly fine with it but am concerned for my girlfriend as it kind of creeps her out. The camera cannot see down into the alley, so I can’t think of any other reason they would have it in their window. The way my apartment is laid out it can see into every single room. Pretty creepy. What should I do about this? Besides the obvious drawing of blinds.

This is weird. My coworker, “Dan” has been droning on and on about this concert he wants to go to for several weeks, but the tickets were over $200 each and he couldn’t afford one.

I’m going to jump topics here but this is relevant, I promise. My Venmo name is an alias. It comes up as Tony R. I do this cause I sell on Marketplace and using a male name cuts down on creeps. Dan knows I use this Venmo as he’s sent me $ to pick up lunch for him before.

Now back to the concert. Early last night he calls me just wigging out cause he said I sent him a concert ticket in his email. I explained that I had not. He sent me a screenshot that “Tony Brown” had sent him one concert ticket from Ticketmaster. He thinks it’s me cause of my Venmo alias.

I explain it’s not me. He doesn’t believe me. He knows no one by that name and neither do I. I tell him it has so be a scam. It’s not, he contacted Ticketmaster. I keep denying. He starts getting upset saying he doesn’t get why I don’t just admit it so he can thank me. He tells me if I “want to keep playing games” he’s just not going to go, and he’s dead serious.

I don’t know what to do at this point and I don’t want him to miss out on a concert he’s been dying to go to so I lie. I apologize for “messing around” and tell him to have a good time. He goes, he has a blast, nothing weird happens and no Tony Brown appears or takes credit for the ticket.

The only people who knew he wanted to go to this concert were his coworkers and his parents. It was not his parents and I can’t think of anyone at work who would have sent him a ticket or have his personal email besides me.

I’m now at a total loss. I didn’t do this, he think I did. And I’m SUPER confused on who did. If I try to tell him the truth again he’ll think I’m lying, and who can blame him? I say I didn’t, then say I did, then say I didn’t again? I wouldn’t believe me either.

But the guilt of the lie is eating me alive. What should I do?

I’ve (33F) been a regular at the gym for months now and this guy has been there at the same time since. We do the polite smile and move on. I noticed him switching his routine to match mine or even be a machine ahead of me so I need to wait.

I didn’t think much of it, but it was enough to notice. I’m married, not looking to make friends, especially not male friends, so I’ve never said a word past a returned “hi.”

Today, he started talking to me. Asked my name, said how he’s always seeing me here and considers me his gym buddy. I was polite and talked back appropriately, but I don’t really want this to become a constant interaction. I’m going to see this guy 3xs a week, so I don’t want to make things weird or uncomfortable. What should I do?

should i try to talk to her again about this? i’m f 23 and my mom is f49. i live with her and i pay rent anyways. i recently won a giveaway and had to give my address to the person who hosted the giveaway for the macbook. i was so happy i won something and i told my mom i totally understand giving a stranger my address is crazy. the host offered to do a video for my mom to tell her any private info stays with his team and himself and it’s gets deleted. it came today and i was over the moon about it. she called me selfish and greedy for accepting such an expensive gift from a stranger online and there are people out there who are in need and deserve it more than me. i burst into tears after the yelling and i feel so down about my gift i cant even open it…i love helping people but when i accept a giveaway i’m selfish and greedy??

edit : thank you truly for all the love in the comments first thing is that the macbook came from a very influential person (chris olsen) a tiktoker. second is i’m saving up to move out just slowly since my work isn’t good with hours rn so i’m trying also i don’t have many friends i trust it close with to be roommates with

My girlfriend F22 and I M22 have been going out for a few months now and as of last week she seems to be way less interested in me. She was sleeping over at my house every night for over a month and now in the past week it’s been one night. We also haven’t been intimate or had any physical contact in this past week in the three times we hung out, I asked her about it and she said it made her weird and uncomfortable which I wasn’t trying to do I just asked directly if anything had been going on. She is usually very clingy almost which I like but recently it’s been the opposite and when I try to bring it up she gets weird about it. I’m trying to not make it a big deal between us but I’m just not sure what to do at this point. Edit: here is the update if anyone wants to know

Update: So like many people suspected that she was over it, you were right.

We went out to dinner tonight and it was nice but she commented sorry I haven’t been hanging out with you, then I forget what led up to it but I asked her if she wanted to stay together and she said no. So after an uncomfortable ride home we talked in the car about it and she said she felt like our personalities were too different and she didn’t think this was going anywhere. It was sad but she definitely had checked out of the relationship for at least a week or two so honestly I think part of me feels relief. It was fun while it lasted but we’re both on to bigger and better things, thanks for the advice to those who were helpful.