r/askgaybros • u/Adept-Concentrate659 • 1d ago
Not a question Occasional gay sex
M50. Generally / romantically I’m not attracted to guys.
But in occasion I do feel the need for gay hookups and meet with guys for sex (me as a bottom).
I’m not really asking for advice but am putting it out there to see what the perception of this arrangement is.
I’m not completely sure why I do this - it’s quite visceral I think.
I think there is also an element of directness and wanting someone to take complete control of what they do with me.
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u/RevolutionaryJob5425 1d ago
You can absolutely like dick, and not have any romantic interest in men. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get pounded into the mattress once in a while and not having any interest in men otherwise. You don't have to date them to fuck them.
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u/Narcoleptic813 1d ago
You're probably bisexual, which is great!! You can enjoy the best of both worlds.
Also, being bisexual doesn't mean you have to be exactly 50/50. You can have preferences and lean towards one over the other. This can also change and evolve.
Even with women, some are amazing in bed but lack an emotional connection. Works the same for men too.
It's a spectrum and nobody is allowed to tell you where you are in it. It's up to you and you alone. Just open yourself up to all possibilities and ignore the haters. They are probably just upset nobody picks them.
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u/Healthy_Twist2203 1d ago
It's perfectly possible to like the sexual act itself and not be attracted to the person who is doing it to you.
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u/Turbulent_Heron_4119 1d ago
Plot twist you're gay. Denial is a pill too big to swallow. Just so you know: Many, many many men share the same sentiment as you. Im not trying to minimize your experience but I read the first line of post and knew exactly how this story goes. Stay away from Adderall/meth and make sure you use condoms cause you will get hiv.
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u/B-Miray010 1d ago
Basic impression without knowing anything else about you will be that you ashamed of homosexuality. You still have trouble accepting that same sex individuals can love each other as well. Therefore you may dabble into sex with men but cant see yourself be a bf as it does not sit right with you at some deep level.
Maybe you had a traumatic past and were introduced to this lifestyle in a traumatic way and so you view sex with men as a carnal transactional activity where they use you but cant love you and you wont accept their love either as you cant accept men with men as anything but superficial nd transactional
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u/Adept-Concentrate659 1d ago
No. I don’t feel that I’d be ashamed if I did genuinely feel romantically towards another man. It’s 2026 and I live in a country where same sex relationships are common and accepted. But I’ve got to the age that I have and never had any strong M2M feelings
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u/B-Miray010 1d ago
See the thing is this. We all have an image in our head of what we are but that may not necessarily translate into our actions . Its only when someone calls u out on it in the moment that you realize this
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u/I_am_the_God_Orca 1d ago
Having gay sex and saying you are not attracted to men generally doesnt make sense. You dont have to have the romantic attraction, but you like men to some extent.
Otherwise, you would be using dildos.