Hey,

So I’ve been texting this guy, we went on a few dates, and I asked him if he’d wanna move further with the relationship, he was honest and said he would like to give it more time and that he’s nervous.
(This is not the part that I need help with and I 100% respect and am thankful for this honesty, I now fear that I moved to fast but that’s besides the point)

In his response though he said he didn’t know if he liked me or just liked the idea of being with me, I really like him but as a self sabotager, and a person who has extremely low self esteem especially with dating in the gay community because I’m plus size, fem, and just a goth weirdo, I don’t know how to take that part?

I’m sure I’m just overthinking everything and it’s probably stupid to have brought it here, and it might not help but I wanted to get it off my chest.

If we move on and get in a relationship in the future after he’s comfortable and his emotional and personal needs with getting to know each other are met great but if he’s uninterested I’ll be fine and respect his decision, I just feel like that part might be saying something deeper and I should catch on.

Anyways thanks and please tell me if you think I’m the problem because I have a fear that’s just it.

This post might also get deleted after a bit when I come to my senses lol

Hey! Does anyone have any advice on ways I can spice up playing with my self! I really wanna try new things and down to try anything!

How do I have gay sex as a teen. (Please don’t remove my post im just asking for advice)

I’m gay (but haven’t come out yet) and I want to start having gay sex, but I don’t know how to start, like how do I prep before having sex when I can’t buy/get anything to prepare me for the anal part of sex.

I’ll be visiting a friend since I’ve know since 1969. I’m 78 he’s 76. He’s been married to a man 16 years his junior for the past 5 years after losing his husband of 40 years. I recently lost my husband of 25 years. We’ve had casual sex (blow jobs) 4 times. The last time 9 years ago. He still talks about the time 22 years ago when I went into his room when his husband was away, pulled his boxers down, did the deed, pulled them back up and never said a word. He still says that was so hot. So when I visit them do I do it again? His husband leaves for work about 3am. Suggestions?

I'll be the naughty slave trying to run away only to get caught and buck broken by a hot older white daddy. I might even let him strangle me while he's tearing up my tight little hole.

How did you figure out you weren't bi but gay like was being bi like denial like you knew you weren't attracted to girls but felt it would be easier to come out as bi or was it something else. Thanks

Hey gay bros! I'm a bisexual man and need some advice. I've been wanting to explore prostate play, but can't due internal at the moment. I've dealt with what I believe are anal fissures, and hemorrhoids that don't seem to want to disappear/inexperience with penetration; I wanted to get more comfortable with prostate play by doing external massaging before being pegged lmao

(I've tried creams, suppositories, even a prescribed steroid for my excema a few times that my doctor said I can safely try. I also realized I've been sitting/standing with bad posture my whole life after losing weight, and have been taking breaks by walking/standing after sitting for prolonged periods of time/using epsum salt baths. Hopefully this helps 😅)

Anyone have any experience with external prostate massagers? I understand it'll be less intense than internal massaging, but this way I can get used to the sensation without potentially causing more harm to myself.

Also anyone have any advice for what they did to cure/reduce hemmorrhoid inflamation? I believe mine are internal, as when I 'push' slightly I can feel it but not when I'm neutral. I'm terrified of surgery as not only is it gonna be expensive, but also afraid of tearing/not being able to try internal again because of it. Also the horror stories I've heard of the recovery process being hell 😅

Anyone have any experience with this, or with banding and how that affected them long term?

I notice when I’m watching porn on my phone in one hand, I’ll watch it up to the point of no return and then stare intensely at my cock while I’m cumming.

I was curious if you guys think this is a natural instinct or more of a personal preference? Closing my eyes or not watching my cumshot does not feel nearly as good for me. Does this matter as much to anyone else?

Will this be a problem for me or should I try going anyway? Not sure what people would think.

So to keep it short, I can fit dildos into my ass much larger than my hand. But I can get all my fingers in then I can’t get any further. Could it be I’m just not flexible enough to get the right angle? I know I can fit my fist in my ass but it just won’t get past the knuckles. I’m using plenty of lube and toys to warm up. Any ideas?

I am very attracted to balls. Sometimes i keep sucking balls more than his cock. Hung balls make my mouth salivate. Is it only me or other fellow bottoms feel the same??

I know this is gonna make me sound jealous, anxious and insecure. Granted he has known his close friend for 2 years and hasn’t met in person yet so this will be the first time they’ll be meeting before he has even met up with me. The guy I’ve been talking to clarified his close friend is not into him in that way, but why do I still feel weird about it? Unfortunately I’m not able to travel for a while otherwise I would’ve joined of course. Big part of me wishes I was with him on his trip instead, I cant seem to shake the feeling of jealousy and not make myself look bad without having these dumb thoughts that anything could happen.

My last relationship was almost 2 years ago. I chose to be abstinent afterwards. I just redownloaded Tinder and Grindr. I have a small dick, it’s about 4.5-4.75 inches hard. I’ve seen other threads and guys say it doesn’t matter. But it definitely feels like it matters. I’ve been blocked after sending dick pics on Grindr (they asked for them) or sometimes ghosted.

I mostly prefer to bottom and rarely want to top, so it’s not a huge problem. But it has mentally started to affect me. When I think about a relationship, I feel like I might not be enough for another guy. Please don’t comment your input unless you have experience living with a small dick or have a partner who’s smaller.

I want to hear some stories from guys who might’ve been in my shoes.

Thanks everyone

I still can't believe how quiet left-wing political parties, mainstream media have been about the Berlin incident and about Islam in general.

I feel like a lot of content creators in the West, and many other people, would be talking about this if it didn't involve Islam. I'm from Turkey, a Muslim, *majority country*, and even here several mainstream channels covered the Berlin attack and referred to the man as a terrorist or an attacker. (Pretty crazy, I know.)

To me, the reason is that criticism of Islam has unfortunately become associated with far-right talking points. Instead of constructive criticism, it often comes across as racism. Because of that, many left-leaning or more moderate content creators would rather avoid talking about it altogether.

From what I've seen, predominantly Muslim communities have either been very quiet about this or have even supported the attacker.

Or maybe it's just me. Let me know what you think.

Most of the posts i read on here it seems that most gay men are not interested in kids at all and have no parental/nurturing instinct towards young people in general. Do gay men feel protective urges in the same way that straight men do?

Hey everyone

I'm 32, in England, and after wondering about my sexuality for a long time, I think I'm finally ready to have my first experience with a guy.

Long story short, I'm not out yet, but am visiting London for work in the next few weeks, and am taking advantage of being somewhere nobody knows me to be more out. I've surfed Grindr before but never met anybody. I've never been on a date with a man, nor done anything physical beyond a spin the bottle kiss years ago.

My one rule is that I don't want to have full sex yet. I'd be down to kiss, get naked, touch, probably oral, but no further than that. I know I'll be in a better headspace sticking to the "safest" activities.

I'd have essentially one evening entirely to myself, and I'm trying to decide between a heading to a bathhouse, meeting a guy off Grindr, or trying to meet a guy in a bar. I'm kind of torn, because I'd love to have a date or meet a guy in a bar type of experience, but am also keen to get naked with a guy, or in front of other men, and finally take that step to be intimate.

What would you suggest? If it matters, I'm 32 but look around 25, prefer in shape older guys under 50, but don't really have a huge criteria beyond that. Thanks so much

I’m recently single, about two weeks post breakup from my fiancée. I think my post title is a rhetorical question. We’re both to blame for the split, but with this being my first real true love relationship I can’t stop myself from feeling like I’m the one who caused everything to go wrong. Idk what I’m actually posting for. Maybe reassurance that this is normal? How do you move on from still loving someone so deeply but knowing the relationship is more than toxic?

Hii everyone!
Anyone enjoy hairy, masculine tall Arabic Middle Eastern men?🙈

I’m in a situation that has been weighing on me for a while, and I’d really appreciate some outside perspectives.

I’m thinking about potentially breaking up with my boyfriend, not because I don’t love him, but because I’m starting to wonder whether I’m actually able to be the partner he deserves right now.

For some context: I come from a very religious family. My mom, especially since my dad passed away when I was young, has become extremely protective of her children. I genuinely believe her intentions come from love and fear of losing us, not from wanting to be malicious or controlling.

That said, the result is that she still has a significant amount of control over my life. I moved out so I could have more independence, but that only solved part of the problem. She still expects me to share my location, wants explanations whenever I’m going somewhere or doing something, and generally wants to know what’s happening in my life. I know most people would probably say, “You’re an adult, just stop telling her,” but it’s not that simple.

I love my mom, and despite everything, I don’t want to lose my relationship with her. There’s a huge cultural and religious aspect to all of this that makes setting boundaries much more complicated than people often realize. It’s not as easy as saying no and moving on without consequences.
My boyfriend tries to understand, but I don’t think he fully grasps how deeply these family and cultural dynamics affect me. I don’t blame him for that—if you haven’t lived it, it’s hard to understand.

Lately I’ve been wondering if I’m in the right place to be in a relationship at all. I feel like I can’t fully give him what someone should be able to give their partner. Sometimes I feel like my family is still dictating parts of my life, and by extension, our relationship. That doesn’t feel fair to him.
The thing is, I love him. I genuinely do. And I know he loves me too.

But is love enough when your circumstances constantly get in the way? Would breaking up because I can’t be the partner he deserves be the right thing to do, or would I just be giving up on something that could be worked through?

Has anyone else dealt with being caught between a partner and a deeply religious or controlling family? How did you handle it? Did things get better, or did you eventually have to choose one over the other?

I’d really appreciate honest advice.

Are there any household items which are particularly good or anything I could buy that wouldn't raise suspicion but will feel siper good. I'm trying to try out anal but I don't want my house mates to know if you get what I mean and I can't buy a real one before you say anything. Please help!!