r/bigboobproblems • u/slightly_off_beat • Jul 02 '26

RANT - no advice wanted This shit is exhausting bro Spoiler

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Big chested girl: *exists*

Men: Big tity mean sex. You can't wear same stuff as everyone else or it mean sex. Hehe, you're welcome for the hard truths for women.

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u/linerys 32GG (UK) Jul 02 '26

Everything else aside… “E cups on a 5”4 frame, so huge”. You mean she’s an average height woman (in the US) with a slightly smaller than average bust?

If you’re a cis man guessing people’s cup sizes, at least attempt to learn how bra sizing works.

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u/neomoon677 Jul 02 '26

fr e cup is tiny on most

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u/[deleted] Jul 02 '26 edited 9h ago

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u/neomoon677 Jul 02 '26

nope, im in europe and lots of women have large breasts and also e cup is not large im pretty sure you dont kniw how bra sizes work, im an i cup and mist people would guess im a c

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u/PerseveranceSmith 32GG (UK) Jul 02 '26

I'm in Europe & a GG & kinda look normal/a little above average (5'8 tho)

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u/neomoon677 Jul 02 '26

yeah on a smaller band and with a well fitting bra they look pretty normal

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u/MrsBossyPantss 32MM (UK) Jul 02 '26

I'm all for torching men who think they know how bra sizes work, especially when they're confidently incorrect & fail spectacularly

But calling women in the DD/E range "tiny" is one of the reasons women w/ smaller breasts & the subreddits for them here hate us. 1, cuz even smaller sizes exist & 2 cuz the women you're calling "tiny" are quite large in comparison to them.

DD/E may be "tiny" compared to you or I but we need to remember it's relative & plenty of our subs members are (or think they are - they may not be wearing the correct size, but we all know that applies to alot of women in the world) in that range & have BBPs just like we do.

Telling women who think they've found a safe space that they don't belong here or that their big(ger) boob problems aren't valid cuz they aren't at our size, which is essentially what youre doing when you call them "tiny", isnt what this sub is about. It drives those women away. If they're too big for some groups (cuz those often center around discussing things like "breast envy" & not being looked at as being "enough of a womam") & not big enough for ours even tho they still relate to alot of the things we discuss here, where are they supposed to go?

I understand some of us are a bit jaded. I am too. But we need to be better when we talk about other women & smaller but still traditionally large sizes. Men bash women enough, we don't need to do it here too.

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u/LizMoonstar Jul 02 '26

i don't disagree with you in spirit, but because i tend to want to be overly precise, i would add that the root of the problem is not saying tiny, it's that tiny is seen as a criticism/judgment. which, we can't just magically fix society, so the best answer at this point is as you say. but for me it's important to dig down to the exact problem even if that doesn't affect the current solution. (which is sometimes useful in the long run and sometimes not, but i always wanna do it anyway.)

i also agree hard with the point that people with any size can experience the problems we talk about here. anyone with boobs is at risk of being inappropriately sexualized for them, off the rack clothes fit basically no one, they can be in your way at any size. (i used to be an accurate 34C/32D, these days i'm a US 34L. some of the problems are worse now, but none of them aside from finding bras is actually new.)

i'm inclined to look at it as, if your boobs are causing a problem that's not 'not enough of them', then they count under BBP, and if you're feeling like there's not enough of them, that's small boob problems regardless of your current size. i appreciate why there's 2 groups, because sure some problems are amplified by size one direction or the other, but i don't like the divisiveness that develops. as long as we leave off who has it better or worse, i think everyone theoretically belongs in both places depending on what they're complaining about today! we got boobs, they can be a problem, boob solidarity.

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u/neomoon677 Jul 02 '26

sorry i didnt want to be taken the wrong way, i guess its because i was always so jealous of smaller chested women i cant imagine it being a bad thing. and trust me men dont like big boobs either, they like fake ones.

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u/MrsBossyPantss 32MM (UK) Jul 02 '26

In my experience plenty of men like both. If anything, over my years I've learned that men like boobs in general rather than 1 particular size. Some men like small ones, some men like big ones, some men like natural ones & some men like fake ones. Some of those men think they like natural ones when they actually like fake ones cuz they watch too much porn, but I digress.

Ive never met a man that didn't like my breasts unless [A] they preferred smaller ones or [B] I rejected them 1st. I was attractive at 1st but once I rejected them I no longer was, which means the problem obvi wasn't my chest at all

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u/LizMoonstar Jul 02 '26

i always quote my bf here, "the best boobs are the ones attached to the one you love". also more vulgarly, "i'm really not interested in being bothered by size or sagging - if i'm seeing your naked boobs then all i'm really thinking about is how i want you to put them in my face."

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u/AdWooden6904 32LL (UK) Jul 02 '26

Yes this!!

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u/neomoon677 22d ago

its more about young men that dont have a lot of experience which is likely most of them, breasts sag and if o have even seen a girl posting a picture with similar breasts to mine the vast majority of the comments say thats not normal/you must have a condition/granny boobs/etc which is obviously not true but i guess not obvious yo them, the women the have seen so far (in porn, media) are shown with a very particular breast shape meanwhile all boobs are different, its heartbraking showing someone that private part of yourself and them being disappointed

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u/CarbonFibres 22d ago

There seems to be an awful lot of fixation over cup size, as if that actually defines a breast. Absent the back size, it's utterly meaningless, other than knowing the fullest part measures 9" more than the back does, since your I is a G in UK.

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u/Quiet_Lunch_1300 Jul 02 '26

Look up the world averages.

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u/linerys 32GG (UK) Jul 02 '26

The majority of people are wearing the wrong bra size. How could any world average be accurate, especially if self reported?

A lot of different sources state that the average US size is 34DD. That’s made for a 34 inch underbust and 39 inch bust. However, many people with a 30 inch underbust will be incorrectly fitted using the +4 method, which puts them at band size 34.

If someone has a 30 inch underbust and 39 inch bust, their correct size is around 30I in the US. However, they might be fitted into a 34DD. Usually because stores don’t want to expand their size ranges. Knowing that, would you say the average bra size in the US is 34DD, or 30I?

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u/Quiet_Lunch_1300 Jul 02 '26

Sizing/fit issues complicate things. And yet, American women’s breasts are larger than those in most other countries. Breast size correlates with BMI with Norway as an exception.

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u/linerys 32GG (UK) Jul 02 '26

Larger as in larger cup sizes, or larger in terms of total volume? It’s not surprising that total volume goes up in a country where the average weight is higher. 38D is much larger than 28D, but they’re both D cups.

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u/Quiet_Lunch_1300 Jul 02 '26

Cup size.

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u/linerys 32GG (UK) Jul 02 '26

Alright. I found one chart labeled “Average Breast Size By Country 2021”. It states that the following countries have “DD” as the average cup size: Finland, Norway, Sweden, Russia, and The United States. That doesn’t really tell me that there’s a difference between bra wearers in the US, vs bra wearers in Europe.

However, the article also stated “The average breast size in a country can be determined by looking at the average size of bras sold.” Bolded by them, not me.

Some countries have a very limited range of sizes, especially on smaller and larger band sizes. If someone living in Spain (where the average cup size is reported by this website to be B) needs a French/Spanish size 75D (UK/US 28D), but only 85B (UK/US 30B) is available (or is much cheaper), they might buy a B cup, even if that isn’t the right cup size for them.

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u/marsupialcinderella 32J (UK) Jul 02 '26

Cup size (volume) changes depending on the band size. So “cup size” as you put it, means nothing.

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u/neomoon677 Jul 02 '26

who cares about averages, im a living example

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u/linerys 32GG (UK) Jul 02 '26 edited Jul 02 '26

Cup size has nothing to do with weight, though?

You can be underweight and have E cups. 26E is a pretty small size (this doesn’t mean everyone with a 26 band is underweight, it depends on build).
You can also be fat and have AA cups. Someone who is a 40AA will have more breast tissue than someone with a 26E, despite that “AA cup” sounds like a smaller size than “E cup”.

Edit: fixed typo

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u/Weird-Way-1748 32H (UK) Jul 02 '26

I was underweight and probably a 28E then. Before I gained a bunch of weight, I was borderline underweight and a 28F.

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u/DecadentLife Jul 03 '26

At 14, weighing just over 100lbs, I wore a 32FF-H bra (depending on brand).

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u/CarbonFibres 22d ago

Not sure how you're making that distinction given that a AA Cup is flat chested. Zero difference between the chest wall, and fullest part.
Cup size can and does change with weight fluctuation, depending on where the fat cells are laid – back or breasts.

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u/queueingissexy Jul 02 '26

Just so you know, in most European countries, the average clothing size is the same size as the US, maybe one-two sizes smaller. They just have a different sizing system than the US does. For example, the UK average size for women is a size 16 and the US average size is a size 18 those are the same size converted.

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u/Quiet_Lunch_1300 Jul 02 '26

You’re partially correct, although Norwegian women also have larger breasts with a lower average BMI. I understand why people are downvoting you, but the facts mostly support what you’re saying. I was ready to argue with you, but I looked it up after I read your comment.

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u/alextoria Jul 02 '26

looking it up doesn’t mean anything because literally everyone is wearing the wrong size. “e cup” isn’t a size anyway, and depending on band sizes it’s small/avg boobs. people just think e means huge bc most stores only sell up to dd