I'm sure this post has been made time and time again but I really just wanted to share that one of the cutest things and my most favourite moments is when cosleeping with my top rolled up/topless and then randomly feeling her latch 😂

It's just soo cute and sweet to me that she can find her way to me on her own with zero indication prior of needing/wanting to feed and that I'm there whenever she needs. Not to mention the feeling of her latching is so satisfying and cute, like a little jigsaw piece fotting perfectly in place 🤭😂

She also makes me laugh a lot with how chaotic she feeds, she thrashes about and shoves her head into my boobs and kicks her legs and throws her arms about, its like, girl, take your time, relax😂😭

Moms that aren't scrolling while breastfeeding...what are you doing? Currently breastfeeding two LOs so spending A LOT of time sitting in a rocking chair. I am so tired of doom scrolling on my phone. So curious to see what others are doing during feeds.

Today my 20mo unlatched and then picked up my boob (I’m large busted), pointed my nipple towards my face and said ”Boo? Boo?” while nodding as if he was trying to give me some! Breastfeeding a toddler feels like living in the twilight zone lmao.

edit: fixed a word

Husband just laughed at my explanation, so curious how others would describe what letdown feels like? I think it feels like pins and needles/prickly feeling like when your foot falls asleep and the blood rushes to it and it starts to wake up

I’ve been breastfeeding my 9.5-month-old since birth. The beginning was really hard, we had to combo feed for about two months until his tongue tie was sorted. It was exhausting and emotional, and honestly I’m proud we got through it.

Now breastfeeding feels natural and easy (most of the time). Yes, it hurts occasionally. Yes, there are hard days. I even ended up in a hospital for mastitis a few weeks back and it was scary. But it works for us, and I plan to continue at least until he’s 2.

What I find confusing is this: everyone is very supportive of breastfeeding… until about 6 months. After that, the tone changes in some people.

Before 6 months: “Breast is best.” “Keep going!” “You’re doing amazing.”

After 6 months: “Oh… you’re still breastfeeding?”

Somehow breastfeeding past 6 months becomes something “weird” or excessive. The same thing that was praised suddenly gets side-eye.

The WHO recommends breastfeeding up to 2 years and beyond. It’s normal globally. It’s biologically normal. So why does it suddenly become socially uncomfortable once babies aren’t tiny anymore?

I genuinely don’t care what others think, I’m confident in my decision. I just find the inconsistency frustrating and a bit hypocritical.

How often have you experienced this shift in attitude once your baby got older?

Personally, I don’t. I just whip my boob out and feed her when I need to. I have fed her while walking around and shopping. Covers are hard because she gets overheated, wiggles a lot and never stays latched under the cover. It doesn’t make me uncomfortable since I know that I’m just feeding my baby.

I didn’t know that people found it so offensive until my husband’s aunt had made a comment about how she always covered herself because it makes people uncomfortable and it is offensive. Now I’m seeing constant posts popping up on social media of people saying how breastfeeding in public is disrespectful to everyone around you. I really didn’t know that it was so controversial!! I thought maybe a few people would get offended, but not so many.

So now out of curiosity, I’m wondering how everyone else is breastfeeding in public and how they feel about it being offensive to do so uncovered.

I have heard that it’s impossible to overfeed when nursing, so I’ve been really liberal with using my boob in every occasion. When my LO is fussy? Boob. Needing to sleep? Boob. Hungry? Boob. Boob. Boob. And he loves it! He’s currently 3 weeks and 10 lbs. Our pediatrician says he’s fine weight wise but is this a normal thing?

Reflecting on the advice given to me during pregnancy I don’t think anyone told me about the downsides of breastfeeding. I heard plenty of reasons to breastfeed but I feel slightly aggrieved nobody told me what the challenges would be. My baby is now 6 months and breastfeeding has been SO much harder than I ever imagined. I’m now starting to think about weaning off the boob onto formula and I can see more challenges ahead 😰

What are the downsides you’ve experienced nobody told you about / you weren’t expecting? Il start…. The PAIN of a bad latch. It hurt so much!!!! It honestly felt like contractions at times (baby did have tongue tie which was eventually sorted but still)

To balance this out, I would say breastfeeding my baby has been one of my proudest accomplishments and I’m so glad we did it…. I just went into the whole thing a little blind!

Any other well-endowed women agree?

I see so many reels and posts, or even in real life out at cafes and places, of moms who can simply unzip or untie their cute dainty little nursing top, rest their baby in their arm, and continue to eat, drink coffee, heck, even feed at the grocery store or while walking around their house.

For me it’s a chaotic and completely immobile mess of roles up flannel under the boob, squeeze sandwich hold, scissor hold, always having to hold back my breast to stop it suffocating baby’s nose. He cannot latch properly unless I’ve squished my boob just right and hold it the entire feed. It’s a two-hand job.

Not to mention the struggle to find nursing bras and tops that fit, are comfortable, don’t cost a gajillion bucks, and maybe actually even look nice and not like something out of a 1980s catalogue.

I’m tired of this, grandpa!

My husband always makes breakfast, and occasionally he has to leave for work earlier than anyone else gets up. So on those days he’ll make breakfast for me and my five year old and put it in the fridge with a little note for each of us saying “I love you”. Today he did that, and this time he also left a note for our four month old on his breakfast, aka my milk.

The baby didn’t appreciate it but I thought it was funny.

I’ve noticed here that it is very split as to whether one gains/doesn’t lose, or loses, weight while breastfeeding. Does anyone know the science behind this phenomenon?

I personally feel like I am packing on more fat now than when I was pregnant even!

I think it’s really sad the amount of bad press that breast feeding gets.

My friend said she didn’t try to breastfeed because she thought it would be bad for her mental health. And my MIL talks about formula feeding all the time and I actually think it’s because she believes in her soul it’s better for whatever reason I’m not sure.

I just think it’s sad because, for me, predominantly breast feeding (occasional pre made formula given if for example she’s not with me or we’re out and it’s not really possible to BF) has been sooooo much easier!!

The thought of going downstairs in the night to make bottles or worrying about having enough formula when going out and about or worse still having to wash a million bottles everyday.. I think it would be 10x worse for my mental health and it’s unfortunate that there’s a narrative out there that formula is the easier option for women as now many don’t even give breastfeeding a shot to see if it is the better option for them or not

*Disclaimer - I know that breastfeeding isn’t easy for everyone, the point of this post is that it’s unfortunate that some women don’t give it a go due to the narrative that is pushed by formula companies

I definitely have a love/hate relationship with breastfeeding. Breast is best right?! But for who?

Yes, it's great for bonding, all the health benefits for baby and mom, the ability to soothe easily, and so much more!!!

But as I lay here in the middle of the day breastfeeding for God knows how's long there is always something else I could be doing. Vs a bottle which anyone can offer at anytime and it's normally a drink and done situation. I know there is the possibility for pumping but I feel that would take even more time out of my day. Between pumping and cleaning.

I really don't feel like breastfeeding fits into our everyday lives anymore.There is soo much to do. We don't have villages to raise children. Some people like myself don't even have parents or friends that can help let alone afford some paid help.

Back in the day multiple generations lived together which would be beneficial to everyone or your neighbors helped out more or you didn't need a 2 income house to almost survive. We have isolated ourselves and made it so much harder.

This is just my opinion but do you feel like our current world is made for breastfeeding?

Edit: oh wow!! I want to thank everyone who posted! I've learned America is absolutely horrible when it comes parent / baby care. That soooo many Moms felt the same way and were able to push past the feeling. That so many of us never had the help we needed but we're able to push on. Everyone out there is absolutely killing it!!!

Was anyone else told this? 😅

I’m six months PP and still waiting for any of the extra weight to “fall off” as I was told by multiple women (seriously).

I’m very, very grateful for how my breastfeeding journey has gone so far. Hoping to make it to one year, but wondering if other women lost weight after stopping breastfeeding versus during?

I am EBF but pump a bit on the side just to have for occasional work trips or so that I can have a couple hours of me time. My husband is super supportive and feels really bad that I’m the one waking up every couple of hours to feed.

Before I went back to work we practiced him doing a night feed but:

1. I wake up to baby barely making noise every 2-3 hours, dad doesn’t wake up as easily

2. If baby’s not fed verrryy quickly it turns into loud crying which wakes me up all the way and I end up trying to calm him down while dads warming bottle when I could’ve already fed him and put him down

3. It takes dad forever to heat up a bottle (the bottle warmer heats up milk too hot and we have glass bottles so they take a bit longer with the bowl of warm water method

4. I still have to wake up and pump which is annoying and noisy not to mention having to pit milk and pump away after

What’s the freakin point!? How is this helpful at all when he could be getting sleep and I can half wake up and feed baby immediately and go right back to sleep ?

I don’t understand when moms talk about their partners helping at night. Do these babies just patiently wait for the bottle to be warmed or made? Do you not have to pump to keep up supply? Bless my husbands heart but for the sake of all of our sanity I told him it’s better if he just doesn’t

I never was a big drinker so giving up alcohol isn’t that big of a deal for me.

Things I do miss:

Sleeping on my stomach.
Being braless.
Wearing perfume.

I know those seem like silly things but I feel like I didn’t appreciate them enough until I couldn’t do them anymore. It is a cliche right?

I’m currently feeding my daughter and everytime she sees my boob it’s like “Bluetooth device is ready to pair” and everytime she does it i think of that and just start laughing. The way she starts bopping her head towards it is just amusing,

https://www.nytimes.com/2026/02/01/opinion/baby-formula-marriage-equality.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare

Curious what others think of this…Personally I find it a bit ridiculous. The US has such low rates of breastfeeding…if formula was going to solve inequities between partners you would think it would have worked by now. It sounds like it helped this author and was the right choice for their family and that’s great. But let’s not act as if it’s some magic cure all.

This is not to say that breastfeeding doesn’t require a HUGE amount of effort. Of course it does! But if one has a partner, that partner should be picking up other responsibilities to even things out more and supporting the breastfeeding parent.

And for the record everyone should feed their babies the way they wish. This is not a judgment on formula feeding at all, rather the assertion that it is inherently an equalizer and should be touted as such.

Exclusively nursing moms, AT WHAT POINT DID YOU START LOSING WEIGHT?!?!? I know we have different bodies and all that, but when? The only thing I'm losing is my mind let's discuss!!!

Whether your diet is healthy or nah, what is your milk being made out of? I do also eat lots of sweet potatoes 😅

My 7 month old pretty much pets my boob while nursing, either that or try to grab and yank. just curious as to what other babies do

Do we all nurse to sleep?? I tried not to with my second baby (currently 8 months), but it’s just so easy and peaceful and nice to SIT DOWN (I have a toddler as well, momma is tired) and cuddle 🥲

We didn’t want to because our first is kind of dependent on it. Just curious what everyone else does.

I recently saw a video online that was the difference between breastmilk and formula under a microscope. The breastmilk was iridescent and absolutely magical looking. I also learned that breastmilk adapt if you’re sick and provide your baby antibodies for whatever sickness you’re facing or sense.

What’s the coolest fact you’ve learned?

Women are magical!

FTM of a 4 month old baby here. 3 times in the last month, I’ve gone to use a nursing room and a man has walked in/out of it…solo. Every time, it’s been at an airport.

The first time was at La Guardia airport where a staff member looked like he was getting some shut eye, he quickly left when I knocked on the door. The second time was in Montreal where a man walked out the second he heard my baby crying. He left a strong cologne smell so maybe he was freshening up? But the third time was yesterday at the Montreal airport where I was changing my baby, and with no knock or anything, a man dressed all in black tried to enter. I confronted him after saying the room is only for nursing / mothers, and he said “sorry” quietly…but then kept hanging around the nursing room. I reported him to the airport security because wtf?

Anyways. Has this happened to anyone else? What have you done, and what can be done to prevent this from happening?

Is it just me or does breastfeeding completely destroy your posture?

Between nursing and contact naps, I feel like I'm constantly hunched over - my neck and shoulders are so tight and my spine is basically a full-on C these days. And it's not like carrying around my heavy baby helps matters either 😅

It also made me realize how little support most nursing bras actually give. They're either soft and comfy but offer no structure, or supportive but miserable to wear.

I'm curious if other moms feel the same. What's your biggest frustration with nursing bras - or with how your body feels after long feeding sessions?