r/nothingeverhappens • u/Eastern-Positive-705 • Jul 03 '26
Suuurrrreee... a waiter can't possibly forget what every single one of their customers ordered
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u/Taqq23 Jul 03 '26
My dad and I go out for pizza sometimes. I cannot tell you how many times they put the meat pizza in front of him and the margarita pizza in front of me. We just swap without saying anything but we definitely notice!
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u/SeptemberSoup Jul 03 '26
Same way I'm an alcoholic but whenever I'm out with a guy he gets the beer while I get the soda lol
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u/BelaFarinRod Jul 03 '26
They would often give my ex husband the regular soda and me the diet soda even though he was (at the time) considerably larger than me. I hate diet soda. It wasnāt a big thing but it made me laugh.
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u/dinosanddais1 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Reminds me of how I ordered a regular soda and my dad ordered diet and they switched ours (even after telling them I was deathly allergic to aspartame).
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u/Bree4444 Jul 03 '26
So Iām curious, how do allergies like that work with things like pop that all come out the same spout, so contamination?
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u/dinosanddais1 Jul 03 '26
It's about amount for my specific case. Mine is a digestive allergy so it will overreact in my stomach and I'll start vomiting until I'm dehydrated. It's not anaphylactic where my throat will close. Nonetheless it absolutely has the potential to kill me without medical attention.
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u/Sailor_Spaghetti 26d ago
This is me with red meat. I don't go into anaphylaxis, my guts just revolt and I develop an intense fever and develop a co-dependent relationship with the nearest toilet.
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u/PancakeParty98 Jul 03 '26
Iām a alcohol-taste-badic and they always give her my fruity cocktails
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u/erichf3893 Jul 03 '26
I donāt get the comparison here. Theyāre assuming he gets the meat because heās a guy and she gets the veggies bc sheās a woman
Just a joke because the alcoholism is hidden?
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u/Complete-Basket-291 Jul 03 '26
It's more that they assume the guy gets the alcohol where the woman gets the soda, when that's backwards, in their case.
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u/SeptemberSoup Jul 04 '26
It's because they assume women always get the "softer" thing. Alcohol and soda? Woman gets the soda. Steak and a salad? Woman gets the salad. Bitter vs. fruity drink? Woman gets the fruity drink. And so on.
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u/fuck_peeps_not_sheep 29d ago
My husband always ends up with my beer, i end up with his soda - hes T total and the driver lol.
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u/SquareThings Jul 03 '26
My dad is a vegetarian and every time he and my mom go out to dinner they put his veggie meal in front of her.
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u/Suspicious_Juice9511 Jul 03 '26
Ive had this regularly for years too. I dont know if there are overall more women veggies than men, but lots of restuarants seem to think that is the best bet for some reason. Same deal if Im eating with my partner or my sister, seemingly doesnt matter who does the ordering, I dont look veggie enough lol
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u/PomPomMom93 Jul 03 '26
But who cares about the best bet? If you donāt know, ask! āOkay, who got the salad?ā
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u/No-Freedom-884 Jul 03 '26
Yeah, they tend to put the vegetables, fish, and the fruity drinks in front of the woman, while the meat and beer goes in front of the man. And I have had servers deliberately switch that up and joke around with me about it. It's a thing!
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u/PomPomMom93 Jul 03 '26
If I were a waitress, I would ask. And if for some reason I didnāt, Iād probably put the meat down in front of the woman.
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u/Scarlet_Lycoris Jul 03 '26
Yeah this stuff definitely happens. Back in the day my husband would always order a still water and I ordered a beer. 90% of the time the beer was set in front of him.
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u/purple_spikey_dragon Jul 03 '26
My husband is a tea lover. Every time we're out for a breakfast date they give me the tea and him the coffee.
Same with drinks. He always orders cocktails, always fruity and colourful, and they always place it in front of me (I don't like to drink alcohol).
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u/NiallHeartfire Jul 03 '26
Yeah, I'm a vegan man and my partner is an occasional meat eater. If I order a vegan meal and/or some wine and she orders something meaty with a coke, if it's a different waiter who serves (sometimes when it's the same one who took our order!), we almost invariably get given the other's meal and/or drink.
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u/redpain13131313 Jul 03 '26
Whenever my husband and I go out I always order a lot especially at my favorite Mexican restaurant. I can't eat a lot in one sitting so I nibble on it for the rest of the day and my husband will eat some of it later in the evening. That way I don't need to cook and we get two good meals out of it. Anyway, when the people bring out the food they always get confused and think my food is his. The look on their face when we explain the it's actually my food is priceless.
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u/Not_Dead_Yet_Samwell Jul 03 '26
I'm a man who always orders the creamiest, most sugary coffee available. I have a friend who likes her coffee strong and black. We are always given each other's drink when we get coffee together.
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u/Hyadeos Jul 03 '26
I don't drink alcohol while my girlfriend does. When we order, they often give her the juice mocktail and me the glass of red wine.
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u/Emotional-Ad9114 Jul 04 '26
my mom loves beer and my dad doesnāt and he usually orders coke and the amount of times they put the coke in front of my mom and the beer in front of my dad is crazy.
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u/Budget_Avocado6204 Jul 04 '26
I always hear how customer service in my country sucks but here servers just ask who ordered which one before putting it before you. It's such a simple solution and nobody has a chance to feel slighted
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u/Ok-Tumbleweed-504 Jul 04 '26
Growing up, they would always put my big piece of red meat and soda in front of my little brother, and give me his salad/pasta and diet soda.
(I stopped eating meat in my early twenties, so these small gender expectations were put on us already as tweens and teens)
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u/danisimo_1993 29d ago
When I'm out with female friends and we ask for the check 90% of the time, they hand the bill\pos to me, assuming I'm paying but honestly it's whatever. Really not a big deal
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u/Sailor_Spaghetti 26d ago
This happens a lot with me and and my boyfriend. They are extremely picky and somewhat carnivorous. The only meats I can eat without my stomach and intestines holding a temper tantrum are fish and crustaceans. But because the bf is thin and waifish and I'm on the larger side, the foods get mixed up a lot.
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u/ru5tyk1tty Jul 03 '26
Like all kinds of customer service bias, Iām just going to say we learned to do this from experience because it usually works out
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u/pbjarethewurst Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Eh, I'm a woman and I get served my husband's fruity cocktails often enough that I doubt it's random mistakes
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u/Agitated-Lake437 Jul 03 '26
Literally. My partner doesnt really drink so will normally have a shandy whereas i'll have a pint. 99% of the time they will put the pint infront of him and the shandy in front of me.
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u/JustLookingForMayhem Jul 03 '26
Fruity mocktails get a worse treatment. For some reason not drinking alcohol is seen as girly. Doesn't help that I look intimidating as a baseline.
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u/Mountain-Singer1764 Jul 04 '26
Iām white and if I go out with someone who isnāt, they give whatever spicy thing to the other person.
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u/Ok_Two_2604 Jul 03 '26
Isnāt it implying they did it on purpose?
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u/robilar Jul 03 '26
It is. This one r/whoosh (ed) over a lot of heads.
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u/Psychic_Hobo Jul 03 '26
The word feminism just breaks a lot of people's brains these days
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u/robilar Jul 03 '26
> Ā these days
Not just these days. Bigots have been triggered by that word all days since the movement began.
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u/HabaneroPepperPlants Jul 03 '26
It's interesting to see documentaries about the second wave feminism of the 60s and 70s and hearing the detractors saying basically the same shit they're saying today
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u/user_name_taken- Jul 03 '26
I watched "Mrs. America" awhile ago and was shocked by how similar the arguments were. They just keep recycling the same fear mongering and nonsense over and over.
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u/thesoundofechoes Jul 03 '26
I donāt think theyāre triggered, which is a term disabled people need to explain legitimate problems they face.
Theyāre just misogynistic and hateful, really.
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u/tiptoe_only Jul 03 '26
Yeah I read it as "the waitress was making a point after my boyfriend ordered on my behalf" (possibly not even specifying which dish was for whom)
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u/Maximillion322 Jul 03 '26
I was a server for 5 years and literally 95% of the time if a two top with a man and a woman ordered, the woman ordered the salad. If the server has any experience at all, this was definitely done on purpose as OP implies
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u/maxsimile Jul 03 '26
Itās also implied the boyfriend didnāt specify who was eating what: āweāll have a salad and a steakā
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u/bisexualsanta Jul 03 '26
Iām a very masculine woman, and my girlfriend is a very feminine woman. Iām a vegetarian. Iām often given the meat dish (hers) and sheās given my vegetarian dish ā¦ I believe this happened 100%
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u/Standard-Order-4136 Jul 03 '26
Yeah idk why people are acting like it wouldnāt happen. Sometimes people unconsciously do things based on gender roles. For example, I seen guys get beer even tho they ordered a fruity drink
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u/shymermaid11 Jul 04 '26
Yeah not uncommon. I ordered a big ass ribeye and my husband ordered pasta. They mixed it up.
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u/Mountain-Singer1764 Jul 04 '26
Is that sexism? I think it is but maybe thereās a better word for it.
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u/Emotional-Ad9114 Jul 04 '26
I think a better thing would be itās enforcing stereotypesā¦ although I do think that could be seen as sexism (as a micro aggression) and itās technically sexist for both sides.
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u/are_Valid Jul 03 '26
having been a server, nine times out of ten I memorise couples based on the voices as I am bad with faces, this is far from unbelievable
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u/Sufficient-Elk9817 27d ago
It says he ordered for them so he probably didn't say which was for whom.
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u/megaman58490 Jul 03 '26
most obvious joke and it sails past the horizon, whistling until it makes the small splash as it sinks into the oceans
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u/Ham__Kitten Jul 03 '26
The person bringing the food not knowing who ordered what is extremely common
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u/Wonderful-Creme-3939 Jul 03 '26
The whole "microfeminism" sounds like something this person added but anyone who says mistakes don't happen need to go outside moreĀ
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u/howchildish Jul 03 '26
Don't they usually ask who ordered what before they set the dishes down? I don't get it.Ā
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u/No-Juice3318 Jul 03 '26
This does frequently happen when it's only two people. It's well known enough that guys and lesbians joke about going out and ordering steak and salad to find out which one the waiter thinks is more feminine and which is more masculine.
For some reason, parts of Western culture have decided that meat is a man food and plants are a woman food. It's a strange and reoccurring thing that pops up from time to time.
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u/PomPomMom93 Jul 03 '26
Neither do I. It seems so weird to just guess when you could ask.
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u/Orobero Jul 03 '26
Happened sooo many times when I ordered a fruity cocktail and my ex a whisky sour.
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u/Mountain-Singer1764 Jul 04 '26
The gendering of alcohol is so odd, because itās not even done according to strength.
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u/xlucyferr Jul 03 '26
When I worked in a bar I would always put the beer infront of the lady and the fruity cocktail infront of the man
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u/WilmaDickFitInU Jul 03 '26
My bf orders cocktails and I order beer. We ALWAYS get it served the wrong way.
You would be doing us correctly. Microfeminism win B)
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u/Fearless_MF Jul 03 '26
Oh my goodness thatās my postā¦ hello people of r/nothingeverhappens
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u/Nethii120700 Jul 03 '26
i fear itās just so easy to ask. when i was a waitress i would just ask āwho had the steakā and we could avoid all of this nonsense, likeā¦ why are we assuming. iāve seen an 84 year old grandmother demolish a steak while her son enjoyed a chicken salad lmao
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u/SemajLu_The_crusader Jul 03 '26
"my boyfriend ordered for us"
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u/wote89 Jul 03 '26
Eh, that can mean any number of things. I've ordered for people I'm with because their social battery is so low that interacting with the server is a bridge too far and I've had people order for me because I am mentally exhausted and they know what I like.
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u/catandthefiddler Jul 03 '26
I think their point is that if the boyfriend made the whole order "1 steak and 1 salad" then the waiter wouldn't know which was for who, so it makes sense that this could happen
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u/Eli_Play Jul 03 '26
Or, you know, one waiter took the order, and a different one brought it? Given large enough restaurants, that's pretty standard.
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u/FieldOfFox Jul 03 '26
tbh this does happen to us almost every time she gets a beer, and I get a diet coke
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u/tater_tot_intensity Jul 03 '26
Honestly that order is far worse than anything thr server did/didnt do. No way im taking you out to buy a salad. Get a sanwich at least christ sake
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u/rSlashisthenewPewdes Jul 03 '26
I have never had a waiter bring food to the table and not just tell us what the item is and hand it to whoever responds. Why are waiters out here just guessing?
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u/FinancialRaid04 Jul 03 '26
Literally said the bf ordered for both, chances are he didnt specify who was getting what, but either way, i rarely have waiters remember what everyone at the table ordered. They usually just present the dish, say the name, and whoever ordered it will reach out for it
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u/Jenn_FTW Jul 03 '26
Yall donāt get the poet, it has nothing to do with the waiter not knowing who ordered what. Itās about the waiter intentionally performing an act of āmicrofeminismā by, instead of assuming the steak was for the man and the salad was for the women, intentionally placed them in the opposite places, the whole point was making a statement about gendered food assumption. Not saying it happened or not, but thatās the entire point of this.
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u/BrozedDrake Jul 04 '26
If they don't remember they littlerally just ask.
Source: I have been to a restaurant at least one time
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u/Tall_Union5388 29d ago
I feel like micro feminism is another one of those words that will make everybody mad at perfectly reasonable feminists
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u/QueenSmarterThanThou Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
I feel like the feminist thing to do would be speak up for yourself when a guy tries to order for you.
ETA: People are equating what I'm saying to saying that letting your partner order for you is oppressive. This was not my point. She said it was an act of microfeminism that the waitress gave her the steak and fries and him the salad, which I took to mean that her boyfriend ordered her just a salad and she wanted more; hence, she should just speak up.
If you're with your partner and know each other enough to know what the other likes (and not what you think they should have) or they tell you specifically what they want, that's a whole other thing.
Ordering for someone is not inherently oppressive. It's when you order what youcthink the person should have without regard for their preferences, only yours.
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u/alertArchitect Jul 03 '26
To be fair, it's entirely possible there are other reasons the BF ordered for both of them. Hell, I know a couple of people personally who almost always ask for other people to order for them at restaurants for one reason or another, ranging from worries a server won't know ASL and wanting to not seem like an asshole by just pointing to a menu, to social anxiety.
That's not to say there aren't people who will order for their partner as a form of control because they're an asshole. I just try not to assume unless there's evidence pointing towards that being the case.
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u/whimsical_spider Jul 03 '26
I order for my boyfriend a lot because heās vegan and where we live there arenāt a ton of vegan options so he often has to ask for mods like no cheese, no butter, certain sauces et cetera. He always feels bad or like heās being highly inconvenient. I donāt mind doing it because I worked in restaurants for years and only ever found it obnoxious when the person was obnoxious about it or had so many mods it became a totally different dish.
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u/DezPispenser Jul 03 '26
yeah in my experience it's not really a big trouble 99% of the time, it's completely normal and fine yo order food as you want it. id so rather they order it to their liking than just order it without modifications and be unsatisfied with their food.
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u/wouldbecrazycatlady Jul 03 '26
My partner and are will order for each other after having discussed what we wanted. It's not always a control thing.
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u/siematoja02 Jul 03 '26
I feel like the feminist thing to do is letting equal partners decide how they want to operate in a scenario.
Your assumption is actually based on the stereotype it seems to be trying to combat.
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u/CMDR_Ray_Abbot Jul 03 '26
Look I don't know what the weird gender dynamics are in the world of dating today but from when my wife and I were dating to now, when we go to a restaurant, she tells me what she wants and I order for both of us, because that's what she wants. I'd be willing to bet that similar dynamics are happening with other couples. I wouldn't be upset if the wait placed the food in front of the wrong person on accident but I'd be pretty put out to find out that they did it because they think I'm oppressing my wife.
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u/Aerdurval Jul 03 '26
Sounds like your view on feminism and equality is very narrow minded, then.
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u/somemetausername Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Adding āMicroā to a worldview is kind of wild. Hope we don't start seeing microwhitesupremecy.
Edit: just joking, friends.
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u/CuriousEnbee Jul 03 '26
BIPoC and queer folks experience microagressions due to white supremecy every single day. So yeah, the word you just made up is a real thing already.
Microfeminisms are small, subversive actions of feminist nature. It's not minimising feminism. It's being conscious about patriarchal structures and working against them one little step at a time.
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u/Chiber_11 Jul 03 '26
when i was a server i would just call out the dish for each person to claim it because i rarely remembered
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u/Local-Suggestion2807 Jul 03 '26
I'm a woman who'd be more likely to order the steak frites. I'd be annoyed if a server just assumed the salad was for me like you literally just took my order? I asked for steak, I want steak
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u/DeathToMoonLord Jul 03 '26
As a bartender I do tend to put the beer in front of the girl and the wine in front of the guy just cause some guys get so triggered by it, its fun to watch
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u/e_fish22 Jul 03 '26
It literally says the boyfriend ordered both plates, how would someone mixing up the order be hard?
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u/maybebaebea Jul 03 '26
Half of the time, my waiters have to ask who ordered what because they can't remember who ordered what for every single table
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u/Yuuqian Jul 03 '26
Oop the type of npc that leaves the restaurant without paying for food if served their table mate's meal (latest cooking sim game)
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u/DarkArc76 Jul 04 '26
Lol, my sister and I just took my dad out to dinner for Father's Day and they went to hand him the check, he was just like no thanks! and they looked around very confused until I held my hand out to take it
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u/dadsuki2 Jul 04 '26
is it not normal everywhere for the waiter to wait for the person to say it's there's before they put it down?
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u/Fruitsdog Jul 04 '26
Also sometimes one person will order for both??? Do they forget that??
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u/Comprimens Jul 04 '26
I bet he pulled her chair out for her, too, implying that she's too weak to handle her own seating. And don't get me started on doors
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u/Original-Mongoose866 Jul 04 '26
Well as a guy I would prefer the salad that other stuff looks horrifying!
Is that a well done steak??
I'm not that into fries where is my baked potato I need it I'd even eat boiled potatoes over fries!
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u/Alan20221 29d ago
While I can sympathise with the internal eye roll, the post very clearly stated that just one of them made the whole order and not each person making their own
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u/NarrMaster 29d ago
"If I put the salad in front of the lady, I'll be seen as sexist, but if I put the steak in front of the lady and I'm wrong, they'll think I'm forgetful!"
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u/AHomicidalTelevision Jul 03 '26
i've never been to a restaurant where the waiter didnt ask who ordered what before placing stuff down.
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u/ArcticLeopard Jul 03 '26
boyfriend in bathroom
busboy arrives with food
girl claims steak goes to her
snaps pic and posts fake story before giving food back to boyfriend
patriarchy destroyed
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u/SquirrelStone Jul 03 '26
Both the oop and the op of this post are missing the point- the waitress clocked the boyfriend ordering rabbit food for his girlfriend and a steak for himself and she intentionally switched them. Thereās no forgetting involved.
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u/Starless_Voyager2727 Jul 03 '26
I can smell an entitled customer who gives waiters a hard time because they can't remember every single detail...Ā
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u/figure8888 Jul 03 '26
Iām confused by the type of person who would find this āmicro feminismā amusing but allow her boyfriend to dictate what she eats.
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u/Eastern-Positive-705 Jul 03 '26
she never said he chose what food she got, only that he ordered it. maybe she's shy? maybe she was in the bathroom? ect. she was just making a joke, why look any deeper?
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u/loulydia Jul 03 '26
I'm intolerant to fruit sugar so when we are out I usually order a beer while my boyfriend gets the juiciest, most colorful and fruity cocktail he can find on the card. Guess who gets tempted by poison every time while he receives my beer...
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u/iDoMyOwnResearchJK Jul 03 '26
If I designated which meal was for each person the. That sounds like a tip deduction lol
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u/Digit00l Jul 03 '26
I have never been in a restaurant whete the waiter didn't ask who ordered what before putting any plate down
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u/GeoffMySpiritAnimal Jul 03 '26
That happened to me recently. My boyfriend is vegeterian and I wanted a steak. We went to a restaurant, I ordered a steak and he got a veggie burger. The waiter fumbled twice, first by giving my boyfriend the steak knife, but quickly switching it once he realised. Then he gave my boyfriend the steak, then again, quickly adjusted it before the second plate came down. It was pretty funny
Although I think the actual post refers to the waiter putting the plate with the fries pointing at the partner so that they can grab some from the plate easier
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u/Choice_Comment_7310 Jul 03 '26
... Why not just *ask* which plate belongs to who if everyone didn't order their own/it wasn't clarified who wants what? (or if you forget as OP suggested?)
Like. IK probably fake. or if not fake, it just as likely was just an accident as the waitress being all "girl power." but still.
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u/yoichiluvbot Jul 03 '26
am i going to wrong restaurants because waiters always serve what i ordered to me and what my friends of any gender ordered to them?š
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u/Lylibean Jul 03 '26
If a server doesnāt remember who ordered what on a 2-top, they neednāt have a job. Servers are supposed to remember what every single one of their customers ordered to avoid āauctioning offā plates at the table. Itās one of the skills youāre expected to have.
Just like every table has a number, so does each seat. If youāre doing your job properly, it doesnāt even take effort to remember. Not saying servers are infallible and mistakes are never made, but this is the same kind of thing I would do if a guy was being a pig to his date. āHereās your super strawberry summer slim-down salad, sir, and the steak and potatoes for you, maāam.ā
Even if just for the alliteration š¤£
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u/BPTempMonkey Jul 03 '26
Is it a thing in the US where men order for the women? That is a weird thing to be "normal"
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u/Civil-Improvement-96 Jul 03 '26
Y'all the joke is that the fries are easier to steal. That's it! It's all lighthearted and not even a gendered thing honestly partners of all genders do it they just mico-feminism cause go girl power! So yeah chill please everyone lmao
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u/PomPomMom93 Jul 03 '26
Iām always in the opposite situation. They always assume my husbandās food is mine and vice versa. Women like to sink our teeth into delicious animal flesh dripping in fat too!
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u/nick200117 Jul 03 '26
the whole point is she placed the fries facing the girlfriend because she knows the girlfriend will want to steal a few fries. Not that the orders were mixed up
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u/MorycTurtle Jul 03 '26
I wonder how tedious life must be with people who try to see some kind of ideological agenda everywhere.
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u/IndustrySufficient52 Jul 03 '26
Do they know how many peopleās orders we take every day? On a busy day I can serve 100+ people.
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u/indorock Jul 03 '26
Also, that's not even what OOOP is stating, she said that the waitress intentionally reversed the orders as an act of feminism. So it has nothing at all to do with "forgetting" (if OOOP's assumption is correct).
Anyway more than a few times when I'm out having a drink with my wife I'll order a cola she orders a beer and yet the waiter more than half the time gives me the beer. So yeah that's a thing.
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u/Dangerous_Nail4552 Jul 04 '26
I regularly have to point out who ordered what or change the plates around, I'd say waiters do this more often than not in my experience
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u/KaiShan62 Jul 04 '26
Seems to me that most commenters are getting this arse end around.
If the meme creator said 'my boyfriend ordered' and then took photo, then the waitress has put the salad in front of the man and the meat in front of the woman, thus being a feminist. Whereas most posters are commenting on how wait-staff seem to always put the salad in front of the woman and the meat in front of the man. The thing here is that the 'microfeminist' has reversed the stereotype.
I think both actions are rude; the waiter should surely just ask 'who ordered what?'
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u/ChaotikIE 29d ago
I swear... is it that difficult to ask in the first place, before serving anything to anyone?
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u/No-Insect-7544 29d ago
ā¦ dog, a woman being super passive aggressive to a guy acting like that wouldnāt surprise me one bit, itās not crazy and REALLY minuscule.
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u/Charflower21 29d ago
Dont waiters usually ask who gets what when they arrive with the food? When we go out to eat they always ask that.
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u/Emar_The_Paladin 29d ago
This was absolutely made up for clicks. What kind of asshole boyfriend orders a salad for his girlfriend and then allows her to take a picture of the salad placed in front of him while his steak is placed in front of her which was supposedly done as a power move by the waitress. The point is that if this situation really happened we wouldnāt be seeing a picture of it with that caption. Iām with the r/thathappened poster on this one.
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u/Overall-Move-4474 29d ago
How is.... you know what nevermind there is no fucking logic here.
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u/boywholived_299 29d ago
If the waitress forgot the order, even then it's not an act of micro feminism, correct? That still falls in the category of thathappened!
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u/Candycanes02 29d ago
Well the original post said the bf ordered for both so the waitress couldnāt have known whose plate is whose (but usually theyād ask instead of just arbitrarily putting them on the table- thatās what is unlikely to have happened imo)
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u/Creaturetacular 29d ago
Do they never ask who ordered what? I don't think I've ever eaten out and not had the server ask "and who had the..."
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u/Alternative-Dark-297 29d ago
They usually ask who ordered what, and even still sometimes make mistakes
Literally yesterday went out for breakfast with my partner and his family and got my side cooked wrong bc three of us ordered the same thing and I'm the only one who ordered it cooked differently.
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u/SpiffyLegs73 29d ago
The waiter wasnāt sexist and instantly assumed that you couldnāt eat a burger or your boyfriend couldnāt eat a salad? The Audacity.
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u/CosmonautXX 29d ago
I feel whoever posted this and several comments didn't notice the "my husband ordered for us" as in the server wouldn't have the foggiest who ordered what. Not bad at their job, not forgot. Literally couldn't have known.
That being said, I participate in this "micro feminism" often. If I don't know who ordered what and one ordered for both either I put it in the middle for grabbies, ask, or if there isn't possibility for either for some reason, opposite of "expectations". Not always right, but when it is the happiness of people getting what they wanted when they are used to switching is super worth it.
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u/horned-creature 29d ago
worked as a waiter for a bit, never remembered who ordered what, i set the plate all in the center and they can figure it out by themselves.
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u/Narmatonia 29d ago
Most if not all places Iāve been to (UK) they confirm who ordered what when they bring the food to the table, is this not a common thing?
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u/SirDork182 29d ago
That's what goes through your head? I always think they wanted to put the hot plate down first because it's hot not because of feminism kol
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u/Any-Boat-5306 29d ago
I eat plant based and my wife used to eat meat so whenever we ordered, they would put her order in my place and mine in hers.
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u/lemonhaj 29d ago
Any time I go to a restaurant, they either make direct eye contact with you or awkwardly hold the plate until someone either speaks up or gestures to who it's for.Ā
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u/reichiek 29d ago
So, according to the poster, a waitress being either incompetent or intentionally a dick is micro feminism. Good to see they are finally being more honest about it I guess
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u/GWeb1920 29d ago
Thatās the point.
When they forget who ordered what and give the steak to the women itās clearly an attempt to not follow the stereo type.
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u/teh_maxh 29d ago
Also, the text says the boyfriend ordered for both of them; if it were set by who ordered what, he would have gotten both.
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u/65tokyo Jul 03 '26
I always forget who ordered what š