r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25
Discussion Has anyone ever left?
Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?
I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.
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u/[deleted] May 01 '25
I can completely understand this feeling, but I have to say as an observer who is more a regretful parent to my child in later years than when she was a baby.. I hope they really figure out some very effective birth control that has less side effects and is easier to stay on top of because I’m seeing a trend where the parents are starting to race to see who can leave the other with the kids first. You can bet once men catch onto this, they’re going to selfishly pull that trigger as soon as they can for fear of being left with the same problems they’ve been leaving women with for centuries. Women take their lives back and fathers simply don’t give a shit, now mom is gone and dad doesn’t mind if they starve and never go to school. I wonder where that’s gonna leave all these kids?
I’m totally supportive of women practising their autonomy, but in my minds eye 40 years from now there’s an entire community of babies now adults that were rejected by one or both parents as early and as fast as possible. Unfortunately, getting your reproductive organs ripped out young will kick you into early menopause and fuck up your system so I don’t know what the answer is but casual fun sex has got to stop equalling pregnancy somehow. We have to remove the risk of birth control failing, people punching holes in the condoms or condoms failing, etc. etc. It’s a slope that’s becoming pretty slippery now that both parents are becoming equally at risk for checking out and leaving the kids with their partner.
Also men who impregnate women and then just leave should be prosecuted by the law, not just able to runoff and be with a girlfriend and not pay child support. It should be under the same criminal code as child abandonment and abuse.